Would you *ever* give up your ideal dreams/future/career for your perfect partner?

That's not the point. What I'm trying to say is that there are so many different options when it comes to having a family, it is limitless the joy they can potentially give you. Once you have fulfilled your career and gotten to where you want to be, what next? This is only my opinion, for some people a career would be their most fulfillling thing and would keep them happy, for me, I know to be happy and in love with my perfect partner would greatly outweigh that.

Perfect Future.

But if it meant, perfect future and no partner..Id go for my perfect partner first, then work to get a future?

Dunno....Got me thinking now :/

Id choose my partner.

haha i love how you phrased this question so all the smart a$ TSRs cant try to say wimpy stuff like
"my true partner would share my dreams with me"
"happiness is my goal and so my dream is a combination/compromise of both"

im 25 and have seen loads of girls at uni with good degrees who were aspiring doctors, barristers, etc give up and take cr@p jobs that dont need a degree, like working in shops or personal training/gym cleaning, just so they can move closer to their current bf and plan their life around spending the most time with him. Also pushing toward 30, the majority of women turn marriage and baby crazy and that is their all absorbing goal in life

Onve you have family, generally you are supposed to have some people who cares abouty oua nd will always be by your side. You send your kids to go to school and watch them grow up and achieve good results in exams. You will encourage your kid to do whatever he wants to do (only good things, of course). Once you get older and older they come round and visit you, bring in your grandchildren who will run around in the house and make you laugh. When you get really old, you have a big family, you get to live to tell the tales to your grandchildren about when you were young and what you experience in your whole life. (You can live that long if you choose career, too )

When you die, at your funeral people (your grandchildrens, your sons/daugthers and your husband etc.) will gather around your coffin and cry for your leaving.

That, for me, is happiness. I love it when everytime I come home I can feel the warmth of family.

You don't know that. If you age is truely just 15/16 years old, you probably have not got to work yet.

At some point in your life, you will need someone. You will love him and will want to spend time with him.

For this question, in reality people will try to keep both. Perfect man will often encourage you to do whatever you want e.g. persue your dream. So both can definitely happen at the same time. For me, if I had to choose, I will go for my perfect partner. Because, well, he is perfect and I will probably want to live with him for the whole life.

Definitely give up dreams - there's no point in having it all if you've no one to share it with. It'd be incredibly lonely.

Yeah

It's naive because it's a list of Kodak moments which are often far from the reality. I'm sure my grandmother expected grandchildren running round happily and her children visiting all the time. She got put in the nursing home which my father went to very infrequently. I'm sure my mother expected her children to get good grades. My sister has no GCSEs and lives on the dole. I'm sure she expected a close family visiting each other. I'm 5 hours away and later moving to Brazil.

Don't kid yourself that your kids will do exactly as you imagine because you'll "bring them up" in a certain way. Your kids could end up close to you and have grandchildren "making you laugh." Or they could end up on the dole, move 5 hours away, be childless and never see you. And that is the reality of having children.

Who says they will necessarily graduate, walk down the aisle or have children?

no. if they were perfect they'd support my aspirations and i wouldn't have to sacrifice them after all if i'm going to be working for a good 40 or so years i want to be happy with my career - what's the point of working just for the sake of earining money?

But what if you were in an accident whilst biking and you couldn't do it anymore. Then you're left with nothing.

(Clearly I hope you don't have an accident)

Why?

I know it is none of my business to talk about your family, but my mum, for one, will be one of the most happiest grandmother in the world.

No, you can't do that.

And realising that every day, I could've done something, I could've worked for my goals, I could've made my dreams happen...

And? I couldn't give a **** if no one came to my funeral; or even if I were thrown onto a skip. I'm dead, I really wouldn't care.

For me it isn't.

Bring in the age card.
Then I got sense and realised "**** that, I have one shot in life, I'll do what I want".

Does it happen for everyone?

This question is worded to see what you would pick if you HAD to choose one or the other.

She had Alzheimers, couldn't remember who her family even were and died. So I think the chances of offending her are slim.

Would you still give up all that for your perfect partner?

How prepared are you to give up for "love"?

Oh poor her. I hope I don't have that when I get older. I am sorry to hear that.

What if you married your perfect girl and she died the next day?