Life swap anyone?
Here's what I have to offer:
- No proper friends
- No social life
- One idiotic brother
- One stressed out brother
- No idea what to do after college
- No hobbies
- The chance to 'exist' instead of 'live'
- Low self esteem/ confidence, hence every argument or comment gets you down.
- Wanting to do stuff but not being able due to low self confidence/ esteem.
Here's what I would like:
- Non intrusive family
- Good close friends who don't like to get drunk every night
- Set career path
- Confidence
- Lots of hobbies
- high self esteem
- Not socially awkward
Any takers?
Please!!!
- No proper friends
- No social life
- One idiotic brother
- One stressed out brother
- No idea what to do after college
- No hobbies
- The chance to 'exist' instead of 'live'
- Low self esteem/ confidence, hence every argument or comment gets you down.
- Wanting to do stuff but not being able due to low self confidence/ esteem.
Here's what I would like:
- Non intrusive family
- Good close friends who don't like to get drunk every night
- Set career path
- Confidence
- Lots of hobbies
- high self esteem
- Not socially awkward
Any takers?
Please!!!
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Yeah okay sure 
I have the sort of life you want! All the things listed are what I do BUT my family is intrusive and probably you won't like living in a family like mine!
If you check out my blog you'll see what I mean
If you check out my blog you'll see what I mean
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you poor thing
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you poor thing
nobyes heres what i have to offer:
-23 and still living with parents
-not much social life
-friends dont know the 'real' me
-no driving licence
-horrible past
-depressed dictator of a dad
-manipulative mum
-depressed brother
-low self esteem/self image
and **** im still going, and i have a vision that one day im going to become so great.
-23 and still living with parents
-not much social life
-friends dont know the 'real' me
-no driving licence
-horrible past
-depressed dictator of a dad
-manipulative mum
-depressed brother
-low self esteem/self image
and **** im still going, and i have a vision that one day im going to become so great.
Original post by Anonymous
Here's what I have to offer:
- No proper friends
- No social life
- One idiotic brother
- One stressed out brother
- No idea what to do after college
- No hobbies
- The chance to 'exist' instead of 'live'
- Low self esteem/ confidence, hence every argument or comment gets you down.
- Wanting to do stuff but not being able due to low self confidence/ esteem.
Here's what I would like:
- Non intrusive family
- Good close friends who don't like to get drunk every night
- Set career path
- Confidence
- Lots of hobbies
- high self esteem
- Not socially awkward
Any takers?
Please!!!
- No proper friends
- No social life
- One idiotic brother
- One stressed out brother
- No idea what to do after college
- No hobbies
- The chance to 'exist' instead of 'live'
- Low self esteem/ confidence, hence every argument or comment gets you down.
- Wanting to do stuff but not being able due to low self confidence/ esteem.
Here's what I would like:
- Non intrusive family
- Good close friends who don't like to get drunk every night
- Set career path
- Confidence
- Lots of hobbies
- high self esteem
- Not socially awkward
Any takers?
Please!!!
That's a rather pessimistic outlook on life.
I've always held the opinion that if your optimistic and don't believe in bad days, then usually you tend to be happier.
Ignorance of bad days is bliss.
How about swapping your life for mine?
-A mother who is single and clinically depressed,
-A grandfather with dementia who tried to murder my grandmother (who has various heart diseases/ diabetes)
-A little brother who you have to walk to and from school, rain or snow- (1 hour there and back)
-A best friend who is currently in care due to her mentally ill father (her mother's dead)
-Very little social life (I just don't have the time)
-An old best friend who died from Leukaemia a year ago.
-An aunt who is having an affair with her married boss of 9 years, and her boss's daughter is an old friend of yours who has practically turned all of your old friends against you.
-Not much money
-Stress from taking too many A levels and being expected to get A* in all of them.
-Another cancer case: lost my godmother, the only 'motherly figure' in my life to lung cancer last summer.
- No boyfriend, but a very persistent, creepy stalker from college.
What I'm trying to say, is that everyone has problems, even if they don't broadcast it to everybody else. You just need to make the most of what you do have, and realise that out there, there are people going through a lot worse than you. I'm willing to bet that the two of us have roofs over our heads, and at least something small in the fridge to eat, should we get hungry, and plenty of water. Plus- internet connection to go on TSR. It's not all bleak, we're pretty lucky, actually.
