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Does anyone know what measures sixth forms/colleges take when they find out that a pupil has an ED and self harms?

I'm considering going to see my sixth form's counsellor (if we have one =S) but I'm scared of what they might do once they find out. I don't want them to tell my family (I'm 17 if that changes anything) because my family really don't give a **** but I don't want the school to know this.

Neither ED or my self harming are very severe but I think that if I haven't developed it already, then I might be developing depression as a result.

Hi guys I'm new to this thread though I've been following it for some time.

I'm 18 and I relapsed into anorexia about a year and a half ago. I first got ill when I was 13, and my lowest weight was 70lb (5 stones) at 5'2. Now my weight has dropped from 118lb (8.4 stones) to 96lb (a little under 7 stones) at 5'3. It's not so bad this time and I don't really starve myself although I'm very careful with food (I usually have about 1200-1500 calories per day and never go under 1000 calories). I even tried to regain some weight and got up from 102 lb to 105lb like a year ago or so, but maintained it only for a few months and have lost more weight since then.

I'm not rapidly losing weight as I have no intention to do so. My weight is fairly stable, but I lose 1-2lb sporadically about every 2 months (eg. I have low appetite for a few days and lose a bit of weight without regaining afterwards). My ED also seems to be getting progressively worse slowly.

Here's the problem: I haven't had a natural period in 14 months (had one last May after taking progestin-only pills). However, I faked a period last month to make my parents think I'm okay. I also make myself appear to weigh 102lb (the agreed minimum target weight) on the scale when I'm actually just 96lb. I know it's really bad but haven't been able to bring myself to gain weight. Lying has been my solution.

I really want to get better. I'm afraid I'll get osteoporosis. I want a good social life; I want to have children in the future; I want to be happy. However, I can't stand the idea of gaining weight. Whenever I'm faced with food my greatest concern is to keep to my strict diet or sometimes eat even less.

I would really like to have someone (or some people) to talk to. I can't let them know I've been lying--I wouldn't be able to face their wrath and disappointment.

Please share your experience or give some advice/motivate me?

The science (Spoilered as it may sound a little distant or harsh. It's the basic guide to recovery)


And now a bit more of a human approach.

chasingdream, be honest. Be honest with yourself, and honest with others. You, yourself, see that there is an issue. Don't feel worried about asking for help. Stay on top of yourself. You sound like you have a massive apathy towards things at the moment, don't. Find what makes you happy, find what will make you fight.

Find what you love.
Find what you hate.
Find yourself a little. Your quirks. Your quandaries. Your... queeniness(?)

An eating disorder isn't like any other disease where you just lie there and kinda get better. You have to actively FIGHT.

And you will be surprised by people. You would expect wrath and disappointment but the most you will see is worry and support. People really don't understand it ("Just drink lots-o cup-a-soups and you'll be fine!" is what I remember.) Just remember there is a support network ready, be it NHS or TSR.

Does anyone know what measures sixth forms/colleges take when they find out that a pupil has an ED and self harms?

My situation is great at the moment. Over the past week(ish) i've been eating when i'm hungry, stopping when i'm satisfied and getting a rough balance of fruit and veg, carbs, protein, sugar and fat in my mind for each day without obsessing over calories or weight loss. I don't know how i've managed to gain this control (it was either starve or binge for sooooo long), but I am just praying that it stays. This feeling of freedom is just ... I can think about food without panic or urgency. A massive thing has been taking my time to think about and prepare what i'm going to eat, and not treating it like some awful decision that i'm going to get wrong. I don't know how this changed.

I want to first and foremost apologise for being so unhelpful in the thread as of late, but just recently I've been exceptionally down regarding things.

For example, I've not been having LOADS, but I've been having a few beers every night - maybe 2-4 bottles. Just as was mentioned previously, I only seem to feel a sense of liberation when I'm drunken. But I factor in those calories. But especially this past month I've been restricting again; I haven't taken beyond 1500 kcals per day. Even if I take say, 1000 kcals of food in, and up to 500 kcals of beer, I never break that total.

