What does he want?

What's his relationship like with his girlfriend?

he doesn't talk about it a lot, but it sounds ok, although occasionally he would say that she is annoyed or angry with him for whatever reason. his girlfriend is not thrilled about this friendship, I know that for sure

he doesn't talk about it a lot, but it sounds ok, although occasionally he would say that she is annoyed or angry with him for whatever reason. his girlfriend is not thrilled about this friendship, I know that for sure

Can you blame her when you clearly have that much contact and you admit that you could develop feelings for him? If you treasure your own relationship then I would be firm about the backing off - maybe even ask him why you have to speak everyday, as that seems a little much to me? You can still be friends, but as you've said yourself, you don't have that sort of relationship with any other of your male friends, so why should this one be any different? I think also if you know the girlfriend at all it might be worth speaking to her one on one, assuring her that you're not a threat, pointing out that you're in a relationship you don't want to jeopardise yourself (or so I'm assuming), and that if it means that much to her you are willing to reduce contact.

My boyfriend has a close female friend that I sometimes feel uncomfortable about, but I trust him because he has shown on a few occasions, without prompting from me, that I am his priority, and he respects that there are boundaries when you are in a relationship that maybe aren't there when you're single. If your friend isn't willing to recognise those boundaries too then I think that he probably likes you a bit too much, which a) isn't fair on his girlfriend, and b) isn't fair on you as he's putting you in an awkward situation.

What would you do if it did turn out he liked you? (Which I think he probably does, in all honesty).

The thing is, we talk a lot for many reasons - common geeky interests and lots of uni work together, both quite antisocial, we kinda 'clicked' for the very first day we met. We spend a lot of time together, and it feels natural, but we both understand how other can see it as wrong.

I love my boyfriend, we've been together for quite a while, and we just developed this caring for one another rather than being actively interested in each other's everyday lives. What I feel for this friend of mine is completely different, I can't work out whether it's a good or bad thing yet. I do initiate at least half of conversations with my friend, but if we need our space, we easily tell each other about that. The thing is, we dont get tired of each other's company.

I really dont know what I would do if I knew my friend liked me.. I know for sure that I would sort everything out with my boyfriend first before doing anything else, I respect his feelings.

I have serious alarm bells going off in my head about all of those things you've just said. Be honest with yourself, do you want more with your friend? Because it's beginning to sound like it. I agree with the poster above - you need to sort your head out - you should not be thinking that if your friend declared his love for you you would have to consider your options, or think that you might fall for him in the future.

The pair of you need to respect each other's relationships and cut contact if the potential for feelings developing is there - that will only ever end in tears.

So you think you have feelings for him. Sounds like he has feelings for you. You need to discuss it with him, and maybe end it with your partner(s), there's clearly something missing or not quite right if you feel this way about someone else, and your boyfriend deserves to know this.

So you think you have feelings for him. Sounds like he has feelings for you. You need to discuss it with him, and maybe end it with your partner(s), there's clearly something missing or not quite right if you feel this way about someone else, and your boyfriend deserves to know this.

another poster asked me what would I do if he said he liked me, I just replied, I'm not really thinking about that at all. I'm more of a 'hey, this is a great weird friendship that might go to hell if I'm not careful' kind of girl.

I asked you. And you said that you weren't sure what you would do but would speak to your boyfriend before doing anything else - which suggests that you would have to consider things, it's not a knee-jerk reaction (which it would be for me if one of my male friends said they liked me). I'm not saying you're a bad person, I'm just saying that it's worth thinking about the real nature of your 'relationship', even if you might not want to - because there is the potential here for the pair of you to develop feelings and for people to get hurt, you acknowledged as much yourself.

that's the worst thing - I love my boyfriend, I'm happy with him, but in a different way. I will do my best to figure things out before anyone gets hurt.