Just try and deal with things, and improve them where you can. And smile. Life's amazing, even if it isn't perfect.
-A mother who is single and clinically depressed,
-A grandfather with dementia who tried to murder my grandmother (who has various heart diseases/ diabetes)
-A little brother who you have to walk to and from school, rain or snow- (1 hour there and back)
-A best friend who is currently in care due to her mentally ill father (her mother's dead)
-Very little social life (I just don't have the time)
-An old best friend who died from Leukaemia a year ago.
-An aunt who is having an affair with her married boss of 9 years, and her boss's daughter is an old friend of yours who has practically turned all of your old friends against you.
-Not much money
-Stress from taking too many A levels and being expected to get A* in all of them.
-Another cancer case: lost my godmother, the only 'motherly figure' in my life to lung cancer last summer.
- No boyfriend, but a very persistent, creepy stalker from college.
What I'm trying to say, is that everyone has problems, even if they don't broadcast it to everybody else. You just need to make the most of what you do have, and realise that out there, there are people going through a lot worse than you. I'm willing to bet that the two of us have roofs over our heads, and at least something small in the fridge to eat, should we get hungry, and plenty of water. Plus- internet connection to go on TSR. It's not all bleak, we're pretty lucky, actually.
Just try and deal with things, and improve them where you can. And smile. Life's amazing, even if it isn't perfect.
I used to be pretty optimistic but since leaving school it went down hill.
I've lost motivation to do everything. I found the opportunity to volunteer at some airfield and in return they would give me free helicopter lessons. I'd usually jump at that chance but I really cba to go and ask them about it even though it's what i'd love to do.
It's mainly not knowing what I want to do next. I know I want to have a job that I enjoy, not one that I do for the money. I'd love a highly paid job, i'd do anything to be paid an amazing salary but I know that money doesn't motivate me, but if I enjoyed the job i'd be happier. I'm really ambitious but i'm stuck at getting started. And as I said, I don't know what I enjoy any more.
And how can I change my social life? I've got bad social skills and low self esteem. I'd have better self esteem if I had some good friends, but to get good friends I need good social skills which needs good self esteem.
I've lost motivation to do everything. I found the opportunity to volunteer at some airfield and in return they would give me free helicopter lessons. I'd usually jump at that chance but I really cba to go and ask them about it even though it's what i'd love to do.
It's mainly not knowing what I want to do next. I know I want to have a job that I enjoy, not one that I do for the money. I'd love a highly paid job, i'd do anything to be paid an amazing salary but I know that money doesn't motivate me, but if I enjoyed the job i'd be happier. I'm really ambitious but i'm stuck at getting started. And as I said, I don't know what I enjoy any more.
And how can I change my social life? I've got bad social skills and low self esteem. I'd have better self esteem if I had some good friends, but to get good friends I need good social skills which needs good self esteem.
Original post by Anonymous
Here's what I have to offer:
- No proper friends
- No social life
- One idiotic brother
- One stressed out brother
- No idea what to do after college
- No hobbies
- The chance to 'exist' instead of 'live'
- Low self esteem/ confidence, hence every argument or comment gets you down.
- Wanting to do stuff but not being able due to low self confidence/ esteem.
Here's what I would like:
- Non intrusive family
- Good close friends who don't like to get drunk every night
- Set career path
- Confidence
- Lots of hobbies
- high self esteem
- Not socially awkward
Any takers?
Please!!!
- No proper friends
- No social life
- One idiotic brother
- One stressed out brother
- No idea what to do after college
- No hobbies
- The chance to 'exist' instead of 'live'
- Low self esteem/ confidence, hence every argument or comment gets you down.
- Wanting to do stuff but not being able due to low self confidence/ esteem.
Here's what I would like:
- Non intrusive family
- Good close friends who don't like to get drunk every night
- Set career path
- Confidence
- Lots of hobbies
- high self esteem
- Not socially awkward
Any takers?
Please!!!
I could have written that, except I don't have a brother. I have no social life, no real friends anymore, am ridiculously socially awkward and there's tons of things I'd love to do but can't because I have no confidence and I'm so awkward.