The strangest thing has happened though. Even though technically this should take me into a calorific deficit I haven't changed weight at all, but I have been getting plumper. My T-shirts feel so tight on me. And just today, I met an aunt I haven't seen in ages and she kept saying over and over, "I can't believe the change in you, your face is so much rounder! Oh, you've filled out so much! I just can't believe how much weight you've gained! it's only been a month since I last saw you!" - even though my actual weight NUMERICALLY hasn't changed, has the alcohol, even on a deficit, fattened me?! Logic seems to be defied left right and centre, but the human body is not a logical creature.

I want to first and foremost apologise for being so unhelpful in the thread as of late, but just recently I've been exceptionally down regarding things.

For example, I've not been having LOADS, but I've been having a few beers every night - maybe 2-4 bottles. Just as was mentioned previously, I only seem to feel a sense of liberation when I'm drunken. But I factor in those calories. But especially this past month I've been restricting again; I haven't taken beyond 1500 kcals per day. Even if I take say, 1000 kcals of food in, and up to 500 kcals of beer, I never break that total.

The strangest thing has happened though. Even though technically this should take me into a calorific deficit I haven't changed weight at all, but I have been getting plumper. My T-shirts feel so tight on me. And just today, I met an aunt I haven't seen in ages and she kept saying over and over, "I can't believe the change in you, your face is so much rounder! Oh, you've filled out so much! I just can't believe how much weight you've gained! it's only been a month since I last saw you!" - even though my actual weight NUMERICALLY hasn't changed, has the alcohol, even on a deficit, fattened me?! Logic seems to be defied left right and centre, but the human body is not a logical creature.

Does anyone know what measures sixth forms/colleges take when they find out that a pupil has an ED and self harms?

I'm considering going to see my sixth form's counsellor (if we have one =S) but I'm scared of what they might do once they find out. I don't want them to tell my family (I'm 17 if that changes anything) because my family really don't give a **** but I don't want the school to know this.

Neither ED or my self harming are very severe but I think that if I haven't developed it already, then I might be developing depression as a result.

Hi there,
I am also 17 and I have EDNOS (only because I'm still too fat to be called anorexic ) and self harm. I realised I had a problem so I went to see my school counsellor in complete confidentiality - my teachers don't know, and neither do my friends or parents, but I can still get help for it. You probably have a similar system at your school too and I really do recommend help even if it's not severe now, because it can get quickly out of control. Like I used to not severely self-harm and then last week it was too painful to wear jeans because I'd torn up my legs, hips and stomach so much ¬¬ Moral of the story, you can get help from school counsellors without the other parts of the school knowing and you definitely should do it asap.

E, that upsets me. You're too bloody clever to shred you arms and legs to ribbons and starve yourself. I swear the only reson I've realised i have the human dictionary party trick and that the AS and some of the A2 grammar has suddenly clicked is because its been just over 2 years since I stopped trying to survive off 600 calories a day. Yes I sometimes SI - made an absolute mess of my arm last week. I shouldnt pull at my skin when I'm fustrated, I still bruise like hell. Sice as I've quoted you, which verb needs to change to show you're reporting what someones said in german? I'm currently gawping at a sentense with 3 verbs in...

So are you! That's a great achievement, well done Wow, if it's been two years you must have started so young
As for the verb, can you give me the sentence? You'd need to know the context to be sure.

I want to first and foremost apologise for being so unhelpful in the thread as of late, but just recently I've been exceptionally down regarding things.

For example, I've not been having LOADS, but I've been having a few beers every night - maybe 2-4 bottles. Just as was mentioned previously, I only seem to feel a sense of liberation when I'm drunken. But I factor in those calories. But especially this past month I've been restricting again; I haven't taken beyond 1500 kcals per day. Even if I take say, 1000 kcals of food in, and up to 500 kcals of beer, I never break that total.

The strangest thing has happened though. Even though technically this should take me into a calorific deficit I haven't changed weight at all, but I have been getting plumper. My T-shirts feel so tight on me. And just today, I met an aunt I haven't seen in ages and she kept saying over and over, "I can't believe the change in you, your face is so much rounder! Oh, you've filled out so much! I just can't believe how much weight you've gained! it's only been a month since I last saw you!" - even though my actual weight NUMERICALLY hasn't changed, has the alcohol, even on a deficit, fattened me?! Logic seems to be defied left right and centre, but the human body is not a logical creature.

What do you guys do when all you can think about is food?