Hi guys - thread starter here.
This thread is actually ridiculously old - 2 years - and although it's all over now, both the dreams and our relationship I thought I'd just stop by to reply because I realised a few things after we broke up, like you do... hindsight and all that
and just thought I'd share.
Although I wasn't willing to admit it at the time, there was always something, maybe wrong is too harsh, but something
not quite right and at the time I couldn't put my finger on it and most of the time I just let it go. Now I can look back and say that it was trust. I didn't really have any reason not to trust him, and it wasn't necessarily a lack of trust in fidelity or whatever, there was just
something about him that I didn't feel at ease with. I'm sure you both know as well as I do that in dreams things often don't make sense, or seem to be a warped view on something. I am now absolutely convinced that this lack of trust was shown in by dreams by me imagining him cheating. Again, it's not that I didn't trust him with girls, I just think that's how the lack of trust was portrayed in my dreams.
I'm not gona sit and lecture you that you should confront your boyfriends about something; it could well be the messages you see, or the fact that things are changing. But what I would do is to consider what it is about your relationship that is actually giving you a bad feeling and confront that. I wish I had have done. So f it is the messages to another girl, bring it up. If it is going to uni, talk about it until it's not having such a big influence on you any more.
People will no doubt say 'Come on it's just a dream
' But as you can probably both tell, it also influences the way you act towards your boyfriend, the trust you have in him is disturbed and it can give you a genuinely bad feeling throughout the day. Obviously this might not help to fix it, but I'm just giving you an idea of what I would have done, had I known then what I do now. The biggest weight off my shoulders for me has been not having this niggling feeling in the back of my mind. So go confront whatever it is does it to you, 'cause these things don't just go away by themselves. Hope all works out for the best for both of you x