I want to go clubbing, but I have no one to go with

I live in S.E London also. I've never gone clubbing solo, but I'd hardly blink twice if I saw someone out on their own. I'm always making friends with strangers. It also depends on what kind of scene you're into, I suppose. I'm not really into dance. I'd stay away from the typical club scene, you know the Oceanas and Liquids, and dress safe/be smart. If worst comes to worst say you've lost your mates and ask to tag along.

South East London

Well not really since I come to London on quite a regular basis! Infact, I'm going to go see Armin Van Buuren in a month's time at the Brixton Academy. If it's someone I like then distance doesn't matter (within reason). For trance, I've been to Edinburgh, Birmingham, Nottingham, London, Utrecht (NL) and Stratford (Global Gathering).

I'm 19 and I've never been clubbing before. I would like to, but I've somehow managed to drift away from most of my old friends from school, and I don't really hang round with them much anymore. And the ones I've asked to go clubbing with, they always have some excuse like they have no money or something. I think maybe they're just boring though. Like, how much can it cost to go just once at least?

What else can I do? I am a loner who often goes places on my own, which I don't mind too much normally but I'm not sure it's very safe to go clubbing by myself? Help!

By the way I'm not at uni and I don't plan to go, at least not any time soon.

Anon as this is a little embarrassing.

No I don't work. I would like to, but I am very much struggling to find a job. I do go to college though, but I'm not really that close to anyone there.

Chilling in a bar with friends > Clubbing.

I hate almost everything about clubbing, the only thing I enjoy is spending time with friends, I would much rather chill in a bar with them and be able to converse. Bar wins every time.

Just wondered why you want to go clubbing, is it to try and pull?

Do you have any cousins or family members you could go with? Work friends? Or get a hobby so you can make friends?

Well, try talking to people more at college, im sure you will get closer to someone

Well as a female ...... it is advisable to think of personal safety. It may be safe to go clubbing alone.

http://rds.homeoffice.gov.uk/rds/pdfs2/r194.pdf

http://www.suzylamplugh.org/personal-safety/personal-safety-tips/

http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/streetsmarts/bb/blclubscene.htm

A funny yet informative video on how not to get mugged:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZFHN2Dk4gPQ


Hope this helps. Have fun. Leave your heart but not your head on the dancefloor

For gods sake you do not need to read a bunch of links advising you on what to do when you go out clubbing

OP, you may find it a bit awkward at first being on your own, but have a few drinks and it's so easy to chat to people! Especially as you're a girl haha. Just go and have fun!

Depends on the club but usually a big open space rammed with people, flashing lights, loud music and blured vision (due to drink)

this is where i go a lot: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1i4VtXl2e7g&feature=channel_video_title

^ sums it up lol

If you're into this kind of clubbing then I'll join you



For my kind of clubbing it is definitely not all about getting ridiculously drunk!!! It's all about the MUSIC, dancing and singing to the lovely tunes as you can see in this video!!!!

I re-read your posts and it seems like it's more a just for the experience kind of thing, and to hear the music, rather than actually get into a particular group or scene, so ignore my massive spoilered ramblings, basically just the key to how I somehow or other ended up being on speaking terms with about 5 people the whole way through secondary school and then suddenly meeting about 40 people in two months of going out in London. For you though, sounds best to just stick to the old drinking and tipsy-conversationing.

(or spot the drug users and wait until you can see them peaking and excitedly saying 'lets go and talk to everyone in the room and make friends with them all!'. the downside is that they will probably not want to make any kind of sane conversation, except to repeat how pretty/shiny you are/how nice your hair smells/how mindblowing the visuals are)

Although it sounds like you know what you are talking about (and I know the funk place you are talking about) I dont think many people outside the "trendy" fashion/art scene would really enjoy what you are describing in the spoiler - those people are the definition of posers - they think very highly of themselves and their friends and very lowly of everyone else.

My fav song! Its hard enough to find people who like Trance at uni...would've joined u if I wasnt living in the middle of nowhere that I currently do

I feel sorry for all those baby seals.