Promiscuity: Give it up or play along

I'm a 19 year old fresher who is naturally very outgoing and flirty. Since coming to university I've noticed I get hit on a lot and I flirt back. It never usually results to anything but some nights it does. This doesn't happen often (4 in total) and to me it's just a bit of fun. All the guys I do know pretty well and it's never awkward afterwards. I still talk to them on a daily basis. I only ever feel guilty afterwards when I know people are talking and gossiping about it (more anxious and paranoid) but I forget about it quickly.

I'm not looking for a serious relationship or anything but how do most people think this might affect any long term relationship I might get into later in life? Thoughts/opinions or am I just being too paranoid?

I know that when I do find someone i'd settle with that I would definitely stop but for now I enjoy the single life

Does this lifestyle need to come to an end? If not when is a good time to give it up? Does anyone else feel the same way ?


Many thanks

ps- I know i'll get negs and called every S word under the sun but I'd really appreciate it if you didn't. I'm really not and I'm actually quite sensible when it comes to it.

Uni life is what you want it to be, you'll never get these 3-4 years again, and if you enjoy the single life, so be it - have a blast. Some people want to do the whole relationship gig - like I do, I want to continue dating the girl I have been, but it may or may not be feasible long distance. As long as you're having fun, who cares really.

And your're not an s or whatever.

And it won't affect you for anything serious later on, trust me. When the right guy comes along, you'll obviously know if you want to date him or not, and if you do, the single life automatically stops. Till that time comes though, enjoy your life at Uni, do what makes you happy, forget what other people think. Most of them making derogatory comments are probably going to be jealous anyway.

Safe, consensual sex between adults is not wrong or something you need to feel ashamed about. It's your life; yes, there are people who will judge you for it, but it's really none of their business. The same thing really applies to any future partners - as long as you don't have any STIs, you don't have any obligation to disclose your full sexual history if you don't want to.

As for if/when you should 'give up' having casual sex, the answer is that you should do what feels right for you. You may well get into a relationship soon and decide that you want to stop then, but I'm sure there are plenty of people who don't settle down until much later, if at all.

It's your life end of the day. You do what you think is right for you as its a decision you should be making with yourself, not TSR.

Another question: To those so against casual relationships and such, can I just get your answers as to why?

Just something i've always wanted to know

I think sex should be an intimate expression of affection, not some cheap natural high. Promiscuity devalues a precious spiritual experience, for me.

Jealousy.

Don't worry about what other people think.

I'm a 19 year old fresher who is naturally very outgoing and flirty. Since coming to university I've noticed I get hit on a lot and I flirt back. It never usually results to anything but some nights it does. This doesn't happen often (4 in total) and to me it's just a bit of fun. All the guys I do know pretty well and it's never awkward afterwards. I still talk to them on a daily basis. I only ever feel guilty afterwards when I know people are talking and gossiping about it (more anxious and paranoid) but I forget about it quickly.

I'm not looking for a serious relationship or anything but how do most people think this might affect any long term relationship I might get into later in life? Thoughts/opinions or am I just being too paranoid?

I know that when I do find someone i'd settle with that I would definitely stop but for now I enjoy the single life

Does this lifestyle need to come to an end? If not when is a good time to give it up? Does anyone else feel the same way ?


Many thanks

ps- I know i'll get negs and called every S word under the sun but I'd really appreciate it if you didn't. I'm really not and I'm actually quite sensible when it comes to it.

It's never really been like that for me. Do you think this is because I just haven't met the right person yet or ever been in love?

Thanks, I don't usually but it sometimes worries me how i've never felt so spiritually about sex ?

1. ignore all the guys that will inevitably say 'you're a slag no-one will date you'
2. You'll be fine, if a guy likes you enough it wont bother him, in a way you just filter out the douchebags that actually give a **** about that sort of thing
3. Although it will be offputting if a guy likes you and you keep getting with and going home with other guys in front of him, that **** is pretty crushing.

It is probably because you are logical not emotional about it, which is a perfectly fine way to be.

Its a different feeling ofcourse when you're in a relationship and really care for someone, but the flings and casual relationships are their own thing.

Spirituality pertaining to sex is more mythical than anything else in the modern age to be honest.

You'll be bored of it by end of first year, just carry on.

silly question but how so? Could you elaborate on this point please




Let's hope so

I know this , i've been fully informed but how are we ever to know if a guy (say in your big social group of friends) likes you if they don't say anything? In that case i've kind of messed it up already :/

but won't this be problematic when I do eventually end up in a relationship ?

1. ignore all the guys that will inevitably say 'you're a slag no-one will date you'
2. You'll be fine, if a guy likes you enough it wont bother him, in a way you just filter out the douchebags that actually give a **** about that sort of thing
3. Although it will be offputting if a guy likes you and you keep getting with and going home with other guys in front of him, that **** is pretty crushing.

just make sure you dont get hurt op, espcially seeing as ur having sex with guys you talk to regularly

but my problem is i get attached way too easily and then end up getting hurt