Anon because there are people i know who might see this.
There is this girl on my course at uni. We are friends but I definitely wouldn't say we are close friends. We sometimes chat on facebook and text each other. I have been round to her flat with her just her once (and she made me dinner, how nice is she!!??!?!) while we studied together - nothing happened. We both had a great time chatting after the work was done. I find her very attractive and we get along well and always have stuff to talk about but I don't think I'm ready for a relationship right now, having come out of a long term relationship with another girl a few months ago which lasted 2 and a half years, but I really want to start having a little fun. What I would like is for us to be friends with benefits, no strings attached, and then we'll see where that takes us. If we both would like more down the line then I think would be open to it, but not right now.
What I would like to know is, and this question is directed at girls mostly, if you would feel awkward around the guy afterwards if you had a friendship reminiscent of ours (not close but just a mate) and he asked you about being friends with benefits, no strings attached, and to see where it takes you - but you said no. Because even though we aren't THAT close I enjoy chatting with her and it would be a shame if she didn't feel she could talk to me after rejecting me. I know not every girl would feel the same way, but I just want to get a general feel for how most girls would react. And also, if there was a way to ask her but minimise the risk of any awkwardness afterwards, any ideas would also be really appreciated. Thanks.
One thing I think worth mentioning is we have never talked or joked about anything sexual in any way before, so I don't know how comfortable or open she would be talking about it to me or any of her friends like that.