I like to treat my men...

Today I was having a debate with a friend, She was saying it's weird for a girl to treat a man the way I do;

Whenever I have been in a relationship I like to do little things for the man I am dating. I wake up early and sneak out to the shop to cook special breakfasts for them, set up surprise evenings doing their favorite things, take them out for a walk at night to look at the stars away from the town's lights, make them gifts occasionally, send little messages every so often to try and brighten up their day - not ALL the time- that'd be weird, but regularly... however I have been told by my female friends that its not our "duty" as women to take that role.... surely it works both ways?

Personally, I have never had anyone treat me in the same way back, either they just accept it and say very little, or begin to take it for granted- but this is just what I do...

What are your opinions on this sort of thing? Is it ok for me to do this? Or would guys find it odd?

I do the same I love doing little things like that purely because I love seeing him happy

Yey I knew there were others out there Good for you!

my friends think it's strange too, I wouldn't worry

He really appreciates it too so it's worthwhile doing, as people on the thread have said it's rare but it's a good thing

That's good to know, nice to (virtually) meet you

He really appreciates it too so it's worthwhile doing, as people on the thread have said it's rare but it's a good thing

Completely agree: in my case it's getting fresh orange juice and the FT while he's in bed, but it's the little things

Today I was having a debate with a friend, She was saying it's weird for a girl to treat a man the way I do;

Whenever I have been in a relationship I like to do little things for the man I am dating. I wake up early and sneak out to the shop to cook special breakfasts for them, set up surprise evenings doing their favorite things, take them out for a walk at night to look at the stars away from the town's lights, make them gifts occasionally, send little messages every so often to try and brighten up their day - not ALL the time- that'd be weird, but regularly... however I have been told by my female friends that its not our "duty" as women to take that role.... surely it works both ways?

Personally, I have never had anyone treat me in the same way back, either they just accept it and say very little, or begin to take it for granted- but this is just what I do...

What are your opinions on this sort of thing? Is it ok for me to do this? Or would guys find it odd?

Well it varies but the most recent one was:

Drink: Pineapple, mango and orange juice
Side bits: Bowl of olives, feta, italian ham - Pancakes with syrup / nutella with raspberries
Main bit: Sausage, bacon, egg, tomatoes and mushrooms with a side of seasoned fried onions and spinach topped with goats cheese

(my parents are chefs.... so food is kind of how I like to express myself)

OP, look at the guys' replies, most of them "appreciate" what you do, yes, appreciate. They want to marry you and let you do these things for them everyday. Did anyone mention he would like to do the same for you? Clearly you are working hard to be a good maid...

OP, look at the guys' replies, most of them "appreciate" what you do, yes, appreciate. They want to marry you and let you do these things for them everyday. Did anyone mention he would like to do the same for you? Clearly you are working hard to be a good maid...

Today I was having a debate with a friend, She was saying it's weird for a girl to treat a man the way I do;

Whenever I have been in a relationship I like to do little things for the man I am dating. I wake up early and sneak out to the shop to cook special breakfasts for them, set up surprise evenings doing their favorite things, take them out for a walk at night to look at the stars away from the town's lights, make them gifts occasionally, send little messages every so often to try and brighten up their day - not ALL the time- that'd be weird, but regularly... however I have been told by my female friends that its not our "duty" as women to take that role.... surely it works both ways?

Personally, I have never had anyone treat me in the same way back, either they just accept it and say very little, or begin to take it for granted- but this is just what I do...

What are your opinions on this sort of thing? Is it ok for me to do this? Or would guys find it odd?

If I didn't know better I'd have said you were describing me. I agree with you totally.. That's what I do too. It's not odd or strange in the slightest!

My man works longs hours, often having to do overtime but not by choice. He works shifts and does unsociable hours. When he's not eating or sleeping he's generally working so he's alway tired.

I like to make his lunch for him as he doesn't often get time to eat, cook for him occasionally and do the odd breakfast when I can. I clean his place when he's been so busy he doesn't really get a chance to and iron his uniform too. I go out shopping for him as again he doesn't get a chance all that often.

I like to get him little gifts and presents that I think he'll enjoy or find funny and send him sweet texts and leave little messag
He does exactly the same for me. Little things that make me smile and know what he cares. He's so very thoughtful and considerate, surprises me with all sorts.*

I don't demand he does this. Nor does he expect it of me. We do it because we love each other and things like that make a relationship. I regularly try and do it. I enjoy doing it.

And I'll probably be contacting you in the future for recipe ideas now! Haha.

Once in a lifetime girlfriend
My gf is very much like you I consider myself extremely lucky and of course, I do similar stuff for her - it does need to be mutual in a relationship

glad you do things back Sounds a lovely relationship!