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Any girl here that would wait forever for a guy to make the first move?

If you liked a guy, would you wait for him to make that first move, even if you liked him a lot but weren't even sure if he liked you?

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kat2pult
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Sometimes a move can be made that will make you think that the relationship is progressing without anything ever being said, ie, if you both arrange a time to see each other regularly, you go out to dinner, to the cinema, say you enjoy your time together to each other, etc. In such situations, I would verbally progress the relationship, I don't think it should be solely up to the guy, but I'd like confirmation that the relationship is one that can be progressed and not just my imagination.
Yes, i waited for him to make the first move. =D It's simple really. It takes guts to ask someone out. By asking me out i know that he has confidence - SCRATCH THAT IT JUST SHOWS HE KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS!

Of course there's nothing wrong with being forward and asking the guy first.....i'm just a traditionalist and a wee bit of scaredy-cat :P

EDIT: i understand all the neg rep but jeez don't u want ur woman to have a bit of mystery!?!?!?!
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Anyone who thinks that anything in a relationship should be solely up to a male or solely up to a female should be shot (giving birth is excluded from this rule) :colonhash:
Waiting for someone forever isnt really possible...because eventually you get over them, or someone else comes along and you're feelings change...so just because you didnt make a move then..it doesnt always mean you're still waiting :smile:

I met someone nice and had a deep conversation with them which was strange because I'd only just met them.....you'd think he'd leave me some form of contact apart from just his first name:rolleyes: I would've asked but he mentioned he was busy with uni assessments until the end of april..so i guess it would've been rude if i did :/ because when i do meet someone new that i like...i usually talk too much..and yeah i would be a distraction:tongue:

Probably best that I didnt ask,...and I doubt ill still want it in a month's time from now.
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Original post by Star_struck
Yes, i waited for him to make the first move. =D It's simple really. It takes guts to ask someone out. By asking me out i know that he has confidence, is interested in me in the first place, and can make decisions for himself!


so because you wouldn;t make the first move... this makes you uninterested, incapable of making decisions for yourself and unconfident...? wow... femenists must LOVE you :biggrin:
I'm lazy, I always allow the girl to make the first move. Seeing as women want equal rights, I'll let them open the door for me for once. :smile:
Original post by Drunk Punx
Anyone who thinks that anything in a relationship should be solely up to a male or solely up to a female should be shot (giving birth is excluded from this rule) :colonhash:


Not sure I would go quite that far, but I do agree that nothing should be left to one person in a relationship :smile: However, I am a bit of a romantic and will wait for the guy to make his move :wink:
Original post by steve collins
so because you wouldn;t make the first move... this makes you uninterested, incapable of making decisions for yourself and unconfident...? wow... femenists must LOVE you :biggrin:


aha no no feminists are backwards people remember............so it shows that i have better things to do than chasing guys :cool:
If I am "waiting" for him to make the first move, then surely I have reasons to think he likes me. In which case I will eventually step up if he's taking too long.
But if he's so concealed that I wouldn't for a second imagine he has some feelings for me, I won't bother waiting at all, let alone forever. Even if I really like him. Might come across as pretty vain but the truth is I'm only looking after myself. And after the guy, actually. Why bore him if I know he just doesn't feel the same way? That will only make us both uncomfortable.

PS I don't generally like the idea of a formal "first move" though. I believe there are supposed to be tiny little steps on both sides instead. Although that could hardly ever happen.
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howabout
If I am "waiting" for him to make the first move, then surely I have reasons to think he likes me. In which case I will eventually step up if he's taking too long.
But if he's so concealed that I wouldn't for a second imagine he has some feelings for me, I won't bother waiting at all, let alone forever. Even if I really like him. Might come across as pretty vain but the truth is I'm only looking after myself. And after the guy, actually. Why bore him if I know he just doesn't feel the same way? That will only make us both uncomfortable.

PS I don't generally like the idea of a formal "first move" though. I believe there are supposed to be tiny little steps on both sides instead. Although that could hardly ever happen.
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Original post by Maishpotatoes
It's the guy's job to make the first move but if he didn't I would move on!


Would you at least hint that you like him?
Original post by qwerty_mad
If you liked a guy, would you wait for him to make that first move, even if you liked him a lot but weren't even sure if he liked you?


Yes, I am currently waiting at the minute... :colondollar: I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship, but it is hard... :redface:
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lilywolf
Nope. If they're worth it then I'll just take the lead... and if it doesn't work out then at least I know... I don't chase anyone for **** :wink:
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Sashari
No I wouldn't wait forever, unless for some reason I was not convinced he is interested or if he wasn't available to me (i.e dated my friend in the past/just split up with his girlfriend)
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Original post by proud nd luvin it
Yes, I am currently waiting at the minute... :colondollar: I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship, but it is hard... :redface:


How long you been waiting? Do you think he likes you?
Original post by qwerty_mad
How long you been waiting? Do you think he likes you?


Well I have known him for ages, he's kind of like my best mate :colondollar: everyone says we should go out, we have loads of stuff in common... but he's not exactly forward with his feelings :tongue:
if only we could read their minds, eh? :biggrin:
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Original post by proud nd luvin it
Well I have known him for ages, he's kind of like my best mate :colondollar: everyone says we should go out, we have loads of stuff in common... but he's not exactly forward with his feelings :tongue:
if only we could read their minds, eh? :biggrin:


Do you really think you have loads in common or just think that is because you like this guy? Sometimes I think that's the case with me, you see.

Being able to read their minds mean there would be no saga. :tongue:
Original post by Drunk Punx
Anyone who thinks that anything in a relationship should be solely up to a male or solely up to a female should be shot (giving birth is excluded from this rule) :colonhash:


What about hoovering?
Original post by JayTeeKay
What about hoovering?


Guys can do that if there's nothing on the tv :h:

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