My step-dad can really annoy me; I'm trying to be nice but stay sane!

My step-dad has been in a relationship with my mother for about seven years,, and whilst I'm delighted my mother has found happiness with him my voice remains unheard that he still treats me like an 11 year old, constantly singing annoying songs, embarrassing me, annoying me-often visibly on purpose!
For years I've expressed my annoyance- mainly by telling him in the kindest possible way that it irritates me, sometimes (when I've been in a bad mood) I'd really kick off, but now- even though it still winds me up- I often have to resort to ignoring him completely- which in turn makes him act like i'm being rude for doing so.
I've played all my cards but I'm still not being treated my age especially as ,in addition to resorting to childish humour and pulling faces at me as though I'm five, he is ridiculously overprotective!! One time after a night out I was walking down my street and saw him waiting outside the gate-- this being at 9:00 pm!!!
I feel like after all these years he's still feeling insecure about whether or not I've accepted him into the family- failing to realise that if he'd simply listen to me then I would find it a lot easier to get on with him!
I know it might not sound like the most dire of situations, but I'm going beyond mad, and with the A2 year coming up I must keep a calm composure and must be treated as someone who is about to be launched into the "real world".
Help!!!!

My step-dad has been in a relationship with my mother for about seven years,, and whilst I'm delighted my mother has found happiness with him my voice remains unheard that he still treats me like an 11 year old, constantly singing annoying songs, embarrassing me, annoying me-often visibly on purpose!
For years I've expressed my annoyance- mainly by telling him in the kindest possible way that it irritates me, sometimes (when I've been in a bad mood) I'd really kick off, but now- even though it still winds me up- I often have to resort to ignoring him completely- which in turn makes him act like i'm being rude for doing so.
I've played all my cards but I'm still not being treated my age especially as ,in addition to resorting to childish humour and pulling faces at me as though I'm five, he is ridiculously overprotective!! One time after a night out I was walking down my street and saw him waiting outside the gate-- this being at 9:00 pm!!!
I feel like after all these years he's still feeling insecure about whether or not I've accepted him into the family- failing to realise that if he'd simply listen to me then I would find it a lot easier to get on with him!
I know it might not sound like the most dire of situations, but I'm going beyond mad, and with the A2 year coming up I must keep a calm composure and must be treated as someone who is about to be launched into the "real world".
Help!!!!

My step-dad has been in a relationship with my mother for about seven years,, and whilst I'm delighted my mother has found happiness with him my voice remains unheard that he still treats me like an 11 year old, constantly singing annoying songs, embarrassing me, annoying me-often visibly on purpose!
For years I've expressed my annoyance- mainly by telling him in the kindest possible way that it irritates me, sometimes (when I've been in a bad mood) I'd really kick off, but now- even though it still winds me up- I often have to resort to ignoring him completely- which in turn makes him act like i'm being rude for doing so.
I've played all my cards but I'm still not being treated my age especially as ,in addition to resorting to childish humour and pulling faces at me as though I'm five, he is ridiculously overprotective!! One time after a night out I was walking down my street and saw him waiting outside the gate-- this being at 9:00 pm!!!
I feel like after all these years he's still feeling insecure about whether or not I've accepted him into the family- failing to realise that if he'd simply listen to me then I would find it a lot easier to get on with him!
I know it might not sound like the most dire of situations, but I'm going beyond mad, and with the A2 year coming up I must keep a calm composure and must be treated as someone who is about to be launched into the "real world".
Help!!!!

Daddy wanna try some stuff on you. Watch out.

My step-dad has been in a relationship with my mother for about seven years,, and whilst I'm delighted my mother has found happiness with him my voice remains unheard that he still treats me like an 11 year old, constantly singing annoying songs, embarrassing me, annoying me-often visibly on purpose!
For years I've expressed my annoyance- mainly by telling him in the kindest possible way that it irritates me, sometimes (when I've been in a bad mood) I'd really kick off, but now- even though it still winds me up- I often have to resort to ignoring him completely- which in turn makes him act like i'm being rude for doing so.
I've played all my cards but I'm still not being treated my age especially as ,in addition to resorting to childish humour and pulling faces at me as though I'm five, he is ridiculously overprotective!! One time after a night out I was walking down my street and saw him waiting outside the gate-- this being at 9:00 pm!!!
I feel like after all these years he's still feeling insecure about whether or not I've accepted him into the family- failing to realise that if he'd simply listen to me then I would find it a lot easier to get on with him!
I know it might not sound like the most dire of situations, but I'm going beyond mad, and with the A2 year coming up I must keep a calm composure and must be treated as someone who is about to be launched into the "real world".
Help!!!!

Maybe he's doing so to get closer to you. After all, you are calling him your "stepdad". How do you address him? If you don't call him 'dad' then that may be a start........

That is wrong. You clearly have problems. If you aren't looking to give me serious advice then don't bother leaving a sick comment like that.

I call him by his name- but he'd understand it would upset me too much if I called him "dad". I think he is trying to get closer to me but by doing so is pushing me further away. His mood changes very quickly- one minute he's acting happy and calling me names and singing childish songs to me- obviously trying to provoke me- and if I react even the slightest bit annoyed he becomes completely inapproachable and takes on an angry "fine then" sort of attitude.

By posting in online forums about your personal problems I can see why you are treated like a child.
No, I've asked a lot of people about what to do- I've sat down and talked to him and I've explained to my mum that I find it annoying- I'm posting it on an online forum because it's anonymous and because other people using the website might be also have had a similar experience.

Maybe he's doing so to get closer to you. After all, you are calling him your "stepdad". How do you address him? If you don't call him 'dad' then that may be a start........

FFS - why should he be called dad when he isn't? He's a stepdad. If she has her father in her life, she might find that offensive.

I don't call him dad- it just doesn't suit our relationship. It's a weird situation- see my actual father passed away so it's difficult to understand what the situation would be like if he were still around, I'm guessing far more complicated and perhaps worse. But I know he finds our relationship awkward and I wish he didn't. I try and show that I care about him but whatever I do seems to result in me being annoyed-- if I'm nice to him he takes it as a big thumbs up to acting like a twit around me- hence annoying me, and if I express any annoyance on my behalf he puts himself in a completely intolerable mood where everyone else is getting on his nerves and he's annoyed with everything.
I can only guess that all this is down to some insecurity on his part- but whatever I do the insecurity won't go away and he carries on like this.
Do you think he might be insecure about the situation with my real father?
It does seem every time he's brought up or my granparents (fathers parents) visit he seems affected by something.