Hey, this may be a bit of a long post, but I'll try to keep it as short as possible. Any advice on how to deal with this is appreciated
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and at times it's been difficult. I've been diagnosed with an illness that has no cure, though I won't die from it, and we're a long distance couple, which has really taken its toll. My boyfriend goes to university in October and at the most he'll be 2 hours away from me, much better than the current 7 hours by car.
The problem is, over the past few weeks he's been very distant and has been hurting me a lot. He's been rude, given me a list of demands on how we need to change our phone call situation, has told me I'm not relaxing to talk to and has really hurt me. His parents have said I was obsessive and needy, and as soon as they said this he agreed with them, even though he's never given any hint of this before, nor needing phone call changes. That's fine, and I've compromised a lot to give him what he wants, but he's still being distant.
Then yesterday he said that he couldn't promise me he's not going to find someone else, which is fair enough, but he did it in a way that made it seem like he wasn't promising not to cheat on me. He refuses to answer anything about our future, such as if he thinks we'll stay together, and has now basically told me that, contrary to what he's been saying for the past year, I might not be his true love and since I'm his first real girlfriend he doesn't know who he'll meet in university. He's told me he'd leave me for a girl who has more similar morals and priorities to his than mine are (he's focused on a job, I'm focused on a family). I felt hurt because boyfriends shouldn't be saying that to their girlfriend, should they?
I've had to make a lot of compromises for him over the year and I just feel like he's not treating me the way he should be. I know he's stressed and probably scared about university but I don't think there's any need to behave like this. It feels like he's either trying to break it off ever so slowly with me or make me hate him so much that I do it for him! He said he doesn't want to break up with me and I definitely don't want to break up with him because I love him, but I haven't got a clue how to handle this situation.
Any advice would be really helpful, such as what your partner was like when they were getting ready for university or how you got through difficult situations.