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I ****ing hate people and im sick of my life

Im at uni and freshers is nearly over. I've been in the kitchen for about an hour and a half talking with a flatmate. He's a really cool guy and interesting but all the time he was talking i just felt like going into my room to be alone.

I'm depressed and in my 2nd year and all my flatmates keep asking me to go out and drink but i dont want to because it really ****s with my head and i feel suicidal the next day, plus my anxiety is through the roof and i juct cant cope.

Everyoen is talking about girls and going out and having fun whilst im stuck just feeling really miserable. I seem to have an ongoing throat infectiona dn my mate was telling me that i should get a nice girl and get in there before everyone else.

I dont really feel like doing anything roght now. I just want to die. I cant have relationships with people because i just hate them all as they always let you down no matter what. When people are nice and try to talk to me i just cannot be bothered with them and id rather just stay alone.

Can somebody help? I dont wanna die alone. Everyone at uni is having the time of their lives. They have money, jobs, nice clothes, friends, everything really and im just miserbale and on my own.

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Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
Im at uni and freshers is nearly over. I've been in the kitchen for about an hour and a half talking with a flatmate. He's a really cool guy and interesting but all the time he was talking i just felt like going into my room to be alone.

I'm depressed and in my 2nd year and all my flatmates keep asking me to go out and drink but i dont want to because it really ****s with my head and i feel suicidal the next day, plus my anxiety is through the roof and i juct cant cope.

Everyoen is talking about girls and going out and having fun whilst im stuck just feeling really miserable. I seem to have an ongoing throat infectiona dn my mate was telling me that i should get a nice girl and get in there before everyone else.

I dont really feel like doing anything roght now. I just want to die. I cant have relationships with people because i just hate them all as they always let you down no matter what. When people are nice and try to talk to me i just cannot be bothered with them and id rather just stay alone.

Can somebody help? I dont wanna die alone. Everyone at uni is having the time of their lives. They have money, jobs, nice clothes, friends, everything really and im just miserbale and on my own.


You really think your the only person in this world going through this?
Wisen up dude! There is so many people in your position, it's actaully funny!
Just remember atleast you have that guy to talk too, imagine if you had nobody?
Reply 2
Original post by SoCool 11
You really think your the only person in this world going through this?
Wisen up dude! There is so many people in your position, it's actaully funny!
Just remember atleast you have that guy to talk too, imagine if you had nobody?


Right so what do you suggest i do then?
Original post by SoCool 11
You really think your the only person in this world going through this?
Wisen up dude! There is so many people in your position, it's actaully funny!
Just remember atleast you have that guy to talk too, imagine if you had nobody?


Perfect example of what you don't say to someone if they're feeling suicidal.

OP, how long have you been feeling like this for?
Reply 4
You can actually call the NHS, and they will direct you to people to talk to regarding this sort of thing. But if you feel you would rather do something more informal. Sit down, try and relax and think about the things you hold dear, if none can be provided I recommend seeing your GP, or talking to a close family member asap for your sake.

All in all, remember there will be people that care for your well being and change is the one constant of life. You can provide more worth to it than residing on melancholy.
Reply 5
Sorry you feel this way, it does sound like your feelings are a bit complicated, though. Is there anything else bothering you? Because it doesn't sound like it's just the uni, considering you've made an effort to socialise and whatnot, but for some reason it makes you feel worse. Do you know why?

Original post by Belizibub
You can actually call the NHS, and they will direct you to people to talk to regarding this sort of thing. But if you feel you would rather do something more informal. Sit down, try and relax and think about the things you hold dear, if none can be provided I recommend seeing your GP, or talking to a close family member asap for your sake.

All in all, remember there will be people that care for your well being and change is the one constant of life. You can provide more worth to it than residing on melancholy.

Yep, NHS have a helpline - although it's for general stuff about your health, but they're very helpful for situations like this, too. NHS Direct number: 0845 4647

Be honest with them, they'll work out a way to try and help you, trust me. You can PM me if you'd like too.
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Reply 6
Original post by animalnitrate
Perfect example of what you don't say to someone if they're feeling suicidal.

