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Original post by NotSoCool.Fly
i knew i wanted to do something vocational but also scientific. so it was between dentistry/medicine or pharmacy! the former two went down the pan when missed out on A in biology. but no worries.i learnt dentists are depressed which wouldnt help my situation and tbh teeth bore me- i did get an offer for a hygiene course but didnt even consider it and didnt attent interview either which shows ya lol - medicine i realised i just couldnt do that im too cringy of blood / people/ germs etc in that sense so pharmacy seems key for me ideal and i feel fine doing that :smile: lots of job prospects too.
childhood drifted a long time ago :frown:


You're kidding me!

I was doing a pharmacy course earlier this year! In UEA. Found that the University was brilliant, but the course just didn't match what I wanted... from life. I found pharmacy to be too... stifling. I've talked to too many pharmacists who say that whilst it pays the bills they regret going in for it as they found it so uninspiring.

It's the type of subject I'd say where you need a passion for it. I struggled too much with the course pretty much being training to be a shop manager. :frown:


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It's been really inspiring reading about how people picked their courses. It's almost like you simply stepped up to... callings. Not. Intimidated. At. All.

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Hey guys, I am new to the student room so sorry if this is in the wrong place.
I was wondering if anyone could help me. In the past few months my relationship with food has really changed, I used to love food but for about 4 months I have been going through phases of still eating and feeling fine about it but then long periods of time of making myself sick after pretty much everything I eat because I feel so terrible and guilty for eating it. I have really struggled with a levels recently and also found some family stuff out which I wasn't supposed to know and nobody knows that I do know. I just dont really know what to do I am unsure if this is just a phase because of this and now its the summer things will settle and to just go along with things or not. Because of it my weight is really up and down, I lose quite a bit during the times of being sick but then pile it all back on again when I feel okay about eating. Sorry if this makes no sense. Im so tired and its all just a bit stressful and I'm not really sure what I should do. Sorry :/ Thanks. x
Hightothefive. Well done!
Your honesty and positivity to beat anorexia is not only an inspiration to myself but to everyone else who can relate to this and by opening up you've really moved a lot of people. Well done to you, your words certainly struck a chord with me and I'm glad I read this thread tonight. Keep us posted on how you're doing!
Original post by pheebee
Hey guys, I am new to the student room so sorry if this is in the wrong place.
I was wondering if anyone could help me. In the past few months my relationship with food has really changed, I used to love food but for about 4 months I have been going through phases of still eating and feeling fine about it but then long periods of time of making myself sick after pretty much everything I eat because I feel so terrible and guilty for eating it. I have really struggled with a levels recently and also found some family stuff out which I wasn't supposed to know and nobody knows that I do know. I just dont really know what to do I am unsure if this is just a phase because of this and now its the summer things will settle and to just go along with things or not. Because of it my weight is really up and down, I lose quite a bit during the times of being sick but then pile it all back on again when I feel okay about eating. Sorry if this makes no sense. Im so tired and its all just a bit stressful and I'm not really sure what I should do. Sorry :/ Thanks. x


do you have any friends you could tell? my friend was the one who dragged me to the doctor and i don't know where i'd be if she hadn't.

you need to try to get to the cause of it, like why the food is making you feel guilty then i reckon it'll be possible to change your mind and realise that you didn't feel guilty before and theres no reason you should feel guilty now. i know that a lot of people use food as a tool to treat or punish themselves but don't view it this way, see it as fuel, you need it to live and function normally - why would you feel guilty for eating then?

you've said its recent, so adress it while you can and while it's under control.

try and think of activities which you enjoy that you could use to distract you from feelings of guilt - for example if you play an instrument when you feel guilty play it instead of being sick its much more productive trust me.

all of these things are easier said than done, but you've noticed you have a problem, and i'm sure you don't want it anymore so you need to do the right things to change.

also is it your body you feel guilty about or just food and all things seperate from your body?

probably not that great advice but i tried :colondollar:
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your brilliant!!! well done :biggrin:

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Custard will be so pleased :smile: And so will Toto and the rest of the nutters who post on here.
no problem, so happy for you such an achievement :smile:

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Original post by squiff93
do you have any friends you could tell? my friend was the one who dragged me to the doctor and i don't know where i'd be if she hadn't.

you need to try to get to the cause of it, like why the food is making you feel guilty then i reckon it'll be possible to change your mind and realise that you didn't feel guilty before and theres no reason you should feel guilty now. i know that a lot of people use food as a tool to treat or punish themselves but don't view it this way, see it as fuel, you need it to live and function normally - why would you feel guilty for eating then?

you've said its recent, so adress it while you can and while it's under control.

try and think of activities which you enjoy that you could use to distract you from feelings of guilt - for example if you play an instrument when you feel guilty play it instead of being sick its much more productive trust me.

all of these things are easier said than done, but you've noticed you have a problem, and i'm sure you don't want it anymore so you need to do the right things to change.

also is it your body you feel guilty about or just food and all things seperate from your body?

probably not that great advice but i tried :colondollar:
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Well I really want to tell my boyfriend, but I am so afraid of telling him. I don't want him to worry or over react.

