Girls, How Do You Feel About Open Relationships?
I'm using my boyfriends account on here, so I wanna keep this anonymous for him.
I'm completely in love with my boyfriend and he loves me too. The problem is that he wants to involve other people in our sex lives.
This works both ways; I get to sleep with other guys and he gets to sleep with other girls, whilst we're both in the same room though. Basically it's group sex, or sex games involving other people, it's not just an excuse to go off and hook up with others in a club separately.
Logically I feel that it should be normal, after all why is sex so special? If he has no feelings for the woman then why's it a problem? Is it so different from porn?
In both situations he will be cumming over another woman and is that not essentially what the potential problem is?
Of course I would never ban my boyfriend from porn and it's obviously unreasonable.
I would like to be more open minded and I would like to try different things, but I can't help but feel bad about the prospect of watching him **** someone else.
Before I get comments like 'dump him', I realise this may be abnormal for a guy to request this, but we're just very open minded and we feel there's no point hiding this kind of thing like most other guys do as he's obviously going to be into it, whether he admits it or not.
It's not just about me letting him sleep with others too, I'd like to experience threesomes and have people watching me, also i'd like to order guys around.
He's not being pushy and I don't think he'll do it behind my back, he's said that if I'm not comfortable with it then we'll just have adventurous sex between ourselves. I'd just like to add that our sex life is never boring, he'd be happy to just sleep with me.
Obviously I have to accept that guys are more aesthetic-based than women, so they desire and need more porn and women, also possibly they're less sentimental about these things, so it's not as much of a big deal to them.
So to sum up, is there anything wrong with this? I don't believe there is but I can't help feeling differently to how I think, and if you don't agree that this is right then surely there is a problem with porn as well?
Maybe this is too black and white but I like to be logical about it.
I'm completely in love with my boyfriend and he loves me too. The problem is that he wants to involve other people in our sex lives.
This works both ways; I get to sleep with other guys and he gets to sleep with other girls, whilst we're both in the same room though. Basically it's group sex, or sex games involving other people, it's not just an excuse to go off and hook up with others in a club separately.
Logically I feel that it should be normal, after all why is sex so special? If he has no feelings for the woman then why's it a problem? Is it so different from porn?
In both situations he will be cumming over another woman and is that not essentially what the potential problem is?
Of course I would never ban my boyfriend from porn and it's obviously unreasonable.
I would like to be more open minded and I would like to try different things, but I can't help but feel bad about the prospect of watching him **** someone else.
Before I get comments like 'dump him', I realise this may be abnormal for a guy to request this, but we're just very open minded and we feel there's no point hiding this kind of thing like most other guys do as he's obviously going to be into it, whether he admits it or not.
It's not just about me letting him sleep with others too, I'd like to experience threesomes and have people watching me, also i'd like to order guys around.
He's not being pushy and I don't think he'll do it behind my back, he's said that if I'm not comfortable with it then we'll just have adventurous sex between ourselves. I'd just like to add that our sex life is never boring, he'd be happy to just sleep with me.
Obviously I have to accept that guys are more aesthetic-based than women, so they desire and need more porn and women, also possibly they're less sentimental about these things, so it's not as much of a big deal to them.
So to sum up, is there anything wrong with this? I don't believe there is but I can't help feeling differently to how I think, and if you don't agree that this is right then surely there is a problem with porn as well?
Maybe this is too black and white but I like to be logical about it.
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Original post by Anonymous
I'm using my boyfriends account on here, so I wanna keep this anonymous for him.
I'm completely in love with my boyfriend and he loves me too. The problem is that he wants to involve other people in our sex lives.
This works both ways; I get to sleep with other guys and he gets to sleep with other girls, whilst we're both in the same room though. Basically it's group sex, or sex games involving other people, it's not just an excuse to go off and hook up with others in a club separately.
Logically I feel that it should be normal, after all why is sex so special? If he has no feelings for the woman then why's it a problem? Is it so different from porn?
In both situations he will be cumming over another woman and is that not essentially what the potential problem is?
