So horny!

Do him a favour and leave him before you cheat on him because you're bored of him and some exciting bad boy comes along.

I wouldn't cheat on him.

It seems like "dumping" is always the best thing to do in any H&R thread, but this is the person I want to marry. I'm not going to dump him over stupid things, ffs.

This isn't 1758... the OP can have sex if she wants...

No, don't dump him. It sounds like your relationship has got into a rut, which is a very common thing and something that I can identify with. If you love him and want to be with him, then you might have to take the lead here, especially if you feel that his self esteem is low and you need to be the one to make the first move.

I've been in a relationship where every night seemed to be the same, and it was similar because although my ex had quite a high sex drive, I just stopped fancying her. Its a long story, but it happens.

If your bf is reluctant to make the first move because he worries about rejection, then the answer is to boost his self esteem and let him know that he won't get rejected (unless he waits til you're in bed at midnight and you're knackered!).

One evening, get home before him, dim the lights and get the candles and incense and some soft music on, put on your sexiest outfit complete with sexy lingerie, and seduce him to within an inch of his life, starting from the minute he gets in the door! A glass of wine or two will help things along a bit.

I guarantee that it will blow his mind, give his self esteem a massive boost and you'll have an amazing evening of sex all around the house! What have you got to lose....?!

But I love him, it's just that our sex life is less than exciting at the minute. When he comes home at night it's straight to the TV or Xbox, dinner, more of the same and then bed at night. And I don't want to do anything sexual when I'm tired.

Every time I advance him during the evening, he will go with it, but I have suggested to him that I want to be the one "seduced" and he refuses to start anything in case I say no. This is probably due to his low self-esteem.

If anyone hasn't noticed yet, I am not looking for a way to have sex with some random person, it's just that I have strangers on my mind when I'm horny and I really really hate this and I want to make it go away! So no, I do not want to skype with that other person

Okay I understand. Kinda. Just don't act on your feelings if he has low self esteem as it is... ^^ afraid the only way to sort this is talk to him

OP, you need to do this.
Unfortunately, relationships (well, "good" ones at least) involve honesty and communication to overcome problems.


P.S Elf, your sig is my tip for life!

Long story short, I want sex. With a stranger. I have a boyfriend.

How do I make these thoughts go away

(I'm being completely serious, maybe it's the fact that it's a long-term relationship; I seem to be bored with my partner and I'm longing for some variety, but obviously I shouldn't!)

Aw, thanks for that We've been together quite a few years and I don't think everyone can sympathise with me because well... They say the 4th year is the worst don't they? And maybe that's true. I just want to work the relationship and not throw away everything because right now I'm not feeling the vibe...
Well, I'll try the candle bit and just hope I won't set the house on fire Thanks!