Guys:What do you think of shy girl vs confident girls?

"Shy" and "confident" aren't exactly mutually exclusive traits. People who are loud and outgoing can be just as insecure as someone who's just the opposite.

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st_23

10

from that description i would say the shy one, loud girls are annoying and also you want them to be a bit different around you

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Anonymous #3

confident girls love confident guys. Shy girls love confident guys.

No-one likes shy guys.

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Original post by Pink Bullets

"Shy" and "confident" aren't exactly mutually exclusive traits. People who are loud and outgoing can be just as insecure as someone who's just the opposite.

insecure isn't the same as shy

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Original post by floralia

insecure isn't the same as shy

Why are you telling me this?

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Original post by Pink Bullets

Why are you telling me this?

Because you said someone can be shy and confident - someone can be confident and insecure.

Being confident and insecure isn't the same as being confident and shy, that's what your post implied.

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Original post by floralia

Because you said someone can be shy and confident - someone can be confident and insecure.

Being confident and insecure isn't the same as being confident and shy, that's what your post implied.

I honestly have no idea what you're on about. I was explaining that shyness and confidence are not opposites. I didn't imply that "being confident and insecure is the same as being confident and shy". That doesn't even make sense. :lolwut:

Slow down, and read my post again.

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Original post by Pink Bullets

I honestly have no idea what you're on about. I was explaining that shyness and confidence are not opposites. I didn't imply that "being confident and insecure is the same as being confident and shy". That doesn't even make sense. :lolwut:

Slow down, and read my post again.

I did read your post, I thought maybe you were saying the two things as different points but the way it was written made it seem like you were trying to say that confident people could be shy too because they were insecure, because the second point seemed like it followed on from the first?

I honestly don't understand why you can't see how what you said could be misinterpreted? Were you making two separate points or are you saying that insecurity and shyness are the same thing?

And you can't really be confident and shy unless you are using the term shy loosely. Shy basically implies that you are a more reserved person.

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JIRAIYA-ERO-SENNIN

19

if i manage to get with a shy girl and she opens up then there's no problem. but the problem with shy girls is that they tend to erect behavioral barriers to men, so they give the impression that they're unapproachable.

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Pink Bullets

I honestly have no idea what you're on about. I was explaining that shyness and confidence are not opposites. I didn't imply that "being confident and insecure is the same as being confident and shy". That doesn't even make sense. :lolwut:

Slow down, and read my post again.

You sort of did imply though.

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Original post by floralia

I did read your post, I thought maybe you were saying the two things as different points but the way it was written made it seem like you were trying to say that confident people could be shy too because they were insecure, because the second point seemed like it followed on from the first?

I honestly don't understand why you can't see how what you said could be misinterpreted? Were you making two separate points or are you saying that insecurity and shyness are the same thing?

And you can't really be confident and shy unless you are using the term shy loosely. Shy basically implies that you are a more reserved person.

I said that a loud and outgoing person can be insecure. The point being that someone's outward demeanour of being shy or outgoing is not necessarily a reflection of how confident they are. I have no idea how you got "shyness is the same as insecurity" from that. We are basically making the same point.

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JmJtr

Going by your description, definetly shy.

Although in general i love a girl who has one personality when we are with others but also has another one which she only lets me see or another world she only lets me enter. :love:

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Anonymous #1

OP

So do shy girls seem too unapproachable so guys usually go for confident girls?

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