gf loves me, but thought of someone else ...?

my gf loves me but admitted she liked someone else for a few days, but her feelings remained for me.

and now she feels awful and says she doesnt deserve me.

what should i do? how can i help her? and is that normal?

Dump.

Dump her and let her have get with the guy she likes. Maybe it'll work out and maybe it won't. I was in the same situation with my ex boyfriend. Should've dumped him, but in the end he cheated and left me for her.

my gf loves me but admitted she liked someone else for a few days, but her feelings remained for me.

and now she feels awful and says she doesnt deserve me.

what should i do? how can i help her? and is that normal?

No that isn't normal, its a bit harsh and you should be glad she feels bad, because at least she regrets it... in what way have you treated her badly?

You just need to ask yourself if you can carry on with the relationship knowing that she liked someone else while she supposedly loved you!

If you were pushing her away she probably felt neglected and then 'turned' to someone else, but if she admitted itm told you the truth and is sorry then surely dumping her isn't the way to go? It's normal for everyone to wonder now and then, the only difference is when they become obsessive and act on it. If you want to forgive her, then forgive her... but make sure you just talk everything out - tell her you're upset/why you pushed her away etc. Don't raise any voices... talking works and you'll feel closer and a lot better after. Also you can't forgive her for it and then bring it up in any future arguments... if you think it'll always be 'there' and be a problem, put both of you out of your misery and end it.

If you were pushing her away she probably felt neglected and then 'turned' to someone else, but if she admitted it told you the truth and is sorry then surely dumping her isn't the way to go? At least she was honest - if it was in her head then noone would ever have found out but at least she had the decency to own up - she obviously cares a lot for you. It's normal for everyone to wonder now and then, the only difference is when they become obsessive and act on it. If you want to forgive her, then forgive her... but make sure you just talk everything out - tell her you're upset/why you pushed her away etc. Don't raise any voices... talking works and you'll feel closer and a lot better after. Also if you decide to forgive her for it, then you can't bring it up in any future arguments... if you think it'll always be 'there' and be a problem, put both of you out of your misery and end it.

i would make a big deal out of any argument and then 'attack' her (not physically) and i would make it seem as if it was always her fault.

she didnt act on it though.

I'm forever making a big deal out of arguments but my boyfriend doesn't go after other girls! Yeh fair enough she didn't act on it, but doesn't it hurt you knowing, that for those few days, she wanted someone else instead?

Exactly what happened to me