Hi... thank you so much for writing this thread. I just wanted to say you are not alone. I feel exactly the same way. I don't want a sex change or anything like that. But I really dont get gender at all lol... it seems like some sort of drag act (to me anyway). I really wish gender didn't have to be such a huge part of things. If I could offer you one thing it would be, in all life "things are neither bad nor good... it is our thinking about them which makes it so." In other words, it is us who give meaning to things/acts, not the actual things/acts themselves. Personally, I have never understood why gender is made such a big deal of... seems to me that it's society who gives it the most meaning. So really, you are not so different just because you don't feel like a woman. I don't either.
p.s. if you want/need to talk about this more I am more than willing to talk as I'm going through a very similar thing myself.