My ex's birthday

^^^ this i dont see why it was negged. if you a)remeber your ex birthday b) contact him and c) wish him happy birthday you are essentially saying a) i think of you and remember the date of your birthday and am thinkin of you today, i havent moved on properly b) i want to contact you, mr ex, and maybe get it on or at least forgive you for what you did c) you are contacting him, therefore he has power over you and where things go.

seeing as OP said:



then keep your care to yourself. m@sterbate over his FB pics if yu must but definately DO NOT CONTACT HIM!!!



out of interest, what makes you say this? if an ex contacted you to wish you happy b day out of the blue, wouldnt you think it was nice? i dont think the OP should, but i was thinking of doing the same for my ex. why is it weird?

Don't make contact with him. For one it's a bit creepy when you haven't been in regular contact, and two he will think it's all okay between you two now.

For me personally an ex is in the past for a reason, and if we had both moved on I wouldn't expect there to be any further contact, I guess it would open old wounds for me. I'd be creeped out at them randomly wishing me happy birthday in the same way I would someone who I haven't spoken to in years, except with the ex it would be tinged with a bit more of 'that's strange'. I guess it depends whether you broke up on good or bad terms, mine was bad lol

This.

I don't understand why someone negged you for this?

mines was bad too. i guess it is kinda stalker-ish, but i do still fancy mines and do FB stalk him


i dont see how your post got negged either

Me either, I guess you can't please everyone

Yeah, mine ended badly and I don't have any feelings for him anymore but if he got in touch now to wish me happy birthday after we ended on bad terms I'd be confused and a bit annoyed I guess. Maybe I'm just a moody cow but my ex didn't even do anything wrong and I would be weirded out if he contacted me, let alone if he had done something 'unforgivable' like in the OP.

I think she means they broke up in October, having been together for three years, not that they broke up 3 years ago. Cut her some slack


OP: If they have facebook and a lot of people write on their wall, just write happy birthday
My ex and I broke up in September and his birthday was in January and that's what I did.

oh ahhahahaa ok

yeh but still! come on!!! get out there! screw his ****ty ass for not appreciating you

^^^ this i dont see why it was negged. if you a)remeber your ex birthday b) contact him and c) wish him happy birthday you are essentially saying a) i think of you and remember the date of your birthday and am thinkin of you today, i havent moved on properly b) i want to contact you, mr ex, and maybe get it on or at least forgive you for what you did c) you are contacting him, therefore he has power over you and where things go.

then keep your care to yourself. m@sterbate over his FB pics if yu must but definately DO NOT CONTACT HIM!!!

out of interest, what makes you say this? if an ex contacted you to wish you happy b day out of the blue, wouldnt you think it was nice? i dont think the OP should, but i was thinking of doing the same for my ex. why is it weird?

is coming up, we didn't end on bad terms but then again we haven't really spoken properly since. Broke up in early October after almost 3 years. Should I message him saying happy birthday or just ignore it? He did something pretty unforgivable so I don't want him to think he can just start talking to me again, but still I really care for him

Any advice? Thanks

^^^ this ilf. m@sterbate over his FB pics if yu must

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