OP, how long have you been feeling like this for?


Hey, I didn't mean to upset him.
What I meant was really that there is more people like him in his shoes and he really needs to find people like himself and share his experiences so they can both help each other out!
Don't be disheartened by this post, Sorry if I mislead anyone :smile:
Reply 7
Tbh it sounds like you should've taken a year off and had some sessions with a therapist. If you felt like this why did you throw yourself into a new environment where you're around new people 24/7? Pretending there isn't a problem when there clearly is one obviously doesn't work.
Original post by SoCool 11
Hey, I didn't mean to upset him.
What I meant was really that there is more people like him in his shoes and he really needs to find people like himself and share his experiences so they can both help each other out!
Don't be disheartened by this post, Sorry if I mislead anyone :smile:


It just came across as overly patronising and would have make OP feel worse, thanks for clearing that up, though. :smile:
Reply 9
Does your uni have a counselling service? I think most of them do, go ask at Student Services.

Don't feel like everyone else has a perfect life, because I assure you they don't. You don't need to aspire to perfection (e.g. perfect job, lots of money, nice clothes, massive circle of friends) to be happy.

And even though it seems like it at the moment, University isn't the be all and end all. It certainly wasn't the "best time of my life", but in three years it was gone and over and noone cared in the slightest about what happened at uni. So in the bigger picture, its going to be okay.
I was there once. But when we grow up (hopefully, through reading and learning in life), there are bigger things in life to worry (or more positively, think) about.

At university, we are here to learn more things, and NOT to socialise. Yes, socialising is a bonus, and it's very enjoyable. But I made a mistake by forgetting I was here to learn as much as possible.

And even then, it's not a big deal after all. Dying alone is also no big deal. There is no need to be scared of anything. Really.

If your eyesight is still okay, I suggest you pick up a book. goodreads has a lot of suggestion for good reads. Try Mastery of Love by Miguel Ruiz and tell me what you think about it, ok?
Could have written this myself. Maybe I did..hmmm
Are you on any medication? It does sound like you are depressed and I think doctors could help to an extent there.
Try not to feel pressured into doing stuff with people if you dont feel up to it. If you feel it might help to socialize a bit, then great! Go forth.. But if you know you cant just yet, thats fine too.
Reply 12
Original post by animalnitrate
It just came across as overly patronising and would have make OP feel worse, thanks for clearing that up, though. :smile:


No probs :smile:
I think everyone is equal and always thought that, I don't class myself above anyone else just the same, I would wont to patronise anyone!

Anyways, you seem quick to judge, you know sometimes you have to be very clearful to make a harsh statement like that, but I totally agree with your opinion, and it was misleading :P
Reply 13
I dont really feel like doing anything roght now. I just want to die. I cant have relationships with people because i just hate them all as they always let you down no matter what.


I promise you that there are people out there who you can rely on for support and genuine friendship, maybe not everyone, maybe not even that many, but they're out there. I wish i knew you, since I can completely empathise with you, I have some idea how it feels to feel resentful of others.

Can somebody help? I dont wanna die alone. Everyone at uni is having the time of their lives. They have money, jobs, nice clothes, friends, everything really and im just miserbale and on my own.


Solitude is bliss.
Original post by SoCool 11
No probs :smile:
I think everyone is equal and always thought that, I don't class myself above anyone else just the same, I would wont to patronise anyone!

Anyways, you seem quick to judge, you know sometimes you have to be very clearful to make a harsh statement like that, but I totally agree with your opinion, and it was misleading :P


It's just that having gone through depression myself, I've had a lot of people saying that I should look on the bright side, that I should cheer up, that my life isn't that bad, that other people have it so much worse than me, and so I'm quick to bring up anyone who makes similar references as a kind of defence mechanism, I guess.. :smile:
You say: "Everyone at uni is having the time of their lives. They have money, jobs, nice clothes, friends, everything really and im just miserbale and on my own."

