Sorry for the length of this post, I'm trying to set out my thoughts. Summary of post at bottom.
Basically, I've been with my boyfriend about a year. We get on fantastically and most of the time everythings pretty damn brilliany. His job means he can only usually come home at weekends, so I tend to see him at least one day over the weekend, although as I am currently unemployed and money is tight I will quite often spend the weekend at his and see him around what he's doing, going out with mates, football etc. This has worked perfectly in the past year or so, but I have found that since graduating/becoming unemployed I have started to look forward more and more to the weekends, because I have to day I'm not doing a lot else at the moment; I can't afford to get out much/most of my time during the week is spent volunteering/with housemates, who although are lovely, I don't have a great deal in common with - I moved about two hours from my hometown where mot of my friends are still based.He doesn't really hang out with my mates (he likes his guy time to be just that, this is his first 'real' relationship and as such likes to keep it separate from his (mainly single) group of mates, in a lot of ways he is very 'shy' about relationships. He has stated in the past that he is not keen on a few of my friends, which makes group socializing difficult.
This week, my boyfriend was back all week. I spent the beginning of the week with him as I was free, then spent the rest of the week doing my own thing. I would have been happy to leave it at that, as I really try not to monopolize his time, (being aware that I have a lot more of it than him!) and that a lot of his mates are single so he wants to spend time doing stuff that doesn't involve the mrs. However he contacted me and asked if he could come and see me at the weekend because after that he was going to be away for three weeks. To cut a long story short, he ended up ringing me at the very last minute, very hungover, basically saying he wanted to go out drinking with mates instead, because he didn't want to trek over to mine.
Now comes the bit where, clearly, I seem to have read this in a totally different way to him. I was slightly put out by the fact that, as I saw it, it was him that had made plans with me, despite me not wanting to 'monopolize' his time, yet on the one occasion that he had to make the journey to me, when he'd been out the night before and also planned to go out on saturday, and despite knowing he wouldn't see me for three weeks after this, he cancelled on me. To be fair, I did raise the issue of feeling like I make more effort and he was apologetic, saying that he knew he didnt make effort the other way round, but that a number of factors ( I have often come to his before and seemed happy with it, he lives at home so enjoys 'luxuries' like sky and a well-stocked fridge that are notably absent at my student house) made him overlook it. However I can't help - irrationally I know) being a bit sad about it.
I am well aware that my life, at present, is a lot less 'full' than his; he has a full time job, lives at home in a village with all his friends, has lots of outside activities, whilst I am essentially a skint volunteer who spends all my time jobhunting or talking about jobhunting, living away from most of my friends, and having little money to socialize. I guess I'm just voicing my fear that either (a) this imbalance is starting to negatively affect our relationship in the sense that I'm relying on him far too much, or (b) that compared to his life mine seems really dull, and that he is starting to lose interest in me as a result. I guess I'm just looking for advice on how to handle it. Normally he is as excited to see me as I am to see him, but recently I have kinda noticed a lack of interest in sex, plus a decline in him doing the things that he'd 'usually' do; drunkenly come round after a night out with the boys. The time we do spend together, we don't really do anything, although i'm aware that my financial situation doesnt allow for much, and I dont like the idea of him paying for me.
Really sorry about the long post guys, I appreciate you taking the time to read it.
tl;dr - I'm unemployed and 'boring' - sociable, busy boyfriend, worried that he'll get bored. Worried that I'm relying on him too much.