Girls and boys who have stayed with their partners after cheating incurred pregnancy.

Basically my story is, my bf went on a night out a few months ago and about few weeks ago I found out that he had cheated on me that night with a random girl. She had got in contact with him saying she was pregnant. She's got rid of it now but obviously I know if she kept it things would be even more complicated.

However, I would just like to hear some stories from other people i.e. boys who have got other girls pregnant, boys who's gf's cheated and got pregnant, girls who cheated and got pregnant or girls who's bf's got another girl pregnant. Preferably if the girl got rid of it as that relates to my story but either way I'd like to hear)

I don't want any stupid answers like break up with him etc thats not what I'm asking. I would just like to hear any stories from people who have stayed with their bf/gf after having gone through this. As in why did you stay together, how did you make it work and is it still working etc?

Thanks.

He made a mistake OP. Forgive him. I'm sure he isn't going to cheat on you anymore and he did tell you.

I got a friend who was in a similar situation as you. They worked it out and are now happily married. So give it another chance.

Exactly! And he wasn't only stupid, he was also a bastard for not thinking that unprotected sex meant that if he got something he would also give it to his actual gf! That's the point I kept making when a similar thing happened to a friend of mine! The idiot still took him back!

Well, I suppose I could cope with being a stepo figure in the childs life, weekends and such maybe. But I certainley couldn't be a real parent to it.

I don't know if it's a distinctly male point of view I have. POlease tell me if it is. But Assuming I was a woman, I don't think it would be such a big deal if my partner got another woman pregnant and she kept it. After all, the child is far removed from my everyday life. But to have to raise another man's child as your own day in day out would be, unacceptable to me. In that sense. That's not to say I wouldn;t raise them if I was going into a relationship with eyes open.



But then, the whole point is moot for me I really don;t like children, and wouldn't go near them, or anyone with them in tow

Hey I have been through the same thing only the baby was kept, my boyfirned said it was a drunken mistake and he told me the day after sleeping with her so I obviously was off with him for a while and thne eventually forgave him, however a few weeks later the girl got in touch and said she was pregnant and that she didnt expect him to be involved but she was keeping it. He told me and I moved out for a while as i needed space, he told me that if i didnt want him to have anythiong to do with the abby thats fine but i couldnt do that so I said I wanted him to do what he thought was right so he see's the kid 2 weekends a month; I resent the mother so much but i also still havent forgivien my boyfriend we are together but i dont live with him atm as I am still to raw to completly forgive him but i do see a future...however i think i ma only with him because he was honest about the cheating and told me straight away as for the pregnancey the girl said she was on the pill...i met her and she admitted she lied to my bf thinking that missing it once wouldnt matter :/ so yeha if you wanan chat i cna pm you? x

Wouldn't you still think it was a big deal that he got someone pregnant in the first place though?

Thank you for this, I live with my bf too and are currently still living together. He also did say to me that if she kept it he wouldn't expect me to want to have anything to do with the baby. They both knew that being in uni having no money etc a baby wouldn't be a sensible idea though. I love him so much but I don't know if I could forgive him things like that come with time but I can't see myself without him Yess pm me x

Yes, of course. But it is not so much more than just normal cheating. Which is a big thing obviously.

But to have to raise a child born out of cheating would be far worse in my opinion. I don;t mean to sound chauvanistic or whatever, but that';s just what I think.

Hey so pm me as your anon so yeah i have some more stuff i can talk about but would rather not talk here about it :/ xx

Yes, of course. But it is not so much more than just normal cheating. Which is a big thing obviously.

But to have to raise a child born out of cheating would be far worse in my opinion. I don;t mean to sound chauvanistic or whatever, but that';s just what I think.

Well yes we have been over that aswell:/

Sent, i think not sure if i did it right lol

You did i've replied xx

And yet you are still telling us you ll give the inconsiderate bastard a second chance. Personally I wouldn't even do it if he had just cheated on me, but putting my health at risk so he can have fun one night? This doesn't only show he doesn't care for your feelings, it also shows he has absolutely no respect for you, and probably doesn't give a damn about your health.

Good choice!

Just make sure that if you do move in with your bf eventually and have the kid over (which will happen of course at some point, and when the kid is older I am guessing he/she might want to spend more time with his father than just twice a month) you won't transfer your resentment for the mother (did she know btw that he had a gf? Because if not, it's really not her fault) to the child.

He made a mistake OP. Forgive him. I'm sure he isn't going to cheat on you anymore and he did tell you.

I got a friend who was in a similar situation as you. They worked it out and are now happily married. So give it another chance.

No I haven't said that all, I asked for other peoples experiences I never said what I was doing either way.

You said you are still living with him. Anyway, it's not my business. I couldn't talk my friend out of it, I won't try again.

The funny thing is that a year later this friend of mine actually tells us how stupid a family friend of hers is for staying with her husband for 30 years despite the constant cheating. WTF?

I dunno I didnt really question her about that :/ but yeah...well i won't have much to do with the child as its not mine so yeah