Original post by PeregrinumI'm not talking about your "project" here, this has got nothing to do with it. I just saw your post and it gave me the opportunity to say what I've been meaning to say for quite some time.
So here it is: what irks me about your AS related posts is that so many of them have you saying that people with AS do not have problems with empathizing and imagination; you're saying that Internet sites and textbooks have got it wrong. To quote your own words: "I've found most textbooks and internet sites hold incorrect information but then the idea is generally new...". That's from your profile page. And that's what I've seen you say in so many posts around TSR, coupled with the "no empathizing problems" bit. And that's just wrong. And I've explained why it's wrong, but here goes again: remember the "Girls with Asperger's" thread where there was a guy (just recently) arguing that AS has no neurological basis? The thing is that the medical and scientific community dealing with autism spectrum disorders accepts that there most definitely is (albeit not a single specific one). And in the exact same way the community also accepts that those with AS have deficiencies in empathizing and imagination. Yes, there are differences among patients. Not everyone will have those difficulties, the same way that not everyone with AS is "sarcasm-impaired", but those difficulties are considered to be a significant and highly prevalent part of the disorder (and in fact part of most if not all diagnostic criteria). Yet you keep going around and essentially saying that the highly trained professionals don't know what they're talking about, but you do because you know people with AS.
You said: "When i post things about lots of information being incorrect, i don't literally mean 'it's wrong'". Do you know the definition of the word "incorrect"? It means false, not true, inaccurate. It means "wrong". If you say that it's incorrect to believe that Aspies have difficulties with empathizing then the only logical conclusion is that they do not have such difficulties. Which is not true. But the statements you're making make it sound true.
You also said: "This is how i acquire my information - not from reading books, but from different people." Then why the hell do you go around saying that (and I quote you!) "I've found most textbooks hold incorrect information"?! If you don't even read about Asperger's then how on Earth can you say that the books are wrong?!
From this it seems that you do understand that there are differences and not all people with AS are the same; some have difficulties with empathy/imagination and some don't. Yet you don't acknowledge that (at least I haven't seen it yet), you say it's incorrect to assume that Aspies can't be empathetic and then you give an example about your brother who apparently can be. If you know that people with Asperger's are all different then why don't you just say that? Why do you keep making definitive statements like the ones I've already mentioned, which are in fact wrong? There's a lot of confusion about what AS is like as it is and it seems to me that you're only adding to it by saying things that are incorrect and, based on your responses in this thread, not even what you actually mean.
As for the underlined part - lack of empathy doesn't mean "lack of emotions".
Well, I'm not much of an exception, I'd like to fit in too, you know. But many of us don't just like the drinking part, we don't like the whole clubbing/going out kind of thing. And when you're a weirdo who doesn't like these kinds of things then you're almost instantly excluded. When I got to university, I accepted an invitation to go get some takeout. Of course I really sucked at it - I couldn't really converse with anyone (best I could do was parrot someone else's "what course are you doing?"), I didn't understand their jokes, I didn't care for their topics of conversation, I was totally weirded out when the others suggested slumber party (then and there) to "bond", and I think my leaving without saying a thing to anyone was bit of a social faux pas. I was asked to go to a bar the next day and I turned them down. That was the extent of my communication with my flatmates until I moved out several months later. I was instantly ostracized because I wasn't what most young adults consider "normal". How can I avoid that? How can I make sure that it doesn't happen again this year? How can I be accepted by others and be included without having to engage in activities (clubbing, drinking) that I really do not like (a.k.a. hate, despise, find pointless to infinity in power of ten)? I think strategies to help deal with such situations is what people really need. I mean, if you get as far as to be actually invited to go out and you actually do go (a big achievement for someone with AS), then it doesn't take all that much brain power to realize that you can pass orange juice for a Screwdriver.