Feel like I make all the effort...

I had this exact same problem. Back off, let her do some chasing, I know it's hard, but you need to try. If she doesn't make the effort, it might be time to move on. I had to :'(

She probably takes for granted that you'll initiate everything. So follow your friends advice, that way it should become clearer if she really cares about you but just waits for your texts etc first now because she expects it, or she may just not be as keen as you are, in which case you'll have to decide on what to do next!

I'm sorry to hear that.

BUUUT...

She could have bad experience in the past where she was the only one doing any of the work for the relationship. I think you should talk to her about it, she could just be trying to appeare to be not needy.

If you talk to her, you can see why, and you may have to let the relationship go, or you could save it and make it stronger.

Perhaps her first one didnt treat her right and she may expect the same again? You should reassure her?Maybe she's not been with a proper partner before so she's more like the follower? I know i am and my boyfriend does make most decisions which i know is bad but talking bout it really helped and im starting to come up with things to do too. Although in my case it was because I've always been told what to do by family and not had much freedom at all, it might be the same case? But the fact she doesnt text you first is showing there is something definitely wrong and you both deffo need to talk about it, just make sure you are talking not shouting or in a bad tone! Send alot of kisses or whatever if over text so she's assured you're not mad at her and so it wont really lead to an argument or a break up.

Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Don't ignore her.

Is she the shy or reserved type of girl?

Yeah she really is. Its hard to talk to her about stuff like this...

In that case you probably just need to make her feel more at ease. Try spending more time with her, hopefully she'll begin to feel comfortable enough to trust and open up to you.

Maybe you need to be more firm with her. Tell her how she is making you feel and that she needs to put a bit more effort in if she wants the relationship to work. She needs to stop taking you for granted. If she's not prepared to do that, you have to consider whether or not you have a future with her.

Yeah I do really want to tell her how it makes me feel. As I do really like her but this behaviour is making me confused and putting me off. But how do I even get the conversation started. With her being the shy reserved type, whenever I try she dismisses it and doesnt like talking about feelings...

Obviously I want to make it work but guess I need co operation.

It would bother me so much if I felt like I was making all the effort.

Hmm, my advice? Well you're gonna have a fight over it, no avoiding that. Just be like, hey, I'm feeling a bit upset. She'll ask why and you'll talk about it

Its starting to bother me a lot.
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Start out by telling her to listen and not be dismissive of your feelings because they are real and her behaviour is causing it.

I may have too. But last time I told her my feelings she just looked at my blankly and didnt say anything, which annoys me just as much.