Complicated feelings for a guy...

You haven't tried to contact him, rather you've waited for him to take that step.

Maybe he got bored of chasing you around when you were never prepared to take a little risk and go after him?

Yeah, I had a feeling that someone would say that. I would say that I have been taking some risks. Every time I thought that we got closer, he didn't seem to want to take then next step or something. Anyway, he was the one to end the last conversation. Well, actually, I felt like the conversation didn't end properly. He just stopped texting so that's why I haven't tried to text him 'cause I thought that I should just leave it up to him when he next wants to chat.

I agree with Marmite.. The fact that he's never ignored a text of yours gives me the impression he was often the first one to text, and made a lot of the effort. If you didn't reciprocate the effort he probably got bored with you. It's also possible that he got fed up of maintaining a text relationship if he wanted to meet you, or that he had to stop texting you because he got a real girlfriend. Who knows..

With regards to closure, if he didn't actually do anything to upset you or whatever, then text him and literally ask why you've not spoken in so long. Without having met him it's probably a lot easier to move on, but maybe you're crying because you miss the attention he gave you, and you have no idea why it stopped. If only guys could understand why girls cry, there'd be a lot less problems in the world.

Yeah, he initiated most of the conversations but I felt like it was a bit rude when he would just stop replying. I always tried to carry on the conversations. I felt a bit like he would only chat to me when he wanted 'something' as well. And he never asked to meet me. I was planning to ask him, actually, but then this happened. The last time we chatted, I 'helped' him and then he didn't say a proper goodbye. I felt cheap. This is what I meant when I say that I've been crying because of the way he treated me.

With something like a text relationship prior to meeting up, it's such a strange and warped version of real life interaction that you have to put in some serious effort to move it from one stage to another because texting just doesn't easily translate to real life.

Do text this guy and try and quickly swing things round to the topic of meeting up. I think it would be good for you. Unless you aren't going to be able to meet up soon, in which case there's no point.

You need closure then. Text him.

I want to but I'm just so scared of the rejection. Right now, it still feels fairly open. I feel like I'm crawling back to him or something as well if I were to text him.

I just had a thought. Use tonight as an excuse! Wish him happy new year haha. Sorry i got far to over excited after seeng the thread and couldnt be bithered pming it!

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ah this sounds so complicated. What about a face to face conversation? What about being more upfront and making your intentions a little clearer? Chasing can get monotonous, especially if your efforts aren't reciprocated. I don't know about other guys, but I don't like it when people play with my emotions, I cut them off quickly. He might have felt like you were friendzoning him, and decided to get out.

I don't know your situation, and clearly you would like to get with this guy. But these things shouldn't be complicated, so text him again. If he replies, try to make your intentions clearer, perhaps be a bit flirty, arrange to meet. If he doesn't reply, then try to move on.

Ah, I would text him at midnight but he's usually in bed before then! But I guess it'd be different for New Year's?! Or I could text on Tuesday morning instead...?!

Phone signal goes rubbish nye anyway so text him whenever you want i got mine later on the next day last year

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I can't believe that I'm actually gonna do it...! I'll just be friendly and try to see what his reaction is; whether he flirts or not. Well, that's assuming that I get a reply anyway...

Just say something casual like "happy new year. Hope you have a great year. You have any plans tonight?" or something

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Cool, OK . I can't decide if I should just text him now and get it over with 'cause I'm somewhat excited/nervous right now!!!

Cool, OK . I can't decide if I should just text him now and get it over with 'cause I'm somewhat excited/nervous right now!!!

How did you get to know him? If its in school or something you could wait till you get back after holidays.