Do you keep in touch or Am I just uptight?

My university life is going to end in less than a 2 months. Please keep anon as they are on here.

I thought about this- I am not going exactly going to keep regular contact. If I see them on a street, and they say "hi". I will respond for civilities. I have no intention on my part certainly to keep contact. I might have them facebook and that is about it. It is similar scenario to my college and high school- I have them on facebook, I do have some of their phone numbers (or use to) but I never kept in contact or even made the effort to. I have been on a few occasion nights out with them. That is about it.
I think that is probably same with my university friends.

My college and highschool friends - there was never a concept of "togetherness".

When I went to university- there is that concept of "togetherness". They want to keep in contact, invite each other to their wedding etc.. To me that is a bit too much.

To me, they are friends and there is that line between me and them. I talk to them cos I have to otherwise I would be a loner.

For me, I don't see a problem, and I am not being uptight.

Reply 1

Iorek

It's always better to known 1 extra friend than be a stranger to an extra person.

You will find once you are out in the working world that contacts and networking gets you places.

Reply 2

Refrigerator

It's a terrible feeling for the person who puts both feet into a relationship, be it sexual or friendly, when the other person just puts one foot in, just consider that

I think you should open up a bit more because you're not likely to make much better friends than those you will have met at university

Reply 3

Jellybean91

Sounds like a lonely life :frown:

So you don't have any friends who you like enough to want to keep in your life?

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Original post by Refrigerator

To me they are close. It makes me feel uncomfortable. They are nice people with some flaws therefore I am very wary.

I find the whole concept of closeness very bizarre.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by Jellybean91

Sounds like a lonely life :frown:

So you don't have any friends who you like enough to want to keep in your life?

I admit I do feel lonely.It gets to me at times. I am human and I do feel quite emotional. I put myself together. I am me.

I find it difficult to let people in. I have known people since I was a kid, and I keep them at a distance behind the line. At times, I have tried to bring them closer, it made me feel very negative. I had to lie and it became quite compulsive. I found I put that line further away.

It is difficult. I would rather put them at a distance than closer...

Reply 6

Refrigerator

Original post by Anonymous

To me they are close. It makes me feel uncomfortable. They are nice people with some flaws therefore I am very wary.

I find the whole concept of closeness very bizarre.

If you're happy without being close to anyone, then that's fine, but I think this is gonna cause you problems eventually

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Original post by Refrigerator

If you're happy without being close to anyone, then that's fine, but I think this is gonna cause you problems eventually

I do think it will cause me problems- obviously networking for opportunity purposes.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by Iorek

It's always better to known 1 extra friend than be a stranger to an extra person.

You will find once you are out in the working world that contacts and networking gets you places.