OOh ppl, if u can't help him atleast don't giv him silly comments about how his family is or hw pakistani cultures/families are.....
if u can't help don't trouble him more... he has posted a thread to get help...everyone needs to help him if u can or jst don't post (i know i m being harsh but it's true)
Also, now if he has such a family, wut can he do??...he jst needs help about his current problem....he can't change his family.
Ohhk so i m a paki too....i m really glad to hear that u, as an elder bro, is trying to solve ur family prob....u sound like a responsible and caring person bcoz u seem to be understanding ur responsibility as an elder bro and caring about ur parents, especially ur mom.
INSHAALLAH, by ALLAH's grace, ur problem will soon b solved bcoz u r trying ur best to solve ur family probs and it will....INSHAALLAH i will pray for u and ur family....
Just get ur bro to hav a conversation wid u and then while ur talking to him start telling him about the probs he cud probably face due to all this in the future - according to what u stated, his gf's dad cud do something wrong to him ryt? and ur parents do not like him having a relationship wid a girl at such a young age? (according to the western ppl, i know it sounds a bit silly, but look at this situation from our side if u can).....tell him about hw our parents hav struggled to earn so much and bring us up in such an expensive country....give him sum examples of ppl who r suffering in pak and whose parents dump them and then those children get in the wrong hands, their parents give them poison bcoz they can't earn enough for them (it really comes up in the news u c), and ask him to think about wut will happen if he continues to do all this - it cud be threatening to his life, affect his studies and then his future, it cud b threatening to his (and ur parents), ask him to think about his parents if he does not care about his own life bcoz of a single girl, tell him that he can finish his studies and college/uni and then get married to a gud girl, there r so many girls in this world who do not hav psycho dads, and u cud ask that girl to stay away from ur bro bcoz her dad seems to b so bad to u guyz, y duz taht grl's dad threaten u guyz if he can't handle his own daughter? ask that grl to stay away from ur bro and tell her that u r asking her to do so bcoz her dad seems to threaten u guyz bcoz of them staying together, try all means, and INSHAALLAH anyone will work....
also, one last thing, ask ur mom to calm down (i know it is VERY easy to say so but VERY difficult to calm down in such a situation) and try to deal wid the situation wid her help bcoz she will probably understand u and try to calm a bit and try to bring a solution to the prob....ask her to stop crying and say that u r wid her and that u r dealing wid the situation and making ur bro understand the consequences....i hop u understand wut i mean....and do let me know wen ur prob get solved.
Also, u cud pray to ALLAH and make ur bro go wid u to the mosque and offer special prayers on fridays and other prayers too. MAY ALLAH HELP YOU. AAMEEN. SUM AAMEEN.
this is all i cud think of...but i will pray for u....and ppl don't blame him as he cannot change his culture, actually no one can....he jst needs a bit of help here.....i hop i helped, dear.