My BF is uptight in bed and disgusted by my lady juices

Maybe he just isn't into the whole trying-too-hard thing?
You've set the bar high, and he now knows he can get pretty much anything off you if he did want it.
Just talk to him about it, it all depends on preference. I know that my boyfriend wouldn't personally be interested in most of the things you mentioned, he just finds them a little tacky.
ASK HIM.

OP I think there could be better understanding from both sides. He isnt opening up as to whats wrong with him, if he doesnt talk to you you can't know. But what I think is the problem is that... well.. do you view sex as 'making love' or 'sex' ? He might want to have you cuddled next to him in a big jumper, no make up, no fancy underwear.. just you.. and have meaningful sex that wasn't expected..

Walter Ego, I think I like you as a friend

I'm done being anonymous, it takes too long for mods to let it go up.
Anyone who has replied in the last hour or so, I made a post a couple of hours ago that has only just appeared, a little bit higher up.

Hippieglitter, I have tried doing exactly what you said, in fact in those exact same words. I said 'why don't you want me?' he said 'I do want you' and I said 'well why don't you [insert any 4 lettered word meaning 'have sex with'] me?' and that's when he came up with the reasons like sometimes it's just not a good time to/he can't be bothered sometimes/would rather do it later at night. I demanded answers straight up, and I didn't get them. What I did get was a very upset boyfriend who thought it was unfair I was having a go at him, and it affected his confidence quite a lot. Woops.

Tsukuyomi, I have also done exactly this. He plays along for a while then loses interest, and doesn't actually do me.

To everyone who has said things like 'marry me!' and 'you sound fantastic', thank you for the support/invitation. Hehehe. It is quite nice to hear that people would appreciate me. But is it also slightly wrong that I have been a teensy bit tempted to PM people back, even just jokingly?

Reading through this thread again... And it just seems surreal. This woman seems perfect on paper- anal, lap-dancing, lingerie, porn fantasies, etc; and she's being wasted away! Oh, the humanity...

Reading through this thread again... And it just seems surreal. This woman seems perfect on paper- anal, lap-dancing, lingerie, porn fantasies, etc; and she's being wasted away! Oh, the humanity...

This.

Probs doesn't fancy you as much anymore.

Ok, you seem to have tried everything I could suggest. Tbh honey, He seems too be very defensive. Personally I wouldn't call you shallow for breaking up with him over sex, because having got this far I don't think it is solely about sex anymore.

He has been mean, hurtful, unfair and if he wants to talk about self esteem just think what he's doing to yours? All this rejection can hardly be good for you. Sex is a huge part of any relationship unless you are hard core religious and if he is not going to a) **** your brains out when you want him to or b) try and make you feel even a little bit good about yourself he is very bad boyfriend and doesn't deserve you or anyone else.

Think about all these guys replying, you could find any number of guys like that, a guy who would appreciate all the effort your making, a guy who could satisfy you and then some. Just think about what you are missing out on by staying with this pathetic little ****.

That's quite nice to hear hehe. Thank you for the boost! I don't think I'm perfect on paper to everyone though. I'm just open-minded about sex. Perfect suggests I'd be to everyone's taste, but I think that's far from the case. Some people on this thread said they think what I've tried is a bit tacky and they/their boyfriends wouldn't be into any of it at all.

Why are men not allowed to not want sex? Grow up.