Would you pick love over career in this scenario?

Hi,

So I have a friend (I know it sounds unlikely but I do ), he has been dating this wonderful girl for over two years. Honestly, I have never seen him as happy, his joy lights up the room. Now, she's a foreigner, on her last year of university and when she returned from her summer holiday, she informed him of a an offer to a job she's been dreaming of back home. Now, they both are mad for each other, but he told her to take the job because it's what she's been working hard at uni for.

I have tried many times to convince him to let her know how he trully feels about all of trhis to no avail. What would you do in his place, bear in mind that money really isn't an issue with him nor her, their parenta are kind of wealthy.

I'm hoping for a cheesy rom-com mad dash to the airport when she leaves for good but I can't see thqt happening.

If she cares more about career, then sure she should definitely take the job, especially if it's more likely to be stable in the long run than a relationship. If the relationship is strong enough then they can deal with the long distance. Perhaps the guy could even move to her country to be with her, though I don't know how practical it would be for him?

why doesn't he just go with her so that they can stay together?

That's the thing though, they both are mad for each other, she was uncertain of what to do because she didn't really want to work here so he let her go. Moving to the US is out of the question for him also, for personal reasons.




He can't. It's very complicated.

Have sex with both of them.

I personally believe that for any relationship to work love has to be chosen at some point for I do not believe that any relationship can survive between two career-oriented people. There will be a power struggle. Furthermore if the woman starts being away, earning more money and being in the company of men richer than her bf then she may fall for them. As for the man he may get resentful and feel like he has lost his manhood because his gf is out making more money than him and not being around to care for him. Now I'm not advocating 50's housewife here, what I am saying is that for most relationships to survive long term one person has to give up their career either the man or the woman, depending on who is more career oriented. if the man is not career oriented then he wont get resentful. However the second problem would still exist where the woman might subconsciously prefer a a career oriented man.

In all fairness if the girl really really loved him that much then she wouldnt risk breaking the relationship. If i had to go work somewhere and had to leave the person i loved the most i would deny that job anyday. I would rather be happy than live life in regrets

That's the thing though, they both are mad for each other, she was uncertain of what to do because she didn't really want to work here so he let her go. Moving to the US is out of the question for him also, for personal reasons.

He can't. It's very complicated.

Why, what are his plans? Is there no way he could ever try relocating sometime in the future?

Distance sometimes deepens love. We have a Chinese saying:


As decreed by providence you have met him; otherwise you might have failed although you traveled a long way.

Without giving away too much information on him, let's say there's a family business he is taking over in a few years. Moving outside of Europe would jeopardies his aspirations. I really wish though they'd see senses, but just as much as she would prefer to live to live in the US, he prefers Europe.