Going down on a circumcised girl

Op you're ****ing disgusting. Why would you dump her because of a traumatic mutilation against her will, a part of her past that has defined her life so far? Wtf.

She deserves better. Please op, leave her. Better break her heart now than wait and shatter it later with your **** personality.

Well she's Egyptian and trust me she's hot otherwise I wouldn't be interested in her! I just don't want to be too impulsive about my decision or be unfair over something she had no choice over.

I am sorry but you sound like a ****ing idiot, how can you say you wouldnt go out with her if she was not hot, is the realtionship superficial. I am guesing she comes from a muslim background so sex would be a pretty big deal to her!

Hark at you.

Its completely natural for OP to be unsure of what to do: theres enough worries and concerns in a relationship with 'normal' circumstancse, let alone throwing in FGM too. If it bothers him, it bothers him: its not something he can change, and casting out for advice and opinions in unfamiliar situations is a perfectly reasonable and logical response.

Clearly, we cant all be as mature and understanding as you.

Nah, she's Christian and has had sex with one guy already (although he was Egyptian too and native so I'm not sure whether he would have had experience with this before??).

I apologise for admitting that my initial attraction was based on her looks.

It wasn't just his unwillingness to understand the sensitivity of this issue it was also his 'she's hot, I wouldn't be going out with,her otherwise' which suggests he is shallow and makes me,think his reasons for gettong squirmish are shallow as well.

I know i'm being harsh but I have an in built defence. A very good female friend of mine who I absolutely love without a doubt was raped 8 months ago, she struggled so much, her life just fell apart. Despite the fact that she was assaulted, lost her virginity and was sober during the whole event (which was perpetrated by a guy she KNOWS) she didn't go to the police. She told me 23 weeks after the event and made me swear not to tell anyone (i wonder if this applies to the internet...oh ****), I couldn't believe it. Hearing her story had the most profound effect on me, I felt angry, confused and it was the closes i've been to tears in 10 years. I just wanted to take her and hide her away from the evil of the world. A week later she text me and said how good she felt after getting it off her chest and I was really happy especially because of the graphic detail, the tears, everything madr me think she would have felt worse, but she said she relived it almost everyday and saying it out loud almost sealed it as an event and not something that defined who she was. I was really glad and then bang, thay night she turned up at my door in tears. She had told her boyfriend AND HE DUMPED HER. Dumped her for a traumatic robbery of her diginity, her independance. A violent abuse of her feminity, that fucling boy RAPED my friend, violated her body, poisened her head with the memory and rendered her an emotional mess and her boyfriend wanted 'some time apart' after hearing this.

That is what is wrong with me, I keep linking the two responses. I am sorry for her BF and I am sorry for OP that they are (innocently, unintentionally no doubt) so disattached from the tragedy that being an abused women means.

Tell me to man up, tell me to grow some balls but I have no respect for someone who even refuses to try and understand and accept the scars women carry after event like these. Be it female mutilation which leaves her insecure, mutilated and effectively broken down there or raped...which is a slightly more extreme version.

I am not right for linking the two, but I guess I too, like OP have a 'mental thing' and I cannot help but get in a rage at these such thoughts. For that I apologise.

it wasn't just his unwillingness to understand the sensitivity of this issue it was also his 'she's hot, i wouldn't be going out with,her otherwise' which suggests he is shallow and makes me,think his reasons for gettong squirmish are shallow as well.

I know i'm being harsh but i have an in built defence. A very good female friend of mine who i absolutely love without a doubt was raped 8 months ago, she struggled so much, her life just fell apart. Despite the fact that she was assaulted, lost her virginity and was sober during the whole event (which was perpetrated by a guy she knows) she didn't go to the police. She told me 23 weeks after the event and made me swear not to tell anyone (i wonder if this applies to the internet...oh ****), i couldn't believe it. Hearing her story had the most profound effect on me, i felt angry, confused and it was the closes i've been to tears in 10 years. I just wanted to take her and hide her away from the evil of the world. A week later she text me and said how good she felt after getting it off her chest and i was really happy especially because of the graphic detail, the tears, everything madr me think she would have felt worse, but she said she relived it almost everyday and saying it out loud almost sealed it as an event and not something that defined who she was. I was really glad and then bang, thay night she turned up at my door in tears. She had told her boyfriend and he dumped her. Dumped her for a traumatic robbery of her diginity, her independance. A violent abuse of her feminity, that fucling boy raped my friend, violated her body, poisened her head with the memory and rendered her an emotional mess and her boyfriend wanted 'some time apart' after hearing this.

That is what is wrong with me, i keep linking the two responses. I am sorry for her bf and i am sorry for op that they are (innocently, unintentionally no doubt) so disattached from the tragedy that being an abused women means.

Tell me to man up, tell me to grow some balls but i have no respect for someone who even refuses to try and understand and accept the scars women carry after event like these. Be it female mutilation which leaves her insecure, mutilated and effectively broken down there or raped...which is a slightly more extreme version.

I am not right for linking the two, but i guess i too, like op have a 'mental thing' and i cannot help but get in a rage at these such thoughts. For that i apologise.