Is this a racist comment/ what does it mean?

Original post by 101flyboy

True, people are going to be douches. And they will be condemned accordingly. BTW, you already said you have no respect for the gay community, and no, words are not just words, they have meanings, and some words carry social and personal connections. You can't just wipe away reality to suit you.

I don't respect the majority of the gay community then.

The "community" sounds like a cult.

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Original post by draikzer

Haha, you're calling me homophobic?

Seriously? OH GOD. I can't with you.

You have some internalized homophobia issues.

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Original post by 101flyboy

You have some internalized homophobia issues.

Of course I do.

A homophobic homosexual.

Your logic is flawless.

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Original post by draikzer

I don't respect the majority of the gay community then.

The "community" sounds like a cult.

More like a community who is done playing nice.

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Original post by draikzer

Of course I do.

A homophobic homosexual.

Your logic is flawless.

Plenty of gay people have homophobia issues. Plenty.

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Original post by Keckers

Sorry, I meant to neg you.

Quite honestly you are using this ridiculous modern idea that you have a right to feel offended.

Grow up.

People do have every right to be offended by offensive things. Grow up and stop diminishing their feelings.

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Original post by 101flyboy

Plenty of gay people have homophobia issues. Plenty.

Sure.

With homosexuals who feel it is their duty to jump around telling people what they can and can't say.

I'll just get on with my homophobic life.

Bye.

P.S Grow a thicker skin.

(edited 12 years ago)

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Original post by draikzer

Sure.

With homosexuals who feel it is their duty to jump around telling people what they can and can't say.

I'll just get on with my homophobic life.

Bye.

P.S Grow a thicker skin.

People can say what they want, just expect backlash. Because if you think gay people are just going to allow themselves to be denigrated, you're crazy. You may not have self-respect, but yeah, that's your own issue.

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Original post by 101flyboy

People can say what they want, just expect backlash. Because if you think gay people are just going to allow themselves to be denigrated, you're crazy. You may not have self-respect, but yeah, that's your own issue.

Yeah. I dont let petty things bother me.

But I have no self respect.

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tehFrance

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Original post by Anonymous

"oh she's gone upstairs. I think she is feeling a bit dehydrated."

She was sucking someone off :sexface:

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The efforts to stop hate speech has progressed nicely and will continue to progress. Civility is not petty. It's not petty to not want how you identify to be seen as an insult. We all should respect one another, and that is not done by mocking or using dehumanizing slurs.

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Sweet by and by

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Original post by ForKicks

Sounds like he was suggesting she went upstairs to suck someone off to be honest. Doesn't sound racist

My thoughts exactly but I didn't want to say that in case I sounded like a whore

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Sweat.it.out

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Original post by 101flyboy

Do gay people identify as gay? Yes? So, nope, the word hasn't changed. And, no-one has the right to change it, as the gay community are gay, this is who they are, and so therefore, heterosexuals have no right to believe they can take this word from them.

The word gay was invented when being a homosexual was practically unheard of. It's an archaic word, which used to mean happy, which was then appropriated to mean homosexual.

Words change meaning all the time. It's not someone's right, it's a fact of life. Think of the words 'cool' or 'hot' for example. You think someone in Tudor times would have used 'hot' to mean an attractive person? You can't stop words from changing meaning, so you can't neccessarily always use words to suggest someone is being offensive. What IS important is context.

And not being funny, but whilst we're talking about not being able to take other people's words, where is the right in homosexuals saying that that is their word and no-one else can use it? Words are words are words. It's not what you say, it's how you say it.

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Original post by Sweat.it.out

The word gay was invented when being a homosexual was practically unheard of. It's an archaic word, which used to mean happy, which was then appropriated to mean homosexual.

Words change meaning all the time. It's not someone's right, it's a fact of life. Think of the words 'cool' or 'hot' for example. You think someone in Tudor times would have used 'hot' to mean an attractive person? You can't stop words from changing meaning, so you can't neccessarily always use words to suggest someone is being offensive. What IS important is context.

And not being funny, but whilst we're talking about not being able to take other people's words, where is the right in homosexuals saying that that is their word and no-one else can use it? Words are words are words. It's not what you say, it's how you say it.

Gay was a label placed by heterosexuals because of the stereotypes of male homosexuals. Cheeriness, peppiness, flamboyancy. You know, the original definition of gay. So saying the word has evolved is not based on anything but the fact homophobia has turned gay into an insult, because homophobia leads people to think gay is bad. It's that simple. So, no, heterosexuals do not have the right to change the word at their whim, it's the gay communities' word, it's how they identify and it has social and personal history with them. Trivializing that is an insult.

Context is irrelevant in this case. This is about actions. Using gay as a pejorative is a negative action.

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Some heterosexuals want to believe that "gay" and the f-word are not homosexual related anymore, when the gay community identifies as gay, and when people are still beaten with the f-word used against them. And when gay slurs are almost ALWAYS used negatively. Yet, somehow, they aren't slurs. It's so comically obvious. Straight privilege.

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Leonie01

Original post by Bellrosk

I'm not trying to speak for all people, but there is a difference between the gay community reclaiming a word and using it in, for example 'queer theory' and a straight guy using it to suggest another guy is gay. What is wrong with just using the word gay then? When queer has such a history of causing offence?

No I think the word gay should be used to describe homosexual people, I strongly oppose the use of gay as a synonym for 'bad' - for obvious reasons.

I oppose the use of gay as a synonym for bad as well and personally would never use it. But it is a fact that the use of gay as a synonym for bad has increased in the last decade and gay is often used in a derogatory way, often as an insult. So should the word not be used anymore bc lots of people have been abused with it just as you have with the word queer? I dont think that more ppl get abused nowadays more often with the term queer than with the term gay.

queer is not on the level as fag or the n word, especially not these days. That is simply not true. You get tv shows called " queer as folk", you wouldnt get a tv show called " faggot as folk" or "****** as folk."

It is your opinion if you dont like a word and if you personally dont want to be called queer that is perfectly fine. But i dont think you have the right to demand that no one should call gay people this bc not everyone agrees with your opinion. The gay community isnt homogenous, and queer no longer exclusively means homosexual.

Many gay people have no problem calling themselves queer, many like that term and promote it. There are lots of queer magazines for example. Show me where LGBT people embrace faggot magazines? These two words are not in the same category, simple as.

Again, everyone has their own opinions on ppl reclaiming words. The hip hop culture also claims it is reclaiming the n word. Does this mean all African Americans agree with this? No. There is a clip somewhere with oprah and jay z disagreeing on this issue.

Personally i dont think one group of ppl should be prohibited from using a term whereas others use it. That is discriminatory and hypocritical in my eyes. Saying gay ppl may use a term to describe themselves but then straight ppl are not allowed to use this term is ridiculous.

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