This is such a sweeping statement.. where on earth do you get this from? I'm not at Uni yet but my friends who are certainly don't all have money, jobs, nice new clothes etc- all the time.
You are clearly quite immature and self absorbed to have these thoughts that YOU are the only one who is alone or struggling and only YOU don't have "everything really". Come on, wise up.
What kind of world are you living in that everyone around you is living, as you describe, a perfect life and you're the only one struggling? Make an effort- few people have their success come easily and without hard work. Only you can take the steps necessary to improve your life.

Oh and before anyone says anything, i've had mild depression on and off for a couple of years. It is not nice, but it also is not an excuse to be so close minded and assume that everyone else around you has it so easy. Grow up.
Reply 16
Original post by animalnitrate
It's just that having gone through depression myself, I've had a lot of people saying that I should look on the bright side, that I should cheer up, that my life isn't that bad, that other people have it so much worse than me, and so I'm quick to bring up anyone who makes similar references as a kind of defence mechanism, I guess.. :smile:


I totally understand, I hate it too, when people do that.
I didn't know about your depression, but I'm Sorry to hear that! I hope you get better and share you experiences, don't go through it alone, it's very hard... I know myself.
Reply 17
Original post by Beautiful.In.Los.Angeles.
You say: "Everyone at uni is having the time of their lives. They have money, jobs, nice clothes, friends, everything really and im just miserbale and on my own."

This is such a sweeping statement.. where on earth do you get this from? I'm not at Uni yet but my friends who are certainly don't all have money, jobs, nice new clothes etc- all the time.
You are clearly quite immature and self absorbed to have these thoughts that YOU are the only one who is alone or struggling and only YOU don't have "everything really". Come on, wise up.
What kind of world are you living in that everyone around you is living, as you describe, a perfect life and you're the only one struggling? Make an effort- few people have their success come easily and without hard work. Only you can take the steps necessary to improve your life.

Oh and before anyone says anything, i've had mild depression on and off for a couple of years. It is not nice, but it also is not an excuse to be so close minded and assume that everyone else around you has it so easy. Grow up.

When you're depressed, as you should know, you can sometimes feel like you're the only one with problems because it seems as if everyone elses life is better in comparison. Not to mention, being self-absorbed comes with the territory. I've looked at posts and stuff I've made when deeply depressed and been a bit iffed at how selfish and moany they sound, but it's the mindset..
Reply 18
Original post by Beautiful.In.Los.Angeles.
You say: "Everyone at uni is having the time of their lives. They have money, jobs, nice clothes, friends, everything really and im just miserbale and on my own."

This is such a sweeping statement.. where on earth do you get this from? I'm not at Uni yet but my friends who are certainly don't all have money, jobs, nice new clothes etc- all the time.
You are clearly quite immature and self absorbed to have these thoughts that YOU are the only one who is alone or struggling and only YOU don't have "everything really". Come on, wise up.
What kind of world are you living in that everyone around you is living, as you describe, a perfect life and you're the only one struggling? Make an effort- few people have their success come easily and without hard work. Only you can take the steps necessary to improve your life.

Oh and before anyone says anything, i've had mild depression on and off for a couple of years. It is not nice, but it also is not an excuse to be so close minded and assume that everyone else around you has it so easy. Grow up.


That's harsh and like youy said you are not at University yet so you do not know what it is like.
Yeah i make an effort. I actually joined societies and i talk to my flatmates whenever i see them plus i visit my other mates off campus.

If you have ever been really depressed then you wouldn't so quick to judge.
Reply 19
Original post by Niwde
Tbh it sounds like you should've taken a year off and had some sessions with a therapist. If you felt like this why did you throw yourself into a new environment where you're around new people 24/7? Pretending there isn't a problem when there clearly is one obviously doesn't work.


I did take a year off. It was during my gap year that everything got messed up. I started uni in 2010.
I had to move on with my life i couldnt just sit and wait until i got better.

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