I'm using my boyfriends account on here, so I wanna keep this anonymous for him.
I'm completely in love with my boyfriend and he loves me too. The problem is that he wants to involve other people in our sex lives.
This works both ways; I get to sleep with other guys and he gets to sleep with other girls, whilst we're both in the same room though. Basically it's group sex, or sex games involving other people, it's not just an excuse to go off and hook up with others in a club separately.
Logically I feel that it should be normal, after all why is sex so special? If he has no feelings for the woman then why's it a problem? Is it so different from porn?
In both situations he will be cumming over another woman and is that not essentially what the potential problem is?
Of course I would never ban my boyfriend from porn and it's obviously unreasonable.
I would like to be more open minded and I would like to try different things, but I can't help but feel bad about the prospect of watching him **** someone else.
Before I get comments like 'dump him', I realise this may be abnormal for a guy to request this, but we're just very open minded and we feel there's no point hiding this kind of thing like most other guys do as he's obviously going to be into it, whether he admits it or not.
It's not just about me letting him sleep with others too, I'd like to experience threesomes and have people watching me, also i'd like to order guys around.
He's not being pushy and I don't think he'll do it behind my back, he's said that if I'm not comfortable with it then we'll just have adventurous sex between ourselves. I'd just like to add that our sex life is never boring, he'd be happy to just sleep with me.
Obviously I have to accept that guys are more aesthetic-based than women, so they desire and need more porn and women, also possibly they're less sentimental about these things, so it's not as much of a big deal to them.
So to sum up, is there anything wrong with this? I don't believe there is but I can't help feeling differently to how I think, and if you don't agree that this is right then surely there is a problem with porn as well?
Maybe this is too black and white but I like to be logical about it.