You're not alone OP.
People like us just need to force ourselves to go out and do things, I think that fear of doing something will always be worse than the thing itself. My problem is that I don't know what exactly I want to do, when I get back to uni I might try to get a job somewhere, it will force myself to go out more, and will give me less time to think.
I reckon that inactivity breeds self-doubt, a lack of self confidence, then finally self-loathing. It's a cycle that's incredibly difficult to break out of.
I reckon that inactivity breeds self-doubt, a lack of self confidence, then finally self-loathing. It's a cycle that's incredibly difficult to break out of.
Original post by Anonymous
Here's what I have to offer:
- No proper friends
- No social life
- One idiotic brother
- One stressed out brother
- No idea what to do after college
- No hobbies
- The chance to 'exist' instead of 'live'
- Low self esteem/ confidence, hence every argument or comment gets you down.
- Wanting to do stuff but not being able due to low self confidence/ esteem.
Here's what I would like:
- Non intrusive family
- Good close friends who don't like to get drunk every night
- Set career path
- Confidence
- Lots of hobbies
- high self esteem
- Not socially awkward
Any takers?
Please!!!
- No proper friends
- No social life
- One idiotic brother
- One stressed out brother
- No idea what to do after college
- No hobbies
- The chance to 'exist' instead of 'live'
- Low self esteem/ confidence, hence every argument or comment gets you down.
- Wanting to do stuff but not being able due to low self confidence/ esteem.
Here's what I would like:
- Non intrusive family
- Good close friends who don't like to get drunk every night
- Set career path
- Confidence
- Lots of hobbies
- high self esteem
- Not socially awkward
Any takers?
Please!!!
Ignore your family. Decide on a career path you might like or at least highly payed. Work hard and do well at school. If you go somewhere for a hobby then you'll make friends there...if its a sport, then they wont go out drinking all the time. Attempt to appreciate the friends you have, even if you dont believe that they're "proper" friends.
Life can be **** at times and feel unfair, but you need to ignore that, be optimistic. Focus in your goals and dont let others put you down.
This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-S6500
Well, as all of the things you listed seem to be personality traits that can change easily, I'll gladly swap with you. Can't wait to be young again!
Just for the record, I'm 68. Hope that isn't a deal breaker
Just for the record, I'm 68. Hope that isn't a deal breaker
Original post by Hal.E.Lujah
Well, as all of the things you listed seem to be personality traits that can change easily, I'll gladly swap with you. Can't wait to be young again!
Just for the record, I'm 68. Hope that isn't a deal breaker
Just for the record, I'm 68. Hope that isn't a deal breaker
I thought you were only in your early to mid 20s.
OP - have you considered taking up any hobbies? This will increase your social life a lot.
Original post by OU Student
I thought you were only in your early to mid 20s.
OP - have you considered taking up any hobbies? This will increase your social life a lot.
OP - have you considered taking up any hobbies? This will increase your social life a lot.
Ssssh you're detracting from my satirical point that the OP is young and has his whole life ahead of him
Original post by Anonymous
Here's what I have to offer:
- No proper friends
- No social life
- One idiotic brother
- One stressed out brother
- No idea what to do after college
- No hobbies
- The chance to 'exist' instead of 'live'
- Low self esteem/ confidence, hence every argument or comment gets you down.
- Wanting to do stuff but not being able due to low self confidence/ esteem.
Here's what I would like:
- Non intrusive family
- Good close friends who don't like to get drunk every night
- Set career path
- Confidence
- Lots of hobbies
- high self esteem
- Not socially awkward
Any takers?
Please!!!
- No proper friends
- No social life
- One idiotic brother
- One stressed out brother
- No idea what to do after college
- No hobbies
- The chance to 'exist' instead of 'live'
- Low self esteem/ confidence, hence every argument or comment gets you down.
- Wanting to do stuff but not being able due to low self confidence/ esteem.
Here's what I would like:
- Non intrusive family
- Good close friends who don't like to get drunk every night
- Set career path
- Confidence
- Lots of hobbies
- high self esteem
- Not socially awkward
Any takers?
Please!!!
