The Long Distance Relationship Society Advice Centre

i hate LDR,i like to be with him all day.

So what's the furthest LDR in here then?

Well... im guessing this isnt the furthest, but in 3 days me and my bf will be starting an LDR, as Im moving to australia and he lives in the north of scotland

I love him to bits but Im so scared, especially cos weve only been together for 2 and a half months, trust me to get into a relationship just before i move...

Does anyone ever worry about their significant others when they are so far away? I mean like that if anything happened to them you wouldnt know because theyre so far away? Just wondering if Im being paranoid...

help. in a confused, complicated relationship at the moment.
a guy i really love has gone away for 5 months, he has gone on a long holiday as his exams have finished.
i really love him but we aren't dating yet so that makes me feel worse.
help. what can i do?
and when he cums back,if he does, how will i be able to get in a relationship with him?

Hello there, I'm really stuck in a rut and thought you guys could give me a bit of advice regarding my boyfriend (who lives 100 miles away and I've been with for 1 and a half years.
I did post this on another forum, but I think seeing as most of your are in ldrs, you would give more relevant advice. So here goes: its a long post, sorry.

Basically, all my friends say to me that my boyfriend treats me like crap...and I think I'm starting to believe them. But I'd still like an outsiders view.
I'll give you a few examples of the things he has done to make me cry.
2 months into the relationship he asked me to introduce him to one of my friends, so I did. I later found out from her that he flirted with her and didn't tell her he had a girlfriend (she didn't know i was with him at the time). I broke up with him, cus at the time I wasn't into him that much. He emotionally blackmailed me (fainting at school, starving himself, begging at my door etc), and we got back together. After that, we had a pretty much perfect relationship for 9 months. He was great.

It all started going downhill when he went to university. In December, he went on holiday with these three American girls to spain, and didn't tell me until 2 days before. I felt a bit hurt that he didn't think to consult me, but eventually got over it when he came back for Christmas.
In his second term, he started neglecting to call me (we had planned before he went to uni that we would speak once a day on the phone). He would often ignore me for up to 4 days. I told him off for this, but he keeps doing it!
Valentines day - I get no card or gift...but I at least expected a phonecall. At one am on feb 15th i get a text from him saying that he wont be able to call me. I ask him why and he tells me that he wanted to go to a party with some americans in his halls common room. wtf?!

Around April time, he again neglected to call me for a period of 4 days. When he came back for Easter, I did a bad thing and looked at his phone. what I found was a lengthy text conversation with a girl from his uni, during the period when he was ignoring me. In this conversation he admitted to this girl that he wanted to '**** around' yet wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. What the hell? He then asked her how she gives good blowjobs, and told her I was only average at them (what does he expect? he is my first, I'm young and not experienced). Then she told him she would take him out to spearmint rhino to get rid of his frustrations, and that she would bring round some porn videos for him. This isn't normal friend behaviour surely?! Also, why does he think its okay to have a long late night text convo with this girl, yet ignore his own girlfriend?
Thing is, him and this other guy are gonna be living with this girl next year, which means I will eventually have to meet her. I really dread this, cus she knows so much private stuff about me, it's gonna be so awkward for me. Argh!

If you read all that I congratulate you.

This may or may not be 100% relevent, but I'm about to leave my partner for over a month to go backpacking in Africa. I'm not taking my phone and obviously internet access will be massively limited, if I bother with it at all. Does anyone have some ideas for what we could do? We haven't been together for that long so I feel really bad about vanishing with basically no contact for a bit. I'm going to send him postcards from each country I go to but they could take at least a week to arrive. I'm thinking of maybe leaving some things hidden around for him in a much less creepy version of PS I Love You sort of style, does anyone have any other ideas I can use?

You're welcome, we all help each other on here

I'd be interested to hear how it goes when you meet him if you don't mind/remember

Oooooh time for news

So.....he flew in....and we spent the most blissfull 10 days of my entire existence. We got on just as well and even better than online, it was truly like we'd know each-other for ages and ages.

Now comes the hard bit because he's back home and we have to go on with our lives until I get to fly to the UK some time in 2months... so the true trials of LDR are now before us. For the moment it's obviously the physical absence that hurts most, but with daily msn chats and the like, time should fly past!!

So that is where I am at now! Very very happy and looking forward to seeing where/how things go from here

Oooooh time for news

So.....he flew in....and we spent the most blissfull 10 days of my entire existence. We got on just as well and even better than online, it was truly like we'd know each-other for ages and ages.

Now comes the hard bit because he's back home and we have to go on with our lives until I get to fly to the UK some time in 2months... so the true trials of LDR are now before us. For the moment it's obviously the physical absence that hurts most, but with daily msn chats and the like, time should fly past!!

So that is where I am at now! Very very happy and looking forward to seeing where/how things go from here