Dating a Catholic???

Troll. Partly because you're talking about catholics in the third person when you claim to be one. Doesn't make all that much sense.

Although essentially everything you've said is so inconsistant. As surely if you were a catholic, even an 'open minded' one the prospect of dating another catholic should not be that daunting.

So yeh you arent getting a serious response to this 'dilema' from me.

your completely overreacting there. No Catholics don't havvee to have kids. Just ask him about his views, once you get to know him better. I'm sure they're quite subjective from person to person.

btw: if you really want more responses, you should head over to the catholic forum.

1601 "The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament."84
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1604 God who created man out of love also calls him to love the fundamental and innate vocation of every human being. For man is created in the image and likeness of God who is himself love.90 Since God created him man and woman, their mutual love becomes an image of the absolute and unfailing love with which God loves man. It is good, very good, in the Creator's eyes. And this love which God blesses is intended to be fruitful and to be realized in the common work of watching over creation: "And God blessed them, and God said to them: 'Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it.'"91


* The openness to fertility

1652 "By its very nature the institution of marriage and married love is ordered to the procreation and education of the offspring and it is in them that it finds its crowning glory."162


Children are the supreme gift of marriage and contribute greatly to the good of the parents themselves. God himself said: "It is not good that man should be alone," and "from the beginning [he] made them male and female"; wishing to associate them in a special way in his own creative work, God blessed man and woman with the words: "Be fruitful and multiply." Hence, true married love and the whole structure of family life which results from it, without diminishment of the other ends of marriage, are directed to disposing the spouses to cooperate valiantly with the love of the Creator and Savior, who through them will increase and enrich his family from day to day.163
1653 The fruitfulness of conjugal love extends to the fruits of the moral, spiritual, and supernatural life that parents hand on to their children by education. Parents are the principal and first educators of their children.164 In this sense the fundamental task of marriage and family is to be at the service of life.165

1654 Spouses to whom God has not granted children can nevertheless have a conjugal life full of meaning, in both human and Christian terms. Their marriage can radiate a fruitfulness of charity, of hospitality, and of sacrifice.
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1664 Unity, indissolubility, and openness to fertility are essential to marriage. Polygamy is incompatible with the unity of marriage; divorce separates what God has joined together; the refusal of fertility turns married life away from its "supreme gift," the child (GS 50 § 1).

:P Not all Catholics are the Pope. Sex before marriage is a no but not every Catholic is intent on getting married straight away. I know plenty of Catholics who are not intent on getting hitched!

You sound like the kind of approach to those of a different church or another faith that is about 40 years out of date. Catholics have services that are not in Latin, the C of E has women vicars and there are female rabbis. We have decimal currency and don't have free school milk until the age of 11 any more.

if you read my OP, this guys is a practicing catholic.

as for your catholic friends with no intent of getting married, are they going to stay celibate forever as is required by the faith of single perople? didnt think so , so they arent practicing catholics.




the guy im dating only attends the traditional orthodox catholic Mass which is in Latin only and is a devout catholic.
it isnt relavent to mention CofE which is a total mess, nor jewish rabbis. the CC doesnt have women priests, married priests nor is it headed up by remarried/divorced/adulterous monarchy.

also how are people in your family divorced when you claim to be catholic?

so yeah. dating a practicing catholic is very different, there arent many of them and i wondered if anyone had. since intimacy isnt allowed, what do you do when you date? must you pray together alot or what?

if you dont know then dont post!

Well if he's that devout surely he wouldn't be going out with you since st paul said it's better to remain single and celibate. Forever? My point was the I have Catholic friends who've had boyfriends but didn't start going out with them for the purpose of getting married.

Just because he wants to date you doesn't mean he wants to marry you.

Also Catholics don't have to want children if they are married but they are not supposed to have sex if it's not for the purpose of having children because every sperm is a possible child that you are wating or something like that.

1601 "The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament."84
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1604 God who created man out of love also calls him to love the fundamental and innate vocation of every human being. For man is created in the image and likeness of God who is himself love.90 Since God created him man and woman, their mutual love becomes an image of the absolute and unfailing love with which God loves man. It is good, very good, in the Creator's eyes. And this love which God blesses is intended to be fruitful and to be realized in the common work of watching over creation: "And God blessed them, and God said to them: 'Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it.'"91


* The openness to fertility

1652 "By its very nature the institution of marriage and married love is ordered to the procreation and education of the offspring and it is in them that it finds its crowning glory."162


Children are the supreme gift of marriage and contribute greatly to the good of the parents themselves. God himself said: "It is not good that man should be alone," and "from the beginning [he] made them male and female"; wishing to associate them in a special way in his own creative work, God blessed man and woman with the words: "Be fruitful and multiply." Hence, true married love and the whole structure of family life which results from it, without diminishment of the other ends of marriage, are directed to disposing the spouses to cooperate valiantly with the love of the Creator and Savior, who through them will increase and enrich his family from day to day.163
1653 The fruitfulness of conjugal love extends to the fruits of the moral, spiritual, and supernatural life that parents hand on to their children by education. Parents are the principal and first educators of their children.164 In this sense the fundamental task of marriage and family is to be at the service of life.165

1654 Spouses to whom God has not granted children can nevertheless have a conjugal life full of meaning, in both human and Christian terms. Their marriage can radiate a fruitfulness of charity, of hospitality, and of sacrifice.
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1664 Unity, indissolubility, and openness to fertility are essential to marriage. Polygamy is incompatible with the unity of marriage; divorce separates what God has joined together; the refusal of fertility turns married life away from its "supreme gift," the child (GS 50 § 1).

hahahha.
You are massively over reacting and generalizing here.
You need to ask him about his views, there are varying degrees of Catholic.
Personally, i have sex before marriage, don't hate gays and use contraception...
whereas some catholic friends don't hold the same views as me.
it depends on your up bringing and outlook on life as well.

also how are you scared of dating a catholic when you claim to be catholic yourself?

also how are people in your family divorced when you claim to be catholic?

However, I do massively dislike the overuse of the word "dude" and think that you should stop overthinking and worrying if he wants to marry you right away, just go on a date and get to know him.

Wait, I thought YOU are a Catholic too? Who won't have sex before marriage?