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Paying for sex... (help)

So, it's come to this. I guess it was inevitable really.

Failed at getting any signifcant sexual experiences at school or university. I did have a girlfriend once when I was 16, but I never really thought much about sex at that age so I never attempted to initiate anything (this is one of my biggest regrets, she was pretty hot), we only ever kissed. I turned another girl down, which was probably a mistake with hindsight.

I think there were a few girls that liked me through the years at University, but I am hopeless with flirting so I think they probably thought I wasn't interested and so nothing ever happened. As each new year began, I promised myself that this would be the year, but I had no idea how to attempt any form of intimacy with a girl, so I failed.

Plumbing new depths of desperation, I have tried online dating sites for the last month, but it's hopeless. A few girls will reply to my messages, but they always stop replying after a couple of messages. I've pretty much given up on it.

So, there is the anatomy of a 23 year old virgin. Now that I've graduated from university, I don't have any social opportunities to meet new people.

I want to 'call time' on my virginity, already much overdue. I don't want to become a 24 year old virgin. I'm sick of everyone else around me having sex, and me being the one of the few that aren't.

I've been looking at escorts online and found some very nice looking girls in my area. I'm extremely tempted to go ahead with it, because I don't see any other opportunities on the horizon. What do I do?

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Reply 1

RollingDylan

No shame in paying for sex :biggrin:

Do it if you feel like it, might even help you socialize better, practice your talking on these girls, even if they don't care. Just don't catch any diseases.

Reply 2

MarinaAlex

Do you really want to remember your first time with an escort? :frown:

maybe it's best to just wait, not in a cliche way but I'm sure that you would much rather look back on it if it was with a girlfriend or someone you knew, not because you were desperate to have sex with just anyone for the fact of having sex :smile:

Reply 3

Daniel George

I would never pay for sex, I would rather wait for that special lady :biggrin:

EDIT: clearly those who have negged me have paid for sex or are desperate little virgins...

(edited 11 years ago)

Reply 4

LeeForShort

I don't think there's a need to pay for it and if anything there are girls that would sex you without it. Try hitting the clubs and have one night stands. Just joking. I believe that you need to believe in yourself and come to terms with who you are as a person and how you portray yourself to these girls

Reply 5

cyfer

Lol. Sex won't solve your insecurity.

Reply 6

catherinealice

Who cares what other people are doing? Imagine the number of men an escort would have ****ed *vomits* You should wait until you find the right girl for you and then it will be a lot more special. Anyway, wouldn't it be awkward when people ask who you lost your virginity to? At the end of the day, it is your decision - but I absolutely wouldn't!

(edited 11 years ago)

Reply 7

Perseveranze

Well ain't that sad.

Society making people feel embarrassed of being a virgin that they'd be desperate enough to have to pay someone to lose it.

Reply 8

Canthinkofaname

Dont lose your dignity.

Reply 9

Blair Waldorf

Go for it! Do what feels right and don't think about the people judging you in this thread.

Reply 10

KatieO

Original post by inmyhead

Trust me, a girl would rather sleep with a 24 year old virgin then sleep with a 24 year old who lost his virginity to someone who paid for an escort. Seriously good things come to those that wait. Don't sweat it and be patient.

Reply 11

username402722

Original post by Perseveranze

Well ain't that sad.

Society making people feel embarrassed of being a virgin that they'd be desperate enough to have to pay someone to lose it.

I agree. You should not be ashamed of being a virgin, and there are probably more men of your age similarly not that they will admit it.

Reply 12

Guills on wheels

This was something that sweaty 12 year old boys dreamed of, thinking it was cool.

Don't. I would wait.

Reply 13

Midlander

You would regret it immediately afterwards.

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Reply 14

inmyhead

Original post by catherinealice

Imagine the number of men an escort would have f*cked *vomits*

This does bother me a little bit, and is probably the only reason I haven't just gone ahead and done it.

Reply 15

Meat is Murder

If it is becoming an issue and affecting your self-esteem then just do it. It is not worth living feeling inadequate all the time and always thinking about something. If it will make you feel better then go for it.

Reply 16

inmyhead

Original post by barnetlad

I agree. You should not be ashamed of being a virgin, and there are probably more men of your age similarly not that they will admit it.

It's not about being ashamed, it's about wanting sex. Self valdiation and animalistic needs.

Reply 17

STOmelody

If you want to do it, I don't see why as it's a taboo you should feel that you can't.

Reply 18

zedaa

Original post by cyfer

Lol. Sex won't solve your insecurity.

^Precisely.

Just think about how you would remember your first time in the future. Do you want to think back about how you waited for that someone special or how you just couldn't wait and went to go pay a prostitute to get it over and done with..?

it's your choice tbh.

Reply 19

Blair Waldorf

Original post by Perseveranze

Well ain't that sad.

Society making people feel embarrassed of being a virgin that they'd be desperate enough to have to pay someone to lose it.