Okay, so this is probably going to sound very pathetic, but I could really use some advice. Anon because I know people who use TSR and I would feel very embarrassed if they read this...
A few months ago I met this guy who I really, really like. He's funny, sweet, and into all the same things as me. We always had a great time together, and I started to get feelings for him because he's pretty much everything I'm looking for in a guy. However, I soon found out that he already has a girlfriend. I didn't know before because she lives quite far away and he never mentioned her. I started hanging out with him a lot less because it's hard for me to be around him, knowing that he has feelings for another girl and not me. Some of my friends advised me to flirt with him and said I shouldn't care that he has a girlfriend, but I can't. I have been 'the other girl' once before (without even knowing it), and it lead to some much pain and trouble for the people involved that I would never try to break up a couple.
So lately I have been trying to forget about him, but since we have a lot of mutual friends it's hard to avoid him. I always figured that his girlfriend had to be a really sweet, caring girl, because that's what he deserves and that's the type of girl I imagine him with.
Last weekend, I finally met her. When I arrived at a friend's party my attention was immediately drawn to this really loud, extravagant girl - his girlfriend. She was the complete opposite of what I was expecting, and the complete opposite of me. I was wearing a casual dress and ballet flats, she was wearing a leather jacket, a miniskirt and fishnet tights. I already knew that she's in a band, but she had a real 'rockstar' look and attitude I really wasn't expecting. She was drunk before midnight, flirting with every single guy in the room, showing off a new tattoo on her thigh and just being the most loud person I have ever come across.
Sometime during the night I went to wash a spilled drink of my hands, and noticed her bending over the toilet, vomitting. I went to hold her hair back and made sure she was ok; seeing her that evening had really hurt my feelings, but it was hardly her fault. After a quick thanks she swaggered back into the living room and immediately started making out with him. I went to say goodbye to a few people and was about to leave, when he came over to thank me for helping out his girlfriend. He looked into my eyes and said 'you seriously are the sweetest girl I ever met', but before I could say anything back he turned around; his girlfriend had climbed onto the table to dance and he seemed completely mesmerized. I left, and I doubt he even noticed it.
I have been feeling really down ever since. I know I shouldn't care what his girlfriend is like, but is has really made me wonder if I will ever stand a chance with him. I thought we had perfectly matching characters, but I'm clearly not the kind of girl he wants a relationship with. One of my friends suggested I should 'release my inner rockstar' to get his attention, but that's not who I am.
Should I just give up all hope and accept that I'm not his type? Or is there a chance that he would fall for a completely different girl? Do guys always fall for a certain type of girl or can one girlfriend be radically different from the other? Should I try to get his attention more or would it be better to forget about him as soon as possible?
Sorry for the long story, but I could really use some advice!