Sex on first date...

Just be normal, you've already told him what you were expecting so there's not much else you can do.
I slept with my boyfriend on our first day and we have been together for 4 years now. Neither of us judged each other, it wasn't something I had done before, it just felt right with him.
So just see how things go, if you become a booty call, you will find out soon enough. Have fun in the meantime.

You've got yourself into this one. Telling someone that you're looking for a serious relationship only and then sleeping with them on your first date wasn't in my opinion a good idea. It's not that I'm averse to first date sex, it's just that when you have implied that in your current circumstances you are not going to be having casual sex, you are sending across messages that you are perhaps emotionally a little bit ahead of yourself and it might look to him as if you see sex almost like a signing of a contract. I know he said something similar to what you said, but I think my comment still stands.

There is nothing you can do to stop yourself from being 'dropped' as it were. He likes you enough to keep seeing you or he doesn't. It sounds to me like you're quite into him and that if he suddenly blanked you out now you'd be upset, so maybe you should hold off with the intimacy until he makes signs of commitment.

ASk him what he wants when you next see him

Thank you guys. I did not come here for you to give me anything but the truth. I know the risks involved and I know that being a step behind the guy is a better plan. I don't know why I did it but I felt really strong chemistry and we had passionate sex. I think we both have quite a high sex drive and this is how it happened...It was really that the situation got away from me. I got on with him really well and that was that but playing the waiting game is awful...although it would be awful still whether we did it or not.

I know some guys like to have sex early to establish whether there is chemistry, and judging by what he said about other women, this seems to be the case with him. But I am aware of the disparity between what someone says and what they actually end up doing. I know other guys are more liberal about sex, and that's the type of guy I would want to date although pinning them down is another story.

This is really hard. I regret doing it but only for the sake of my sanity and not for the sex itself as I am fairly liberal-minded. I just need to reign it in when appropriate. So now I am stuck in the cycle of over-analysing everything that was said. I'm not sure whether I should contact him, saying cheers for the date....or whether I should wait for him to contact me. I think this will give me the answer I need because if he waits too long to contact me, or I'm the one who has to initiate it, I'll have to be very careful about thinking anything else will come from it.

Judging by the above advice, I will not mention anything that would be a DTR (defining the relationship) seeing as he already knows where I stand...and if he does want to see me again, I'm sure he'd want to keep it low pressure and not make it too full on and serious. This is what I implied when I talked to him. I did not say "Oh I love you" or anything that intense...all I said was that I don't want this to be only time I see him and that I'd like to see him again...which is when he suggested we meet again.

My attitude is, as a general principle no, but if there was truly a major spark and I thought we'd have a relationship as passionate as Queen Victoria and Prince Albert then I probably would. But I think what happens is that you allow yourself to be drawn into a bit of an ambiguous situation.

As the male, he'll feel like a champion now. He may want you, and want a relationship. Or he might be telling the lads down the pub "I banged this girl on the opening date...I've got her right where I want her". It's hard for the TSR community to say.

It's difficult for me to answer, as I see it from the boys point of view. But I would be skeptical (but not completely opposed) to a girl that "puts out" shall we say, on date one. He may feel you were quite easy, and might want a more classier harder woman to get (I'm not saying you are not classy and a good catch by any means...just that is how he might see you).

That's as honest as I can be. Interesting you use the term "liberal about sex". That makes me "conservative about sex".

Yeah I made a few Freudian slips there. I have no idea what he was thinking of course and I worry that I look easy which would be a legitimate response because it doesn't seem to marry with my stated intentions. It's weird. When I got into a situation like that, I showed my vulnerability in a way I wouldn't usually and it freaks me out. I don't think he's a player. He told me about how he's looking for someone he might marry one day and that he's picked out a name for his first child (He's almost 30; I'm 23). But I'm not foolish enough to think that what he said has anything to do with whether he feels a connection with me. I know he wants a relationship but that doesn't mean of course that he's not open to seeing me an option. I've been informed by other guys I know that what men want is sex and that any sex is better than no sex - so they tend to look for sex and find love. If sex is available, they will take it even if temporary. I will bear that in mind.

I'm not getting all hopes up but there is something for me to think about. I have had casual sex before - yes it's not my best selling point. I know how guys have acted, particularly after sex when it's been all they've wanted. He acted a bit differently although at the same time, that is no indication of anything major. He didn't kick me out of bed straight away nor try to rush me out of the house. He also brought up the possibility of meeting again after I'd mentioned it long before which told me that he'd at least given it some thought. It felt slightly awkward after sex and I have to admit that I might have showed it a little too much. It is hard to tell whether he is not interested or whether he is trying to play it cool. We kissed and were very touchy feely which other guys haven't been (guys I've had casual sex with) mostly because they don't want you to get too attached. It could be that this guy is simply a touchy feely person though which doesn't say anything either way.

I will do what Kenocide suggested (if I do see him again) because that will reset the agenda and show that I'm serious. I do worry I've blown it though because of the fact I showed so much vulnerability straight away. It wasn't totally awful crazy vulnerability but it was some. Shows that I'm human and not pathologically driven by the need for a shag. At the same time, shows that like other people have the potential to do, I might not act rationally in dating scenarios. I'm not completely daft. I know I took a risk but I hope people appreciate that sometimes thoughts and chemical really do get away with you and the rational side of your brain doesn't always listen to logic. I know it is very easy for men to say what they think you want to hear and I don't think he's incapable of doing that. I have not put him on some pedestal, and even though he's quiet and not a complete alpha type (I hate that term), I am well aware that he's still a guy.

Thanks. I will update this and let you know the outcome.

Agree with most of this, I'm by no means conservative about sex but I'm not a huge fan of going all out on first date.

Thanks. I will update this and let you know the outcome.