Of course I would never ban my boyfriend from porn and it's obviously unreasonable.
I would like to be more open minded and I would like to try different things, but I can't help but feel bad about the prospect of watching him **** someone else.
Before I get comments like 'dump him', I realise this may be abnormal for a guy to request this, but we're just very open minded and we feel there's no point hiding this kind of thing like most other guys do as he's obviously going to be into it, whether he admits it or not.
It's not just about me letting him sleep with others too, I'd like to experience threesomes and have people watching me, also i'd like to order guys around.
He's not being pushy and I don't think he'll do it behind my back, he's said that if I'm not comfortable with it then we'll just have adventurous sex between ourselves. I'd just like to add that our sex life is never boring, he'd be happy to just sleep with me.
Obviously I have to accept that guys are more aesthetic-based than women, so they desire and need more porn and women, also possibly they're less sentimental about these things, so it's not as much of a big deal to them.
So to sum up, is there anything wrong with this? I don't believe there is but I can't help feeling differently to how I think, and if you don't agree that this is right then surely there is a problem with porn as well?
Maybe this is too black and white but I like to be logical about it.
I'm completely in love with my boyfriend and he loves me too. The problem is that he wants to involve other people in our sex lives.
This works both ways; I get to sleep with other guys and he gets to sleep with other girls, whilst we're both in the same room though. Basically it's group sex, or sex games involving other people, it's not just an excuse to go off and hook up with others in a club separately.
Logically I feel that it should be normal, after all why is sex so special? If he has no feelings for the woman then why's it a problem? Is it so different from porn?
In both situations he will be cumming over another woman and is that not essentially what the potential problem is?
Of course I would never ban my boyfriend from porn and it's obviously unreasonable.
I would like to be more open minded and I would like to try different things, but I can't help but feel bad about the prospect of watching him **** someone else.
Before I get comments like 'dump him', I realise this may be abnormal for a guy to request this, but we're just very open minded and we feel there's no point hiding this kind of thing like most other guys do as he's obviously going to be into it, whether he admits it or not.
It's not just about me letting him sleep with others too, I'd like to experience threesomes and have people watching me, also i'd like to order guys around.
He's not being pushy and I don't think he'll do it behind my back, he's said that if I'm not comfortable with it then we'll just have adventurous sex between ourselves. I'd just like to add that our sex life is never boring, he'd be happy to just sleep with me.
Obviously I have to accept that guys are more aesthetic-based than women, so they desire and need more porn and women, also possibly they're less sentimental about these things, so it's not as much of a big deal to them.
So to sum up, is there anything wrong with this? I don't believe there is but I can't help feeling differently to how I think, and if you don't agree that this is right then surely there is a problem with porn as well?
Maybe this is too black and white but I like to be logical about it.
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Of course it's different from porn....him ******* over a woman he will never meet is very different to him having sex with someone, and you will realise that once you see your boyfriends penis pumping another girl. You should not put up with it if you don't want to, that's not how relationships work. Unless if you will get off on seeing this, then you are only doing it for him, and that's just wrong. That's not being open minded, thats being a push over.
Not all guys "need more women", and if they do then why should you put up with that? I think you need to get some self respect. I guarantee your relationship will fall apart once you involve others in the bedroom.
Not all guys "need more women", and if they do then why should you put up with that? I think you need to get some self respect. I guarantee your relationship will fall apart once you involve others in the bedroom.
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You again? 
OP, I personally wouldn't myself, but at the end of the day it's up to you want you want to do. Don't be pressured into anything
Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom You again?
OP, I personally wouldn't myself, but at the end of the day it's up to you want you want to do. Don't be pressured into anything
You again? OP, I personally wouldn't myself, but at the end of the day it's up to you want you want to do. Don't be pressured into anything
*pressurised
Not a fan?
So, you want other people to tell you what's right or wrong. That always works so well.
Don't involve logic into it too much, relationships are built on emotions, and they're rarely rational or reasonable.
