I'm not attracted to my own ethnicity/race. Is this normal?

Hmmm....Are you not attracted to ANY? like...not even a Pakistani celebrity? Even if he's attractive? Or is it more of case where....you can see that he is attractive but YOU aren't attracted to him because he's not your type? If this is the case then I don't think its weird or anything. But if its more like...you never ever seen an attractive Pakistani guy or never met any Pakistani guy with a nice personality then I think something's up. I just find it really weird when people say that they have NEVER seen an attractive person of a certain race because i think they usually have some underlying issues with that race. Like...even if you show them picture of a person who is CLEARLY attractive and they still say they're ugly then....its weird lol I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder blah blah blah but some people just have faces where its CLEAR that they're not ugly. But anyway....I was in a similar position when I was younger...like I didn't find any Indian guys attractive but looking back now, I can see that I had slight self-hate issues. I still don't 'prefer' Indian guys but I can definitely find some of them attractive. I also prefer that same race of men as you lol.

Just don't worry too much...I really believe that once you get to know a guy his race and everything doesn't matter. And I'm sure you'll find a good Pakistani guy SOME day lol but if that doesn't happen, just try to tell your parents that you're not attracted to any Pakistani guys and you just wouldn't be happy with one?

From what I can gather it’s the attitude in some Pakistani men that is turning you off from them rather than their physical appearance, correct me, if I’m wrong. In every race you met idiots and cool folks, the onus is on you to expand your network of friends and since your at school you’ll have to wait until you go to university preferably a redbrick uni in order to meet new folks, try to meet some Pakistanis from the science and health dept (i.e Medics, Dentist, Pharamcist, Optom) as most of them have their head screwed on properly and are ambitious.

First and foremost, dating is haraam, period, and should you be looking for that type of arrangement with a Pakistani guy then I can safely label you as a naïve person because you, being a Pakistani, should understand our culture and how dating is frowned upon.

Personally speaking, I’m attracted to Pakistani girls and could never marry outside my race and as a Pakistani I would find it unbearable to marry someone from a different culture. Saying that, I could never marry a Pakistani girl who likes to gossip, and it’s imperative that she comes from a good family i.e highly educated and religious. We all have our set criteria when looking for a potential spouse however you have to put yourself, about, in order to find the right person.

Pakistani guy here and I think Pakistani girls are pretty repulsive myself so don't worry They listen to awful music, speak like utter idiots and seem to be shockingly boring with nothing interesting to say. I've been going out with a beautiful black girl for the past four years. We met when we were called to the bar and it's been a wonderfully supportive relationship - given the massive intellectual pressures of my work I could not see myself with anyone else. There is nothing wrong with your feeling this way, don't worry.

Pakistani guy here and I think Pakistani girls are pretty repulsive myself so don't worry They listen to awful music, speak like utter idiots and seem to be shockingly boring with nothing interesting to say. I've been going out with a beautiful black girl for the past four years. We met when we were called to the bar and it's been a wonderfully supportive relationship - given the massive intellectual pressures of my work I could not see myself with anyone else. There is nothing wrong with your feeling this way, don't worry.

The only Asian celeb I find attractive is Arjun Rampal, but that's because he looks European and its very rare to find Asian men that look like him.

The male celebs that I find attractive are : Orlando Blooom, Kaka, the entire Spanish and Italian football team players (particulary Marco Borriello)

My father is extremely against interracial. My parents would cut me out of their lives if I married a non-pakistani guy even if he is a Muslim.

So, if you met a girl and she was perfect in every sense, but just didn't happen to be Pakistani, would you marry her? I have a feeling all your "set criterias" will fly out of the window then, regardless of what you may say.

The only Asian celeb I find attractive is Arjun Rampal, but that's because he looks European and its very rare to find Asian men that look like him.

The only Asian celeb I find attractive is Arjun Rampal, but that's because he looks European and its very rare to find Asian men that look like him.

The male celebs that I find attractive are : Orlando Blooom, Kaka, the entire Spanish and Italian football team players (particulary Marco Borriello)

My father is extremely against interracial. My parents would cut me out of their lives if I married a non-pakistani guy even if he is a Muslim.

Marrying a Pakistani is a prerequisite when the time comes for me to look for a potential spouse and I would most probably rather remain single than marry someone outside of my nationality.



If he looks European to you then I would most certainly pass as an Albino. He isn't even good looking and I've seen plenty of local Pakistani lads that look a million times better than him! I'm actually beginning to think you're a troll!

a troll because she has a different opinion of what is good looking? i also find arjun rampal very good looking. i think by 'european' she means his FEATURES and his overall 'look' in very european. not the skin colour

Arjun Rampal is good looking (not gay my friend ) but yeah true he is.

lol SEE Dr.Sweet Science? even guys think he is Judging by the amount of flirting that was going in that other thread (sister being racist) TruetoMyself, I think its pretty obvious you're not gay :P

haha flirting= habit of mine now my turn to flirt with you....

so you come here often

I'm not attracted to my own ethnicity/race either, I don't really think it's worth analysing too deeply. People don't sit around torturing themselves over "why don't I find short guys attractive?!" and "why do I prefer blondes over brunettes?!", it's just one of those things, a preference is a preference, the only reason you're worried about it is because you're worried about the connotations of having a racial preference - don't think of it that way, it's just physical.

Marrying a Pakistani is a prerequisite when the time comes for me to look for a potential spouse and I would most probably rather remain single than marry someone outside of my nationality.

Im the same im only attracted to oriental girls and im white. There is nothing wrong with you ,your parents are stuck in the past its up to you to break the ignorance of your previous generation . Would you force your daughter to marry a Pakistani if she didn't want too ?

If your parents can't deal with it ,then you need to move on its your life not theirs .