I can settle all your bitching in one short post -
There is grappling style in Chinese Kung Fu, its called Shuai jiao and it pre dates judo, sambo, greek wrestling etc by hundreds of years. Itself it came from one of the more ancient Indian wrestling styles whoose name escapes me now, i think from south india, where throws and also joint locks and submissions were allowed - as well as taking some influence from tibetan and mongolian wrestling.
I know this because my previous sifu competed in national championships in china few years back - in competiton it is extremly similar to judo but without the full gis, so not so much sleeves and collar takedowns, but does allow some limited distraction striking , open palm only i think.
Observe some class grappling - ignore the 60 seconds upfront of bjj guys used as comparison, the two chinese kung fu guys later take it to the level, - note 2.06m at reversal of the single leg attempt.
[video="youtube;QuVhGKEIcxE"]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QuVhGKEIcxE&feature=rela ted[/video]
And for the record, im full-on kung fu trained and would wipe the floor with you all if was in the mood
Edit - lol Truth hurts eh?