Personally, I don't see what the excitement about threesomes is, or about sleeping with countless women. All I know is, I can't be bothered with it, and sex that involves more than just me + gf, is pointless and unsatisfying.
Don't involve logic into it too much, relationships are built on emotions, and they're rarely rational or reasonable.
Personally, I don't see what the excitement about threesomes is, or about sleeping with countless women. All I know is, I can't be bothered with it, and sex that involves more than just me + gf, is pointless and unsatisfying.
Original post by Economister
*pressurised
Not a fan?
Not a fan?
"Pressured" is a synonym of "pressurised", and is still very much also correct: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/pressure (look under verbs)Please don't try to correct people on their spelling, when you don't know how to spell yourself. Funny troll.
I really don't understand how couples in "open relationships" claim they're in love with eachother but are happy to sleep around with other people.
Surely if you love eachother you wouldn't want to include anyone else....
Am I the only the one who thinks this? Am I being old-fashioned?
Open relationships are not relationships at all. It's ridiculous.
Sorry but I think if he wants to sleep with someone else then he doesn't love you. Get rid of him.
Surely if you love eachother you wouldn't want to include anyone else....
Am I the only the one who thinks this? Am I being old-fashioned?
Open relationships are not relationships at all. It's ridiculous.
Sorry but I think if he wants to sleep with someone else then he doesn't love you. Get rid of him.
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I couldn't do it myself. The thought of my boyfriend doing another girls fills me with anger lol. Maybe i'm to narrow minded but I wouldn't consider the idea.
Just a warning.. I heard of a couple having a threesome and the bloke ended up leaving his girlfriend for the other girl!
Dangerous game to play imo.
Just a warning.. I heard of a couple having a threesome and the bloke ended up leaving his girlfriend for the other girl!
Dangerous game to play imo.
I think its pretty normal to want to sleep with other people but to feel wierd about your partner doing the same. If you like someone I think everyone is a little bit jealous deep down, you just have to either overcome it and realize that its just sex and your the one he loves or tell him your not ok with that if you don't think you can.
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Ermm, not to be rude, but that isn't how you spell differently?? it has no i?
I'm all for it as long as I'm the one proposing the idea first and not him 
Original post by Mm_Minty
Guys are a constant mystery to me.
Why even bother having sex with another woman if "they have no feelings for them"
Why even bother having sex with another woman if "they have no feelings for them"
Exactly.
Sex with someone you have no feelings for is just pointless. I for one would feel uncomfortable and wouldn't enjoy it at all.
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Nice try, but on the odd chance you are serious then you need to re-evaluate your life.
Original post by *Dreaming*
Of course it's different from porn....him ******* over a woman he will never meet is very different to him having sex with someone, and you will realise that once you see your boyfriends penis pumping another girl. You should not put up with it if you don't want to, that's not how relationships work. Unless if you will get off on seeing this, then you are only doing it for him, and that's just wrong. That's not being open minded, thats being a push over.
Not all guys "need more women", and if they do then why should you put up with that? I think you need to get some self respect. I guarantee your relationship will fall apart once you involve others in the bedroom.
Not all guys "need more women", and if they do then why should you put up with that? I think you need to get some self respect. I guarantee your relationship will fall apart once you involve others in the bedroom.
What does this have to do with self respect? I have a lot of it thankyou; he's not walking over me or making me do anything. I just don't wish to be as narrow-minded as you.
There are undeniable differences between men and women. Men have a tendency towards wanting more women and women have a tendency towards wanting one man. This is nature and it is stupid to ignore it. We should compromise, who says that sticking to sex with one person is the right thing to do? It is only the norm in today's society, it will undoubtedly change one day so rather than just following what everybody else does, I'd rather make an informed decision, this is not me being a push over this is me being smart.
Also it's not just about him getting sex with others, i'd like to try it too. After all if I can come to terms with it then I will end up with a far more fulfilling sex life and will have more enjoyment in my life than I would have done otherwise.
Also the concept of porn and sex are the same thing, it doesn't matter if he meets the woman or not; he's still cumming over somebody else.
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