Attractive girl but with no friends

you don't have to be attractive to have friends

who bases friendships on looks? I know quite a lot of people who don't have great aesthetics but they are way way more popular than me. I'm slightly introverted so obviously have less friends, it's all about personality

Firstly, I think we should be the judge of whether you are attractive or not.

Beauty?
Low Self-Esteem?

Hi, I don't believe we've met!

I just wondered if anyone else is in a similar position as me.

I've never been one of the popular girls and I didn't become 'attractive' (in my opinion) until I was about 16/17. I've always had friends but these days they are few and far between apart from a couple of really good friends that I have had since I was about 13.

I find it hard to make friends. I'm quite quiet, not really shy just don't talk that much. I find I get along a lot easier with guys than girls, though I would quite like some female friends. Problem is, most of the girls I know are either very bitchy and extremely concerned about self-image etc or they just don't want to know me. I've been told by one girl who I got to know while we were both wasted that she used to see me as quite intimidating before she got to know me because I didn't say much and was so 'pretty'. This made me quite sad as I get the feeling I must project this image of being stuck up or something when I am not.

I feel as though if I were average looking I would have more friends because girls either have that weird bitchy thing where they hate other girls who are pretty (even though they are gorgeous themselves) or they see me as cold/un interested and as though I think I'm better than them or something.

How can I stop projecting this image? I'm not arrogant or stuck up, I'm just quiet, but I do want to get to know people!

I'm sure I will get some abuse for calling myself attractive because having decent self esteem clearly means I am a cocky bitch who thinks she is god's gift.. oh well

Anyway thanks in advance to helpful answers.

Kinda irrelevant. If I showed a picture of myself and you thought I wasn't attractive then fine but that doesn't help me, I know I am considered attractive among certain people. And if you saw me and thought I was attractive, that doesn't help either. I don't care if anyone here thinks I'm ugly/average etc I'm just asking for advice on how to project a better image of myself, and not as some stuck up stupid bint.

Ok, it's the girls who wear make-up and are popular who are the ones who I dislike the most. It is pathetic. Who cares what you look like? In the case of men, it is better they fall in love with you for who you are not just how you look!


Anyway, they will not be your real friends if they go by how you look. They are only a proper friend if they like you, for you.

Seriously. No need with all this "how I look" crap. I don't mean it harshly, but just get on with life, and know that you can be happy who you are.

In fact watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gc4HGQHgeFE
It is clearer the way he describes it all...

p.s. I do know how it feels to be like that. Unsure whether you are pretty or not. I just got on with my life, and just acted me.. I had a nice amount of friends - never properly 100% true I suppose, but when I was 16 a boy noticed me.. and now nearly 2.5 years on and we are still having fun!!!

I used to have similar problems. Sometimes people would act all shy around me, especially girls. Or guys would get super passive aggressive. I know how you feel. Best advice I can give is to do things you love so that you give off positive vibes and you'll meet people that way.

You're not arrogant. You're a cocky bitch who thinks she's god's gift. I like that.

well you say you're attractive... Lets see a picture and i'll judge that.

You could always make friends with boys. They're not going to hate you because you're pretty. Quite the opposite in fact.

I just wondered if anyone else is in a similar position as me.

I've never been one of the popular girls and I didn't become 'attractive' (in my opinion) until I was about 16/17. I've always had friends but these days they are few and far between apart from a couple of really good friends that I have had since I was about 13.

I find it hard to make friends. I'm quite quiet, not really shy just don't talk that much. I find I get along a lot easier with guys than girls, though I would quite like some female friends. Problem is, most of the girls I know are either very bitchy and extremely concerned about self-image etc or they just don't want to know me. I've been told by one girl who I got to know while we were both wasted that she used to see me as quite intimidating before she got to know me because I didn't say much and was so 'pretty'. This made me quite sad as I get the feeling I must project this image of being stuck up or something when I am not.

I feel as though if I were average looking I would have more friends because girls either have that weird bitchy thing where they hate other girls who are pretty (even though they are gorgeous themselves) or they see me as cold/un interested and as though I think I'm better than them or something.

How can I stop projecting this image? I'm not arrogant or stuck up, I'm just quiet, but I do want to get to know people!

I'm sure I will get some abuse for calling myself attractive because having decent self esteem clearly means I am a cocky bitch who thinks she is god's gift.. oh well

Anyway thanks in advance to helpful answers.

I just wondered if anyone else is in a similar position as me.

I've never been one of the popular girls and I didn't become 'attractive' (in my opinion) until I was about 16/17. I've always had friends but these days they are few and far between apart from a couple of really good friends that I have had since I was about 13.

I find it hard to make friends. I'm quite quiet, not really shy just don't talk that much. I find I get along a lot easier with guys than girls, though I would quite like some female friends. Problem is, most of the girls I know are either very bitchy and extremely concerned about self-image etc or they just don't want to know me. I've been told by one girl who I got to know while we were both wasted that she used to see me as quite intimidating before she got to know me because I didn't say much and was so 'pretty'. This made me quite sad as I get the feeling I must project this image of being stuck up or something when I am not.

I feel as though if I were average looking I would have more friends because girls either have that weird bitchy thing where they hate other girls who are pretty (even though they are gorgeous themselves) or they see me as cold/un interested and as though I think I'm better than them or something.

How can I stop projecting this image? I'm not arrogant or stuck up, I'm just quiet, but I do want to get to know people!

I'm sure I will get some abuse for calling myself attractive because having decent self esteem clearly means I am a cocky bitch who thinks she is god's gift.. oh well

Anyway thanks in advance to helpful answers.

Babe, you could be butterz. man up and show us a pic, then we might be able to properly help you.

I actually find it difficult to talk to the "popular girls" I've tried, though.
I have a friend who was in your situation, that's not the case anymore
You need to go for the shy ones like yourself, often they have more depth and personality than most; they're loyal too
Good luck and don't feel down, god\allah gave you good looks so don't wish you were something else; plus everyone probably wants to look like you so it would be kinda...ungrateful to think like that

I'm the same as you.

I have very few female friends.

The whole popular girls are bitchy towards over attractive girls really annoys me because i would say in my group of ten close girl friends 8 are very attractive and at college when we got speaking to people we found out a lot of people assumed we would just be bitches and really superficial which it turned out we weren't. We all liked to take pride in our appearances but it was quite sad to think people thought we wouldn't want to speak to them. Basically think of it like this - you're saying people are judging you on your appearance yet are you not doing exactly the same by just presuming the 'pretty popular' girls will not be friends because your attractive?

Give them a chance, try talking to them, you'd probably be surprised.

How exactly? She's already confident in her appearence. It's her personality she has a problem with and you can hardly help her with that from a picture.