Eating Disorders and life with one - Discussions, Opinions, Advice.

He didn't know about your ED then, did he?
UGH.

He found my diary a few weeks before hand, so he WOULD have known.

That's terrible. What is it with parents not realising that what they say to you effects you? How can they not realise that fat jokes+severe body image issues=not at all good.

My sister's therapist asked if she had a history of EDs (she's underweight but doesn't have an ED) so now my dad jokes about his bulimic daughter. Uh hi there dad, remember me? That daughter who was nearly hospitalised? The one who tried to ****ing kill herself? NICE.

(My parents have always maintained that all of the doctors I saw were overreacting and I've never had any MH problems, just a bad reaction to sedatives. 'cause they couldn't possibly have a mentally-ill daughter, could they?)

my sister finds it hilarious to offer me something she knows has palm oil in, then after I've eaten it, go 'That's got palm oil in, You've killed an orangutang!'

Why are people so ****ing insensitive?

because people suck. that's why. Some of the most insensitive things people have said to me have been from 'friends' or teachers. Just before xmas I had this said to me by my german teacher 'Well of course its going to be rubbish, you've written it'. My most recent report basically says as long as I put the revision in and work on accuracy, I'll get my predicted grade. And then people wonder why idk where i stand with the guy!

I don't understand if this is some people's idea of humour....

mm. Doesn't help when I can't recognise sarcasm at the best of times.

I'm making lists of ideas/ tables for the vor und nachteile of TV, etc. Wort für Wort has become bedtime reading. I'm trying to crack the passive and reported speech. I'm halfway through an AS essay for sir. Half of me thinks I must be doing well in my A2 speaking practice that I've had for sir, because he got the 'how to stretch and challenge' booklet from AQA out last time. Yet the other half of me thinks I'm not doing enough revision - even though I started the day after results day!- that my speaking isnt good enough, I dont go into enough detail, word order is messed up and that I'm eating far too much of everything. Even though sir says that if I repeat my performance in the A2 I should come out with a very good grade and if I have this sort of fluency in my AS resit, I'll get an A stood on my head.


E - atleast you're honest with her. Could be worse, you could be telling her you've not cut since last time and the last time you ate was this morning and you had toast and jam and a cup of tea, and then your friend came round and she had some dolly mix and you had a few. When that isnt the case.

The sheer idea of going to uni terrorfies me. I'm not even THAT good at Chemistry, as Magdalena likes to remind me. 'Well you SHOULD know the answer, you are going to study it at uni!' I'm probably going to get put with a bunch of people who turn into absolute ********s/ bitches when they're drunk.

Long post, just a warning.
Etoile, about the therapist-agree with Toto. You'd be surprised what they're digging at over weeks or months of seemingly silly questions.
This is what basically has happened to me in therapy, sorry for the digression. I'll spoiler in case this can be taken the wrong way.
Of course, the situation is probably pretty different for yourself-in no way am I meaning to belittle it,! I’m speaking from a healthy weight, professionally approved calorific intake and activity level. I still urge you to carry on doing whatever is your best course of action for your health and wellbeing.
Main point is, therapy will be hard. It is hard. It has to be hard. You're being told to re-evaluate the way you've perceived and see life, that is incredibly threatening. But in time, with the right people and willingness to go in with an open mind, you’ll come to see they had a point. Friends and family too, but I think in a different way. Let them know you’re suffering , talk to them about things. But at the same time, they might not always even know how to help and you need to try and forgive them for this.
In any case, you cannot let this dominate your whole life and consume you. It won’t always be this way!
Riku, over and out. x

That's terrible. What is it with parents not realising that what they say to you effects you? How can they not realise that fat jokes+severe body image issues=not at all good.

My sister's therapist asked if she had a history of EDs (she's underweight but doesn't have an ED) so now my dad jokes about his bulimic daughter. Uh hi there dad, remember me? That daughter who was nearly hospitalised? The one who tried to ****ing kill herself? NICE.

(My parents have always maintained that all of the doctors I saw were overreacting and I've never had any MH problems, just a bad reaction to sedatives. 'cause they couldn't possibly have a mentally-ill daughter, could they?)

Gonna be blunt because that's what I'm like with things like this, do you have an ASD?



Wow, you're doing loads! You're going to ace it. Stood on your head, doing backflips, everything
Do you comfort eat?
That's true. She's just another person that I let down though. Bought some new shorts today but am going to have to wear opaque tights with them though because my cuts on my thighs are too deep and too orderly to pass off as anything else.
You ARE good! You've got all these offers to study it so you must be doing something right! I am in awe of you, I still don't know how I passed GCSE chemistry And you never know - I bet everyone else is worrying the same and then will turn out to be nice like you.

I'm not diagnosed with ASD, wouldnt be surprised if I have it tbqh. Can't deal with change very well, don't get sarcasm at all. I swear I've read somewhere that autism tends to manifest itself as an ED in girls.

Mmm I've read that too. Makes sense with regards to strictly following rules and stuff.

it does. probably explains why i get a bit obsessive over german. It has rules. we like rules.

We like rules indeed. When I was off a couple of weeks ago, my teacher asked my friend if I was in and my friend said no. My teacher's reply? "That's a shame, this is her favourite type of lesson!".... it was a whole lesson of grammar

We like rules indeed. When I was off a couple of weeks ago, my teacher asked my friend if I was in and my friend said no. My teacher's reply? "That's a shame, this is her favourite type of lesson!".... it was a whole lesson of grammar

I effing love grammar. I'm the Grammar Queen. Grammar rules. Best type of lesson, I agree. Whenever my Italian teacher is like 'oh, we're doing a new tense and all the irregulars today' I'm just like 'WIN!'. x

I effing love grammar. I'm the Grammar Queen. Grammar rules. Best type of lesson, I agree. Whenever my Italian teacher is like 'oh, we're doing a new tense and all the irregulars today' I'm just like 'WIN!'. x

aww. I like the grammar when it makes sense, just not when it doesn't. I'd probably be missed during a discussion lesson, partially because they all use me as a dictionary, and because I'm the only one able to give a scientists p.o.v to the current topic.

You sound like me! I ended up having to explain the concept of piacere and indirect objects to my class the other week because they didn't get it Italian does seem to have a lot of tenses!



It makes sense because it has many rules and therefore is good Although you're better off, because knowing lots of vocab and topical stuff is far better than knowing obscure pieces of grammar

2 weeks without them.. gosh, I hope you get them soon! I feel awful without them even after a few days.



I was in hospital on Tuesday for over 9 hours after seeing an emergency doctor because of stabbing chest pain and constantly passing out. At the hospital I had xrays and tests and then they put me on a drip. They told me I needed to stay but I freaked out and refused, because I was scared that they'd never let me out.