What does it take to get a nice girlfriend?

money, confidence & lies

no my friend those qualities would not get you a truly nice girlfriend. It would probably get you a shallow girlfriend who is impressed by a personality that isn't yours. It is better to be yourself and to be genuine to get someone who can be called a true life partner.

imo guys and girls who run after only shallow qualities only have themselves when they realise their partner is as fickle and as shallow as them.

Isn't nice completely subjective though? At what point does a girlfriend become 'nice'?

What do you want me to say? Put yourself in a social setting, speak to girls & guys (who could potentially introduce you to a girl), banter, flirt, talk, decide whether you share enough mutual interests/views or if you simply just connect. decide if you can escalate the relationship, have the confidence to escalate it, have the money to support it & somewhere(everywhere) down the line, the lies to keep it. Don't tell me those traits aren't enough to get a girlfriend, because sadly, more often than not they are.

I don't think money and lies are the foundation of a solid relationship.

That would be ridiculous

Someone asked a pretty similar question before, thought I'd ask.

Be a jerk, they go crazy for them....

why are a lot of people on tsr so cynical and full of stereotypes.

a nice boyfriend gets a nice girlfriend. If you are a good listener, understanding and supportive of her dreams and goals..you will get a girlfriend who is similar.

If there was ever a statement that is less true, I have yet to hear it.

OP, a simple question does not always necessitate a simple answer. This is one of those cases.

Pick girls you approach carefully.

That's so not true. :/ Plus you don't need to be a jerk if you've got a british accent. I dare say you can be sensitive and be yourself completely.

why would you think that? I guess it depends on how you define "nice." If you mean it to be stunningly hot and amazing with a great personality, then it might not be accurate all the time. Sometimes the niceness of a guy doesn't get expressed so it might result in him missing out. I have friends, who i would say are conventionally good looking as well as nice, and they have boyfriends who are nice as well. None of them had to act like jerks to get a girlfriend. They are genuinely carefree, relaxed and respectful blokes.

Before coming on this thread I didn't realise British guys were so cynical about relationships and girls. It's quite disappointing to hear.

Well done for answering your question.

I have seen first hand the nicest guy's get treated like crap by their girlfriends (and vice versa).

You get what you can, not what you deserve.

I dunno, most of the really nice girls I know have jerk boyfriends. Maybe I just don't like their bf thats all.

In the relationships most of the times, someone loves and the other allows him/her to be loved... And its vary rare when both love each other equally passionate. Just a more realistic view I guess.

I was asking you that question. I meant that if a nice guy is expecting to always get a stunning girl with a great personality then that might not happen especially if he is not willing to lower his standards if he meets someone who is just good looking with a great personality. I think personality should count for more than looks.

Just because you have seen that happen often doesn't mean it always happens and that it is one sided. I know plenty of nice girls in relationship with nice guys. You said vice versa so you acknowledge it happens the other way around as well. Nice girls can also get treated like crap by their boyfriends.

I think we usually get what we project ourselves as being.

This thread is basically a response to isa's what does it take to get a nice boyfriend