The Long Distance Relationship Society Advice Centre

Well that answers that. THanks, see i knew there was a reasonable explanation as to why no partners during freshers but my mind wouldnt see it.

and i realise im going to come across totally like a girl here but i need a hug today


And after driving lesson think im just going to chill. Knowing shes there would be nice though

TSRians?!

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59 days since I left... 88 days until I'm home again.

I know I should stop counting down, but I can't help it, I'm so conscious of it all the time! Doesn't feel good or healthy really, even 'keeping busy' isn't helping. Some days this week I've been impossibly busy and stressed and it just makes me miss having someone to be there for me.

Hmph, I'm so tired of this. Feel like I have nothing to be positive about between now and going home. It's not just missing my boyfriend, but missing my family and all the little home comforts back in the UK.

Hope nobody minds me dumping my feelings here.

Chin up *sends some positivity* I felt exactly like that at about 80 days to go. It just felt like I was going through the motions with everything. But it was odd, as soon as I hit the halfway mark things suddenly seemed to pick up - almost like 'it's all downhill from here!' Now it's only 16 days, and I can't quite believe where the time's gone. As for missing home, I'm the one left behind in the UK, but I've found that just taking a few minutes in the evening to think up good things about the day helps Have you got some nice stuff planned to do when you're home? Planning our trip round sydney has kept us going through the blue days.

Hey everyone, hope you're all holding up well!

Just wondering how you all cope with the goodbyes, It'd be nice to know that I'm not the only one who cries every single time, then have to go off on my own either in a queue at the airport with lots of people looking at me feeling sorry for me/making me feel a bit pathetic or onto a packed train. Last time my bf came to visit me I had to say goodbye to him at the train station then rush straight to a lecture and I just wanted to go and sulk with a massive bar of chocolate! (Ok I hid in a toilet at the station to compose myself first) Although the last time I left him I managed to bag a first class seat on the TGV meaning I had a big single chair to myself to sniff and sulk in peace :P

When I watch love actually the bit at the end at the airport always sets me off

Hey everyone, hope you're all holding up well!

Just wondering how you all cope with the goodbyes, It'd be nice to know that I'm not the only one who cries every single time, then have to go off on my own either in a queue at the airport with lots of people looking at me feeling sorry for me/making me feel a bit pathetic or onto a packed train. Last time my bf came to visit me I had to say goodbye to him at the train station then rush straight to a lecture and I just wanted to go and sulk with a massive bar of chocolate! (Ok I hid in a toilet at the station to compose myself first) Although the last time I left him I managed to bag a first class seat on the TGV meaning I had a big single chair to myself to sniff and sulk in peace :P

When I watch love actually the bit at the end at the airport always sets me off

To those of you who met your partners on the internet, what did you parents think of it? Were they at all uneasy about it, particularly if you travel quite far away to see him? Or did you not really tell them?

Even though I'm a young adult, I still live with my parents and they sometimes like to ask where I go. I plan on meeting a guy who lives 3 hours train ride away from me, and I feel like I'd have to let them know in case something happened to me. I also think they wouldn't be too happy with me travelling too far on my own to meet him, but I've met him before and I'm sure he is who he says he is. Plus, they couldn't exactly stop me from going either.

What do you think? Any advice?

For me, I just decided being totally honest with them was the best idea (because my mums a worrier) so I told them, and they we're a bit freaked out at first and thought it was so weird and didn't trust him at all, but he came to my house to pick me up, so my mum could meet him, she spoke to him for a few mins and was happy (weve both got a good sense like that about people in that it only takes us meeting someone for a minute or 2 to suss them out!) she spoke to him more the next day too and fast forward 11 months now i'm convinced she likes him more than she likes me

But honestly, do let them know where you're going, they're only looking out for you, and make sure you meet somewhere public and just generally take care!

To those of you who met your partners on the internet, what did you parents think of it? Were they at all uneasy about it, particularly if you travel quite far away to see him? Or did you not really tell them?

Even though I'm a young adult, I still live with my parents and they sometimes like to ask where I go. I plan on meeting a guy who lives 3 hours train ride away from me, and I feel like I'd have to let them know in case something happened to me. I also think they wouldn't be too happy with me travelling too far on my own to meet him, but I've met him before and I'm sure he is who he says he is. Plus, they couldn't exactly stop me from going either.

What do you think? Any advice?

For me, I just decided being totally honest with them was the best idea (because my mums a worrier) so I told them, and they we're a bit freaked out at first and thought it was so weird and didn't trust him at all, but he came to my house to pick me up, so my mum could meet him, she spoke to him for a few mins and was happy (weve both got a good sense like that about people in that it only takes us meeting someone for a minute or 2 to suss them out!) she spoke to him more the next day too and fast forward 11 months now i'm convinced she likes him more than she likes me

But honestly, do let them know where you're going, they're only looking out for you, and make sure you meet somewhere public and just generally take care!

To those of you who met your partners on the internet, what did you parents think of it? Were they at all uneasy about it, particularly if you travel quite far away to see him? Or did you not really tell them?

Even though I'm a young adult, I still live with my parents and they sometimes like to ask where I go. I plan on meeting a guy who lives 3 hours train ride away from me, and I feel like I'd have to let them know in case something happened to me. I also think they wouldn't be too happy with me travelling too far on my own to meet him, but I've met him before and I'm sure he is who he says he is. Plus, they couldn't exactly stop me from going either.

What do you think? Any advice?

That sounds so familiar! The past two times we said goodbye, I was crying for a whole day beforehand, because I couldn't stand the thought of being so far apart for so long again. We went out for a meal the night before I left and the waiter asked me if there was something wrong with the food because I looked so upset, how embarrassing! I'm usually ok once I'm on my way, it's just the dread of parting that's the worst.

Oh dear god I can't even tell you how many airports I must have cried in by now... probably at least 6 DIFFERENT ones and probably cried multiple times in most of them I HATE the part where you have you walk through security and leave them there! Walking away from them is the hardest part ever so big its not just you I promise

Where are you living as a matter of interest?

I also was completely honest with them because, since we got together, he came to me only two times, so I'm the one traveling mostly. I also give them details about my flights and the place where Im staying...it may seem too much, but im actually ok with it. At the end of the day, theyre just looking out for me.

I wish they could meet the boy, I know they'd feel more secure if they did...but heh, that doesn't seem likely now.

On a totally unrelated note, we had a bit of a 'serious' talk earlier this morning and Im afraid we dont quite want the same things atm. I can wait for him but now I wonder if he'll still want to be together in 5 months or so. Guess Ill just have to wait and see

Hey! I met both my current and previous boyfriend on the internet (I seem to have a knack for these things ). Both times I made plans to meet the guy by myself, and my parents didn't know about him until we were together. I don't live with them, so it's not like they catch details like that. However, when they asked, I was honest about where we met and they seem to be ok with it.

When meeting people from the internet, I always apply the same rule - meet in a public place, and tell someone where you're going and what you have planned. If you've already met then it's different, but you should keep being cautious until you're sure you can trust the person. If possible, meet in the middle or get him to come to you. 3 hours is quite a distance!