Hi guys,
I'm a third year student at Leeds University. I applied for 5 different universities initially, got accepted into 4 of them, but because my home was in Leeds my parents insisted I stayed in Leeds for University. I wanted to go to SOAS in London, which I got the grades for, but my parents told me they would not support me to go to London, because it would be too expensive.
As it turned out, they wouldn't support me at all. They earn a lot of money. Between them close to 80 grand a year. Despite this, in my first year I applied for both loans, maintenance and fees, and agreed that even though I was in Leeds I would have to move out because the University was just to far away. Because they earn so much I'm entitled to no grants, bursarys etc, and my maintenance loan wouldn't even cover my accomodation, yet my parents refused to give me any financial help, on the premise that it wasn't fair that I rely on them for money because 'why should they'. So, despite being told specifically by my course tutor that I should not be working alongside my course due to its intensity, I got a job at a supermarket working 20 hours per week, which meant that I suffered academically and had no social life.
My second year I studied abroad in Japan, and was lucky enough to recieve a scholarship from the Japanese government which quelled my financial worries while I was there.
I am now just about to start my third year, and although the maintenance loan I am entitled to has always been the minimum, this time it's even lower for some reason, and the hours I would be required to afford to live, study and pay the excess on my accomodation are unfeasable, so I have been forced to move back home despite the distance. Had I been studying away from Leeds, I would actually have to quit my course.
My parents have recently sold their second home abroad and booked another two holidays, but still refuse to give any financial support to me or my sister, insisting that it's our responsibility. They don't seem to understand that the government assumes they will help me if they're earning what they are.
I don't have a bad relationship with my parents - in fact we're very close. I just thing that they're a a bit tight and selfish when it comes to money. Most parents invest in their childrens education - mine invested in a second home and me and my sister suffer greatly for it. I somtimes think life would be easier if one of them suddenly lost their job - income would half and I'd actually get some support from the government. Some of my friends who qualify for the full grant, bursary etc have more money than they know what to do with, and when I'm invited out I always seem to be the one guy who can't go out because I'm working or I'm too poor, which seems odd considering my parents earn a lot more than most.
So, what am I to do? I understand that the government will lend support to students whose parents are 'estranged', but while I'm living in the same house with them I don't think that's going to wash somehow. I'd like to work but my first year was such a struggle and this year means so much that I don't think I'll be able to. I'm not sure who's in the wrong really; my parents who refuse to support me, or the government who assumes they will. What should I do guys?