Getting Groped in Clubs

Hi, so basically I was wondering about this after reading the BBC's latest news on sexual harrassment. Now, at clubs, girls are grabbed and groped. Fact. But when is it too far? I mean, myself like most girls get the unwanted bum pinches/leers/getting grabbed. However there have been a couple of occassions where I feel it's gone further than that and it just hasn't registered with me, and hasn't shocked me, because it's in a club. If it was anywhere else.. it would be sexual harrassment.

But for example, the other night I was out and a man came up behind me in a club while I was at the bar which was pretty quiet, grabbed a boob in one hand and an ass cheek in the other and pulled me towards him from behind quite aggressively, rubbing his erection onto the ass cheek he wasn't squeezing. This was pretty bad. I've had other similar experiences and just wondered, how do you react? Do you think it's okay because it's in a club? Why are me and my friends so desensitized to this?

Guys have their asses pinched/groped as well. They just laugh it off. I don't see why its so different the other way round. The amount of mates of mine that have had shirts ripped open/ taken off and stolen too, normally meaning they have to walk home topless.

Point is its not just men that act this way, occupational hazard of people who are very drunk I guess.

Saying that theres definitely a line to be crossed though.

I was in NB's once and this sleazy guy grabbed me from behind and started touching my stomach and then moved his hand towards my crotch :O Needless to say, I made a quick escape!

Guys have their asses pinched/groped as well. They just laugh it off. I don't see why its so different the other way round. The amount of mates of mine that have had shirts ripped open/ taken off and stolen too, normally meaning they have to walk home topless.

Point is its not just men that act this way, occupational hazard of people who are very drunk I guess.

Saying that theres definitely a line to be crossed though.

Warning - I'm going to generalise quite a bit in this post!

I suppose it's because (in general) women are more easily overpowered by men and so the groping is linked with a fear that it will go further. Women are far far far far more likely to get raped by a man than men are by women.

As a girl, if I'm walking alone at night (even at like 7pm) I constantly have to watch over my shoulder. I've had men follow me and grope me, and a big group of guys surround me and make vulgar gestures (although luckily they didn't touch me), for them it's just a laugh but it really is terrifying!

My friend was even groped and almost dragged down an alley by a druggie, in broad daylight! Obviously not all of these men were potential rapists and it's unlikely most of these incidents would have gone much further than a grope or whatever, but the fear is there and you know you're pretty much powerless to fight them off. It's more common than you might think.

Sorry i seem to have digressed. oh well. My point is, for women there's more fear attached to unwanted groping than men. men are unlikely to think they're going to be followed/raped when going home after being groped by a woman in a club than women are. I'm probably generalising and being sexist at the same time, so sorry about that.

Girls should be able to go out to clubs and not be groped by random creepy guys. Wearing a short/low cut dress isn't an invitation to be touched by strangers. Being drunk isn't an invitation to be touched by strangers.

Guys saying that girls grab their ass etc, it's a whole different ballpark. The girls who grab your ass couldn't physically overpower you and go further if they wanted to.

I understand most guys are harmless and they're just messing about but it's the ones that physically grab onto you that are scary.