Any guys here completely turned their luck around with women........?

I am 25 and only had sex once and never actually had a girlfriend. I mean even though I am tall and alright looking, I still struggle to get women who are actually attracted to me I think. Its partly to do with being shy but perhaps women see that Im not really that confident as I dont have the chat. Did you manage to change to reverse your fortunes with the ladies? Need advice badly. cheer

I did - at high school I never had much luck with anyone so was put off quite badly. When I went to uni (last year at 18) I met someone amazing and thought "you are only going to get one chance at this, your past doesn't matter, just try as hard as you can and see what happens".

As it happens that was a very good idea as 13 months on things are still going great

Confidence and self belief are very important - good luck.

Confidence is something that everyone has to a certain extent. For instance, I could hold lengthy, funny conversations with girls I saw as just friends but struggled to string more than a few words together when talking to a girl I fancied. It irritated me that I could come across as so pathetic. Why would they ever consider going for a guy who was overly nervous, delicate, not making eye contact and awkwardly finding excuses to exit what could have been a promising situation ? So, I decided to take on a more care-free attitude. It's not all about her being overwhelmingly hot as I had something to offer. Is she really right for me ? Feeling more comfortable in myself I can hold conversations, tease girls, make them blush, tilt their heads, stroke their hair etc and it only adds to the comfort and confidence as you get stronger, taking a lead in the conversation. She should want you, let her know you can have what you want.

Confidence is something that everyone has to a certain extent. For instance, I could hold lengthy, funny conversations with girls I saw as just friends but struggled to string more than a few words together when talking to a girl I fancied. It irritated me that I could come across as so pathetic. Why would they ever consider going for a guy who was overly nervous, delicate, not making eye contact and awkwardly finding excuses to exit what could have been a promising situation ? So, I decided to take on a more care-free attitude. It's not all about her being overwhelmingly hot as I had something to offer. Is she really right for me ? Feeling more comfortable in myself I can hold conversations, tease girls, make them blush, tilt their heads, stroke their hair etc and it only adds to the comfort and confidence as you get stronger, taking a lead in the conversation. She should want you, let her know you can have what you want.

Yeh, I've got to be more carefree, good advice. As I said above, my confidence fluctuates so much with girls. I seem to make some girls laugh but others not really and I think sometimes when my confidence is low I come across as really boring. Thing is Im not sure if the laughing is genuine and whether they're just a bit easily amused. Thing is I have quite a cheeky sense of humour and I try and tone this down a bit. Would you say you're quite witty? I seem to have my moments but feel like if Im not witty/cant think of anything particularly funny to say, then she won't fancy me. You obviously sound like a bit of a casanova if you're making girls blush etc, lol Would you say you're a good looking dude as well?

Yeah, I would say I am fairly witty. If a girl doesn't get my sense of humour though I find it's a non-starter. I'm not a "lad", but i'll try and be confident and assertive pushing the boundaries with certain comments in a jokey tone. A girl told me the other day that she wasn't sure whether she either found me cocky and very attractive or arrogant and not so attractive lol.

I would say I am fairly average looking but I work out which helps (definitely boosted my self-esteem). I used to have confidence issues and be overly sensitive, but I have learned over the years that it's how you act around others that determines how attractive you are. There's this girl at work that isn't particularly pretty, but she's quirky and I find her to be an attractive person.

I don't know about you, but I have been guilty of over-analysing girls/dates and trying to model myself on what I think they want. This isn't the way to go. It's difficult to maintain and you end up kicking yourself when you find out she would have wanted the person you are normally. The key is to being comfortable in yourself and not being intimidated by the girl in front of you. She's just another girl - think of it like that.

Im definitely like that, always overanalysing, thinking like maybe she doesn't like me cos I have a big nose and **** like that even though every now and then I get told Im 'handsome.' Yeh I guess I feel confident and go for it if a girl is easy going and initally laughs at something I say but if she doesn't, I just cease up. I wish I was really witty, I mean I have my moments, I guess it comes to you naturally or were you not always like that? Do you get quite a lot of action then?

I am 25 and only had sex once and never actually had a girlfriend. I mean even though I am tall and alright looking, I still struggle to get women who are actually attracted to me I think. Its partly to do with being shy but perhaps women see that Im not really that confident as I dont have the chat. Did you manage to change to reverse your fortunes with the ladies? Need advice badly. cheer

You can get by on having a common interest and by being decisive in what you say. Throwing in a few teasing comments can spice up the attraction. I'd say that I have always been fairly witty, but it's an acquired taste and not always appreciated lol.

As for action, funnily enough the type of girl I usually like to date hasn't really got me anywhere recently. Hard work no reward.

In ONS / casual encounters I do ok. Not the types of girls I would consider dating, but as I have found dating to be a pain of late I want to have some fun.

The day i realised my self-worth was the day my luck changed with the ladies.

Do you have any good openers at all? That would really help, cheers. I normally just say something lame like if they're not dancing I say something like ,'come on,lets dance, you're being wasted over here.'

for the better? How did you value your self-worth?

Yes for the better, I found out with time how to deal with my inner demons, whether it was from insecurities, abuse in adolescence or lack of a skill and with everyday i applied to progressing my self further in body, mind and soul.

You become a more complete person, if you've heard the phrase 'he was a shell of a man, or the shadow of a man he use to be' it's that concept of how much you fill yourself to the point where you don't require external things to make you happy healthy and succesful and that attracts women.. the fact that you function just fine on your own and don't need them, when a man who doesn't need a woman.. wants a woman it makes the woman realise how special she is in his eyes.

Women can't smell desperacy a mile off.. they can just asses how complete the person is they are talking to and compare it to their own completeness, thats why you get easy girls and queens

Congrats, thats good news, I guess my confidence just fluctuates so much with girls. Sometimes i feel pretyt confident and others I just feel like they find me boring. Could I ask how you met her?