And its not really my body its more like the seperate things that are happening and being sick has helped me deal with things, almost like its taken my mind of whats really happening and makes me feel better.

And I don't play an instrument or anything like that. I have started walking and listening to my ipod while im walking which I find really relaxing and gets me out of the house which is nice! :smile:

Thank you for your help. I really appreciate it :smile: x
Original post by pheebee
Well I really want to tell my boyfriend, but I am so afraid of telling him. I don't want him to worry or over react.

And its not really my body its more like the seperate things that are happening and being sick has helped me deal with things, almost like its taken my mind of whats really happening and makes me feel better.

And I don't play an instrument or anything like that. I have started walking and listening to my ipod while im walking which I find really relaxing and gets me out of the house which is nice! :smile:

Thank you for your help. I really appreciate it :smile: x


no problem :smile: happy to

after you eat try if you can to go for a walk, it'll remind you why you eat - so you can physically walk and if it calms you down by the time you get in maybe the feelings of guilt will have passed.

definately tell your boyfriend if you can, its so useful to have support and if you explain it properly i'm sure he'll understand. also not telling him means he won't understand if you ever seem moody or bothered by stuff so really telling him may stop him over reacting.

if it's other things then maybe try to use other methods to solve your stress which won't harm you. it may take a bit of trial and error to find what works for you, but dealing with stress calmly and well is always useful and stress shouldn't make you hurt yourself! by 'coping' with your stress this way your not actually coping with it, your just giving yourself another thing to feel stressed over. good distraction maybe but if you never cope with the original problem then this one won't be able to go away

ha turned a bit bull****ty sorry

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Original post by Antiaris
You're kidding me!

I was doing a pharmacy course earlier this year! In UEA. Found that the University was brilliant, but the course just didn't match what I wanted... from life. I found pharmacy to be too... stifling. I've talked to too many pharmacists who say that whilst it pays the bills they regret going in for it as they found it so uninspiring.

It's the type of subject I'd say where you need a passion for it. I struggled too much with the course pretty much being training to be a shop manager. :frown:


Spoiler



It's been really inspiring reading about how people picked their courses. It's almost like you simply stepped up to... callings. Not. Intimidated. At. All.

:lolwut:



lmao bless you at callings. nah i feel it would give me fulfillment cos it's actually a worthy career and it may be uninspiring to some but definitely not all! and if its a career it means its better than any 9-5 job on 500 a month lol but as i said seriously i wouldnt feel like going to uni if i hadnt gotten into pharmacy i wouldnt go for any other course...maybe chemistry and become a teacher for the job security but whether id enjoy that:lolwut: doubt it. but honestly i dont find anything else appealing to me personally and the fact that it pays the bills is enough but obviously not ; i have flexibility of hours , shifts etc which appeals as sometimes im nocturnal lol. but honestly science incooporated into a vocation=:yy: for me

no calling just the mind saying do the next best thing and do pharmacy . i would never go to uni to do a degree for the sake of it i.e no prospects at the end.
youl be fine hun im not shocked cos i recall reading youd dropped out which is a massive shame :frown: :hugs: didnt you feel like the uni was that great u cud put up with it?
i hope i dont find it as boring as u did :frown:
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My parents are doing the whole mimicking the anorexia thing again. Jesus, do they want me to relapse? I was hungry ffs, therefore I eat - it's a healthy and natural reaction! Urgh.
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Original post by Aemiliana
My parents are doing the whole mimicking the anorexia thing again. Jesus, do they want me to relapse? I was hungry ffs, therefore I eat - it's a healthy and natural reaction! Urgh.


When my dad gets drunk he goes all sarcastic and says some pretty cutting sarcastic anorexia-based remarks. I understand he doesn't mean to hurt me but it can be difficult.

Pheebee, you are absolutely in the right place and you definitely have the makings of a standard eating disorder. The great thing is you've recognised it and can combat it before it gets out of hand.

Finally - Four meals a day? Consistently? I am MEGA PROUD. Seriously. Right now, I am wanting to embrace you and give you the squooshiest, mooshiest hug ever!

