Virgin or non virgin, what do you want in a relationship.

If other more important factors are present in the relationship, then mine or their past sexual history is not even a concern.

Past sexual history isn't of concern? I wouldn't want a girl whos been around the houses a few times, but i suppose each to their own.

Unless you are a pure angel, I don't think many people can point fingers at others for their past experiences. It is how we learn, how we differentiate and find ourselves.
Even a saint has a past their not proud to tell then why should anyone be judged by their past. Everyone makes mistakes or has phases of being someone completely unlike them but yeh their past isn't a concern for me. If I am their present then it is their future that I want to be a part of and that would be my concern.

Yes it does matter, studies have shown that a woman'ssexual history is a big predictor of marital and relationship discord.

If you are married to a virgin you are roughly 80-85per cent likely to stay married.

This decreases RAPIDLY to about 50 per cent once you add 2-3 previous partners to the equation

to below 25 per cent when you factor in 15+ previous sexual partners

I suprisingly agree with what you said now, we all have our 'not so good' phases; but as long as it is a phase its understandable. But, if you think its 'normal' thats where the problem is.

I very much doubt that the womans sexual history is the largest predictor of marital and relationship discord. Obviously there are a number of other factors which means that couples will or won't stay together - i'm almost certain that for most mature adults who are in the marriage stage, sexual history does not even come into the equation.

Also, why women's sexual history? Does her partners sexual history not matter at all?

It does matter actually you are right but exponentially less, it's pretty obvious that the nature of the male sex drive, as well as what they stand to lose in divorce curbs their instinct to dissolve a marriage.

I'm sorry but the studies have been done. This is something that guys know instinctively anyway, and the people who deny or try to contradict it are usually those with a vested interested....in getting away with being a slut!!

I think its normal for everyone to have a past different to mine or yours. I think its normal that people go through phases, situations and make decisions they are not proud of because life does not come with instructions so we have to learn from our experiences. I would never judge someone based on their past sexual history though because it is what made them in to the person they are today and if I love them today then any change to their past could have change who they are now and I wouldn't want that.
I don't think its normal as such, for everyone to have a twists and turns in their sexual experiences, I just think that everyone is different so each to their own.

Yes it does matter, studies have shown that a woman'ssexual history is a big predictor of marital and relationship discord.

If you are married to a virgin you are roughly 80-85per cent likely to stay married.

This decreases RAPIDLY to about 50 per cent once you add 2-3 previous partners to the equation

to below 25 per cent when you factor in 15+ previous sexual partners

+1 when I have rep.

I agree with everything you've said.

It does matter actually you are right but exponentially less, it's pretty obvious that the nature of the male sex drive, as well as what they stand to lose in divorce curbs their instinct to dissolve a marriage.

I'm sorry but the studies have been done. This is something that guys know instinctively anyway, and the people who deny or try to contradict it are usually those with a vested interested....in getting away with being a slut!!

How very sexist. For one, it's a myth that a male has a higher sex drive than a female. Two, we're not all money-grabbing gold diggers.

If anyone's opinion of me rests solely on whether or not I'm a virgin, they're not worth my time.

Correlational studies show a mere cause and effect relationship but never confirm any factors behind the cause i.e. what other factors could be influencing a couple's decision to stay in a marriage or divorce other than their sexual history. Such studies always have methodological criticisms and their findings should always be viewed with caution, not taken at face value.