Im in the same boat OP , i think ive been in a depressed pessimistic state for quite some years now , my self esteem is rock bottom . Upon starting college I attempted to recreate myself and make new friends but I failed terribly. Not a day goes by when I don't wish there was a big red reset button I could press.
Original post by GAB
Ignore your family. Decide on a career path you might like or at least highly payed. Work hard and do well at school. If you go somewhere for a hobby then you'll make friends there...if its a sport, then they wont go out drinking all the time. Attempt to appreciate the friends you have, even if you dont believe that they're "proper" friends.
Life can be **** at times and feel unfair, but you need to ignore that, be optimistic. Focus in your goals and dont let others put you down.
This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-S6500
Life can be **** at times and feel unfair, but you need to ignore that, be optimistic. Focus in your goals and dont let others put you down.
This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-S6500
I have no idea what career path I want to take. I want to start a nice little business that makes me money so I can start other businesses, but it's difficult with low self confidence as I always think about what could go wrong- would anyone buy what I am offering? Probably not in most cases.
Other than that I don't know what I would enjoy as a career.
They aren't "proper" friends because I only speak to them in college. Basically if I wasn't at college with them then I wouldn't talk to them.
Original post by BefuddledPenguin
People like us just need to force ourselves to go out and do things, I think that fear of doing something will always be worse than the thing itself. My problem is that I don't know what exactly I want to do, when I get back to uni I might try to get a job somewhere, it will force myself to go out more, and will give me less time to think.
I reckon that inactivity breeds self-doubt, a lack of self confidence, then finally self-loathing. It's a cycle that's incredibly difficult to break out of.
I reckon that inactivity breeds self-doubt, a lack of self confidence, then finally self-loathing. It's a cycle that's incredibly difficult to break out of.
I got a christmas job last year and absolutely hated it and it put me off of part time work in retail. I'm pretty sure if I got going then I could do something good, but each time I try to do something my mind goes to do it but my body stops me :/
Original post by Jaegon Targaryen
Im in the same boat OP , i think ive been in a depressed pessimistic state for quite some years now , my self esteem is rock bottom . Upon starting college I attempted to recreate myself and make new friends but I failed terribly. Not a day goes by when I don't wish there was a big red reset button I could press.
Same. I thought I'd be the only one from my school that was doing the course at college so it would force me to make brand new friends and be happy. Then two other people from my school turned up on the first day so I never really socialised with anyone else. After a year I was speaking to a quite a few people in my class, only for the person in charge of the course to change the classes round so I was back with the two people from school and loads of people I didn't know.
Original post by Anonymous
Same. I thought I'd be the only one from my school that was doing the course at college so it would force me to make brand new friends and be happy. Then two other people from my school turned up on the first day so I never really socialised with anyone else. After a year I was speaking to a quite a few people in my class, only for the person in charge of the course to change the classes round so I was back with the two people from school and loads of people I didn't know.
Same. I thought I'd be the only one from my school that was doing the course at college so it would force me to make brand new friends and be happy. Then two other people from my school turned up on the first day so I never really socialised with anyone else. After a year I was speaking to a quite a few people in my class, only for the person in charge of the course to change the classes round so I was back with the two people from school and loads of people I didn't know.
This is exactly what happened to me . in the first few days of college when everyone was settling down and making friendship groups I did the most comfortable thing at the time and stayed with people I knew from high school , now its hard to make new friendships as everyone spends there breaks with a set of new best friends. The people I chill with are really fake , I really dislike them , I only speak with them inside college because Im afraid of being perceived as a billy no mates guy .
In the only two classes of mine were there are people I actually wouldn't mind making friends with , there are two separate guys from my old school . As everyone discovered we went to the same high school i assume they were hesitant and thought they should keep their distance , now theyre the only people I speak to in those classes.
Original post by Hal.E.Lujah
Well, as all of the things you listed seem to be personality traits that can change easily, I'll gladly swap with you. Can't wait to be young again!
Just for the record, I'm 68. Hope that isn't a deal breaker
Just for the record, I'm 68. Hope that isn't a deal breaker
go for it.Does anyone actually have hobbies? I do stuff for recreation, I do stuff because it will benefit me in the future, but I have never had a hobby like stamp collecting or whatever.
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