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Original post by squiff93
no problem :smile: happy to

after you eat try if you can to go for a walk, it'll remind you why you eat - so you can physically walk and if it calms you down by the time you get in maybe the feelings of guilt will have passed.

definately tell your boyfriend if you can, its so useful to have support and if you explain it properly i'm sure he'll understand. also not telling him means he won't understand if you ever seem moody or bothered by stuff so really telling him may stop him over reacting.

if it's other things then maybe try to use other methods to solve your stress which won't harm you. it may take a bit of trial and error to find what works for you, but dealing with stress calmly and well is always useful and stress shouldn't make you hurt yourself! by 'coping' with your stress this way your not actually coping with it, your just giving yourself another thing to feel stressed over. good distraction maybe but if you never cope with the original problem then this one won't be able to go away

ha turned a bit bull****ty sorry

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I will try and tell him, although I think it may take a while. But I will work on it! :smile:
Thank you for the rest of your advice too, its been really helpful! I will take on board everything you have said :smile: xxxx
Original post by pheebee
I will try and tell him, although I think it may take a while. But I will work on it! :smile:
Thank you for the rest of your advice too, its been really helpful! I will take on board everything you have said :smile: xxxx


goodluck !!! :smile::jumphug:

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Wohoooo go soul!! *does dance*

Edit: Every time I think about going back to councilling I feel terrified. She's lovely - but my anxiety levels rocket in the room and then I have to talk and then feel really ill. It's an hour of worrying about passing out.
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Original post by squiff93
goodluck !!! :smile::jumphug:

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Thank you! :smile: xxxx
Back at the doctors on Monday for a repeat prescription and to hear about the progress of getting to see an ED specialist. I also hate to say it but I've put off getting a blood test done even though my doctor has been telling me to get one done honestly I'm afraid of having blood taken because my health and what not is not good as it is and I feel constantly weak and near collapse the thought of having blood taken terrifies me because what if I end up collapsing after it? :frown:
Original post by Linweth
Back at the doctors on Monday for a repeat prescription and to hear about the progress of getting to see an ED specialist. I also hate to say it but I've put off getting a blood test done even though my doctor has been telling me to get one done honestly I'm afraid of having blood taken because my health and what not is not good as it is and I feel constantly weak and near collapse the thought of having blood taken terrifies me because what if I end up collapsing after it? :frown:


I'm going through a similar thing I was given a blood test form on Thursday and told to do it upstairs after my appointment. But I wasn't prepared so I didn't feel like I could do it. Then I put it in my bag with my umbrella so its all soggy and its going to embarrass me to give to the nurse another thing putting me off. My last blood test found a kidney infection, so I'm also worried what its going to bring up this time as I physically feel worse. To be honest its making me thick at the moment I have no memory and so I can't even remember how I was or what I did the previous day week etc so talking to drs is embarrassing. Ultimately though I think I'm going to have it to get people off my back. You should to maybe it'll give you even more reason to improve.
Could you possibly eat something before and have an emergency snack in your bag incase you feel faint after?
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Original post by squiff93
I'm going through a similar thing I was given a blood test form on Thursday and told to do it upstairs after my appointment. But I wasn't prepared so I didn't feel like I could do it. Then I put it in my bag with my umbrella so its all soggy and its going to embarrass me to give to the nurse another thing putting me off. My last blood test found a kidney infection, so I'm also worried what its going to bring up this time as I physically feel worse. To be honest its making me thick at the moment I have no memory and so I can't even remember how I was or what I did the previous day week etc so talking to drs is embarrassing. Ultimately though I think I'm going to have it to get people off my back. You should to maybe it'll give you even more reason to improve.
Could you possibly eat something before and have an emergency snack in your bag incase you feel faint after?
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Hi Squiff! I'm sorry about yesterday! I didn't even ask if you'd done the tests! Its not your fault the paper got wet ,phlebotomists are nice! The bloodtest will help you know your enemy! "keep your friends close,enemies closer" haha!

I love your new proactive attitude! Welldone! You're being totally super!

I have that memory problems too, once I went to the doc to tell her about my memory problems but I couldnt remember any examples of the problems it was causing me so I was giggling because I found it really funny! But the doc didnt take me seriously (understandably as I was giggling and couldnt think of problems) and told me its a behavioural thing and that I just need to focus! I was annoyed but I'll try again next time !

For you though, writing a big long list of problems beforehand is very useful ,as they occur,then you can just hand it to the doc to read!

Have a good day! Hopefully We'll be able to talk later! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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