I’ve seen a few posts around here about people struggling with their body image, so I hope someone has some insight into this.
I don’t know what is wrong with me, but I think I’ve got some kind of ‘reverse anorexia’
Over the last 7 months I’ve put on a lot of weight. About a stone, which isn’t loads, but it’s a large percentage of my bodyweight so comparatively it’s a lot.
Most of that weight has gone on my stomach, so now I have a protruding belly, and it’s making me extremely depressed about my image.
Some of it is justified, because I can’t actually fit into any of my jeans and trousers, and it’s visible through tight tops. Furthermore, I managed to stay the same weight throughout uni despite the standard drinking, takeaways and lack of sleep.
But some of it is me being irrational (or so I think). I literally feel disgusted with myself all the time, and the fact that I’m in bad shape is always on my mind. I hate getting undressed because I can feel my belly hanging out, and I always try and breathe in to suck it in lest I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror. I hate having showers for the same reason...because I am more aware of my body. I struggle to do what I’m supposed to be doing in yoga classes because I am too conscious of my belly and I feel like it’s always there. I can’t go into changing rooms to try on clothes because I don’t want to see my reflection.
At the same time, I keep obsessively analyzing every other girl to see if they’re carrying any weight (and feel immediately comforted if they are, but usually they aren’t).
This has also ruined my relationship with my boyfriend because I didn’t want to have sex because I didn’t feel comfortable about myself. I felt like he’d be repulsed with me, and I feel undesirable.
I tried talking about this with him, and a few of my other friends, but everyone thinks I’m being silly because I’m a size 8 (or was) so am technically quite petite. He thought that I didn’t want to have sex with him because I wasn’t attracted to him anymore, and was simply using an excuse ?
However, I am only 5 foot and my BMI is still 'normal', but if I put on another couple of pounds it will be close to 'overweight' . Some people have then said things like ‘oh, if you hadn’t mentioned you've put on weight then I might not have noticed’, which is a little upsetting because even though they’re trying to be nice, they clearly have noticed. Then some others have given banter responses like *roll eyes* yeah you’re FAT lol NOT.
So the solution might simply be to lose the weight. Except I’ve been trying since January, and it’s just not working.
Generally, I eat quite healthily because I cook everything from scratch, and eat lots of fresh fruit and veg.
The problem is I can’t stop comfort eating.
For example, I had a sizeable meal for dinner the other night, and then I ate an entire box of crunchy nut. A lot of the time, after dinner, I need to have something sweet, and if I can’t do anything until I do. I’ll be floundering and unproductive until I eat.
I constantly eat when I’m not hungry, and then feel really guilty about it. I usually stop and recognize that it isn’t a good idea to eat x,y and z but I do it anyway because I won’t be able to stop thinking about whatever food it is. At work I can get stressed and can easily go through a bag of sweets. I often eat my lunch at 10.30/11 because it relaxes me and makes me feel better.
For some reason, I have this massive inertia when it comes to exercise. I usually walk quite a lot everyday, but I know that’s not enough. I keep making grand plans, but it never seems to work out because ultimately I just I don’t have time, and there’s only so many things that I can do to accommodate time for exercise without having to sacrifice other things.
I really don’t know what to do. I’m fed up of feeling so disgusted with myself. It’s sad because I formerly had what I’d consider to be a very nice figure.
Has anyone ever been through a similar thing? I feel really stupid and alone at the moment? And I’m kind of speculating about underlying causes, but I don’t want to open a can of worms.
Should I see a doctor or try and speak to a councillor something?
Please help if you can.