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What do you think of male loners?

Guys who seem to just do everything alone. Study, gym, dont seem to hang with people etc..

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Thats me :biggrin: it just doesn't make sense to do everyday stuff with people. I study better on my own, I go to the gym to exercise my body not someone elses. I still have friends and I go out etc, but I'm not incapable of existing on my own for a few hours everyday :s-smilie:
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Original post by Ace Of Diamonds
Thats me :biggrin: it just doesn't make sense to do everyday stuff with people. I study better on my own, I go to the gym to exercise my body not someone elses. I still have friends and I go out etc, but I'm not incapable of existing on my own for a few hours everyday :s-smilie:


Yeh I prefer to do most things alone tbh.

Just wonder what girls think about that really.
Original post by imonline
Yeh I prefer to do most things alone tbh.

Just wonder what girls think about that really.

They probably don't think anything because they don't watch you being alone.
Reply 4
Probably think either hes a weirdo, mentally not right in the head or extremely boring if he dont hang about with freinds?

I dunno? Most would say its not normal to be a loner?
I don't think about them
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Original post by Arturo Bandini
I don't think about them


Welll you thought about them enough to reply.

Thanks for your contribution to the thread lol
Given that many of my hobbies and interests are very individual (since online gaming is still rather individual if you don't have a mic and such), I guess I have ended up that way. Life is generally a lot simpler, and it's far easier to be selfish, as it were :smile:

I guess many people are quite negative, given how much we are encouraged to engage so much with social media. I know that those around me have been troubled by my insularity - maybe they don't believe that a person can be happiest when alone, even though such a thing is entirely possible.
Original post by imonline
Welll you thought about them enough to reply.

Thanks for your contribution to the thread lol


if you do everything alone, why are you conversing, on the internet, with OTHER PEOPLE

liar
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Original post by Perdiccas
Given that many of my hobbies and interests are very individual (since online gaming is still rather individual if you don't have a mic and such), I guess I have ended up that way. Life is generally a lot simpler, and it's far easier to be selfish, as it were :smile:

I guess many people are quite negative, given how much we are encouraged to engage so much with social media. I know that those around me have been troubled by my insularity - maybe they don't believe that a person can be happiest when alone, even though such a thing is entirely possible.


QTF. I feel the same. Life is much easier for me when I do what I want when I want and what not, however I also enjoy it so its not a problem. It also annoys me the fact that others seem to think im uncofident or derpessive as I spent a lot of time alone. It just actually I prefer it though it really. They try to encourage me to do other things and go out and ''get on with my life''. When in fact I quite enjoy my lifestyle though I miss playing footy. One thing I never done alone!
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Original post by Arturo Bandini
if you do everything alone, why are you conversing, on the internet, with OTHER PEOPLE

liar


to get sex/female advice really, if u havent notice lol
Reply 11
I have loner tendencies, but I do enjoy some social interaction with people I like.
Reply 12
I wouldn't think any less or more of them, tbh. Being a complete loner myself I'd find it easy to relate to them, but that's about it. I'm guessing some extroverts, especially those who are in constant need of company of other people and of external stimuli might make some unjustified judgements but hey, everybody does that to some extent. I believe you guys have it much easier in this regard though, at least as long as you have a certain amount of social skills and prefer to be a loner out of personal preference rather than because you're incapable of making friends. A lot of girls seem to think fondly of those mysterious, quiet guys who are confident enough to do their own thing. Female loners usually just get labelled as stuck up, because girls are usually expected to be more friendly, attentive and approachable than guys.
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Original post by Ireth00
I wouldn't think any less or more of them, tbh. Being a complete loner myself I'd find it easy to relate to them, but that's about it. I'm guessing some extroverts, especially those who are in constant need of company of other people and of external stimuli might make some unjustified judgements but hey, everybody does that to some extent. I believe you guys have it much easier in this regard though, at least as long as you have a certain amount of social skills and prefer to be a loner out of personal preference rather than because you're incapable of making friends. A lot of girls seem to think fondly of those mysterious, quiet guys who are confident enough to do their own thing. Female loners usually just get labelled as stuck up, because girls are usually expected to be more friendly, attentive and approachable than guys.



Youre a female? Yes female loners are just not even cool at all..But sad and weird.

At least male loners can be mysterious, cool, interesting perhaps even tough/strong looking. Some type of alpha male would be somewhat of a loner. The man who goes and does what he wants when he wants. James Bond, Conan the Barbarain lol.
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Original post by imonline
Youre a female? Yes female loners are just not even cool at all..But sad and weird.

At least male loners can be mysterious, cool, interesting perhaps even tough/strong looking. Some type of alpha male would be somewhat of a loner. The man who goes and does what he wants when he wants. James Bond, Conan the Barbarain lol.


Yes. I'm doomed.
Reply 15
Original post by Ireth00
Yes. I'm doomed.


lol dont be so harsh but you were correct I think it is easier for a man to be a loner.
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Original post by imonline
Guys who seem to just do everything alone. Study, gym, dont seem to hang with people etc..


:lolwut: I'm pretty sure a lot of 'normal' people do this too...

In all seriousness though, I would probably be curious as to why someone didn't ever socialise, but if you're happy going alone and doing your own thing, you're not harming anyone.
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Original post by SweetsAndSugar
:lolwut: I'm pretty sure a lot of 'normal' people do this too...

In all seriousness though, I would probably be curious as to why someone didn't ever socialise, but if you're happy going alone and doing your own thing, you're not harming anyone.


no we must do gym and study together!!

Well me personally I never liked big groups or crowds so I always do my best to avoid that.

Even still I dont know I just get bored around people. Sometimes I just lack energy to speak and find I cant listen anymore as my mind wanders and bores. It doesnt offer much for me. I prefer to study and learn or play with dog or play games or make music etc.... I just like to do things rather than be with people. I get minimal satisfaction and mainly just boredom being around people especially to long.

I like to be with people if theres a reason eg. playing football or poker or pool or going to a match or going abroad and then sightsee etc...but with no task just hanging with people bores me, small talk annoys me. I can do so much more exicting and prodcutive stuff alone or even just relaxation alone. etc..
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If a guy was constantly by himself then I would probably think something was wrong with him? Whether it was something in his control (he's a massive dick) or something out of his control (suffers from social anxiety) is another matter. As I feel that if you are someone who has NEVER had a group of friends or really a friend then the fault must lie with you as it cant be everyone else's fault that you cant make friends.

Though tbh I'd probably find it weirder if a guy was unable to study or go to the gym without friends.
Hah! I like how the OP is so critical of female loners, yet for male loners they have this "mystical and alpha male esque" quality. I think studying and going to the gym is best as a solitary activity. The thing that worries me is that I prefer to go shopping alone as I usually get dragged round so many different places out of my price range and having to comment on 1001 of their "proposed" purchases, which often don't get followed through with. Luckily I tend to go shopping with my best friend, we go to the same sort of shops and tend to part ways and join up with each other after we've made our purchases. This I like :smile:

HOWEVER, I enjoy doing certain things in groups. I like eating out in company, going to the cinema in company, going to pubs/clubs in company. It's just certain things I like doing alone. Unfortuantely shopping tends to be one of those, which people may think as weird.

I don't look down my nose at male or female loners. I don't think one is better than the other, just because what society likes to dictate.

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