I love my boyfriend and it's going well at the moment. But recently it's become obvious to me that we want different things from like and I'm wondering if it's worth staying with him any longer if we're going to break up eventually.
Firstly I want to go and work abroad. I was going to do it in summer 2012 but then I met him and ended up staying at home all summer, which I regret now. I also love skiing and thought about doing a winter season and when I mentioned this to him he didn't seem keen at all on me going. If I don't do either summer or winter work abroad this year I know I will regret it. I'm graduating this summer and I want a year or so doing fun things before getting a serious job.
He seems to think I should graduate, come home and get a job. What he wants is to work and stay at home forever. He doesn't want me to go away, yet he won't move anywhere with me! He won't even move somewhere (i.e. my uni city) where I can get a good career and he could easily get a job in his industry there. I understand he doesn't want to leave his friends, but he doesn't even get on with his family and I hardly have any proper friends at home so I feel like what's the point moving home forever when I've got years to be free and do different things?
So he wants to be settled with his job and living at home, but he never wants to get married or have kids!
This really bothers me because I know I definitely want to have kids in the future, and he knows he definitely doesn't.
Seriously, he is going to have a long boring life if he never goes anywhere and then never wants to settle with a family or anything? All he ever wants is to work and be in a relationship? I want to travel, see places, work towards a career and then start a family? But he's not the person to do that with, so as much as I love him is there any point us being together? Or will he change his mind.. i.e. be ok with me travelling/come with me/ever want a family?
Sorry for the rant, just been bothering me a bit. We're perfect together at the moment our lives suit each other. But I want so much more from life than he does. I can't stand the thought of moving home getting a job (not even a career) never going anywhere, never having a family. Which is what he wants from his life!!